For followers of the swimsuit stealing MIL...

[fairy1303]

I have worked so hard to get things back on track - to be pleasant but firm.
Things have got better. She has been here a couple of times as a guest only and has not been upstairs.

She invited herself to slimming world.
She has been told by doc to slim as she is borderline diabetic.

We got there - she was incensed that the leader could not put her in touch with a diabetic expert. Literally fuming.
Leader offered to put her in touch with another member following SW diabetics plan.

MIL fuming, been told bad advice etc etc.
I said 'if you can't follow this diet, there is no point you paying, it would be a waste of your money' MIL stews some more.

'No, I don't think i will follow it'

I had to speak to the leader anyway so I told MIL not to worry, I'll have a quick word with Leader and explain that plan is not for MIl.

We leave.

MIL tells me that nobody is fucking taking her fucking seriously and this is a massive life change - I say that I understand how serious it is and am trying to be supportive but no point paying for sw if she can't follow it (doc Han told her to avoid carbs, not eat too much fruit, etc).

I tell her there's no need to get upset, it's not an issue, we will find another way, and anyway, she is doing well on own.

To this I get told I'm an interfering bitch, why do I have to always get involved?!

I tell her to calm down.

I get told she 'always puts up with my moods (being told not to steal my children's clothes), bites her tongue, I'm a rude bitch and a horrible horrible person.' She then kicks me out of her car and tries to drive off with the baby in it. I have to chase after car (massive scene outside sainsburys) and get baby and stuff out.

I was so upset I was nearly sick.

I've just walked the hour home in the rain.

I don't know what to do. DH wants to speak to her but I don't want to exacerbate the situation but honestly I don't even want to see her again - big rows and scenes like that are just not me.

So WIBU to cut her out now for good and just let DH take children round to see her?

[fairy1303]

I'm not going to tell her what day it is! naughty

[clam]

[Kundry]

Excellent - was worried she'd take over new swimming but I see you have it covered!

[Dubjackeen]

Well done OP, you are so dignified in the face of extreme provocation. Please accept these ... Sorry, couldn't resist. Seriously, you are playing a blinder, hopefully she will back off a bit.

[BergholtStuttleyJohnson]

She sounds like my mother, I had an awful childhood. I feel for your dh. He needs to realise how completely abnormal and toxic mil is before he can cut her off. I cut off my mother and it's the best thing I ever did! The stress has gone and the feeling of freedom is amazing. She's like a fucking dementor. Sucks all the joy out of everything.

[Hissy]

I think it's time to actually say, thanks MIL, but I'll take it from here. Enough is enough. You have had your turn at being a parent and running a family, now it's my turn to be the matriarch in mine.

[timidviper]

Good luck fairy. You have won this battle now you just need to hold firm to win the war!

[rumbleinthrjungle]

Huge round of applause Fairy! Difficult situation excellently handled, I admire how you've done it.

[bootsycollins]

Well done fairy, well handled. Update us when dh has had his talk with her won't you?