AIBU to think this was worst dinner guest ever

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DP's friend C came round last night for dinner, with his new girlfriend, F. We have only met her briefly, in the pub.

We invited them over last night, I did a slow-cooked pork and apple thing, with blackberry tart and whipped cream for dessert.

Initially I'd done the whole 'we're having this for dinner, hope that's OK' and C had gone 'ooh lovely', no objections from F.

When I served dinner, she just sort of looked at her plate and said 'actually, I'm a bit fussy. I'll have a bit of the sauce though, and a slice of bread to dip in'.

Cue apologies from me, are you sure that's all you'll eat etc. She maintained it was fine, she'd just have a bit of bread. I was pissed off, but whatever.

I brought her the bread and continued my own dinner. Two minutes later, F asks if there is any butter as she now doesn't want to dip the bread in sauce, she just wants bread and butter.

I go and get her the butter. She eats bread and butter.

Long story short (C looking embarrassed, DP shocked, me fuming) when dessert comes out, she seems pleased and asks what kind of tart it is. i say blackberry. She says she's sorry, but she doesn't eat anything picked from the wild.

I ask her does can I get her anything else, she ends up eating mini jammie dodgers from the biscuit barrel. They leave soon after.

I am still not over the shock and have told DP she's never coming round for dinner again- or if she does, I'm not counting her in

I always find that judgemental idiots are tedious, immature and attention seeking and not worth the hassle. I also suspect they are shit in bed.

She sounds a total nightmare. But I was brought up ti eat what is put in front of you when a guest. I remember with horror fondly the time I was fed rabbit on a school exchange. I was a veggie but didn't want to say, as I didn't want to be a pain. Besides, trying to get a French person to understand vegetarianism in 1990 would be like getting Vicky Pollard to pass a degree in quantum physics.

I've told this before on MN, but we had a guest once who 'hates' vegetables and he ate my cauliflower cheese by sucking the cheese off the cauli and removing the cauli from his mouth and putting it back on the plate.

He also hovered over me while I cooked spagetti bolognese and commented 'Mummy doesn't cook it like that'.

He is 50.

wellies that cauliflower story is amusing and revolting in equal measure.

Having someone stand over you in that way while you're cooking would be extremely irritating.
We have a friend whose boyfriend was so ridiculously fussy at a meal out (on both occasions) that it had to be just about being difficult and controlling. He was very rude. We had to just laught tbh.
But as a rule, I don't feel annoyed at "fussy" eaters. It can't be helped, we're all different. I try to always eat what I'm given as a guest and be accommodating as a host. But I couldn't eat .... I don't know,.... A plate of raw egg white. It sounds extreme but if a person has issues with food/ phobias or whatever, they might well feel the same way about beef Wellington as I do about slimy albumen.

I have little patience for picky eaters who make a big fuss about it. Fine if you dont like something then dont eat it but why the unnecessary drama.
Went to conference once in London was really looking forward to the all expense paid evening meal. (was skint at the time so was a treat to eat out)

We walked up and down roads in London past loads of wonderful sounding restraunts for over an hour while my colleague declared she didnt eat this or that. We ended up in some greasy spoon where she ordered sausage and chips and didnt eat either because ' the sausages didnt taste like her usual ones and the chips werent like mccains'. I could have cried.

I'm not sure she made a fuss though. Just asked for a bit of bread and butter.
Was she young and pretty?
Was his previous girlfriend great?

meddie yes. Your colleague was a pain IMHO. I would class that as difficult and controlling.

Love Mumsnet...jawdropping reading every day!Wish you were in my family Expatinscotland. No room for misunderstandings and so humorous with it.

meddie why the fark did you go along with that

I think if you are that fussy, you shouldn't eat out with other people.

I know. I was just being too nice. Didnt want to force someone to eat things they didnt like. In the end I was just so bloody hungry I agreed to the cafe she finally said yes to in sheer desperation.
I should have just gone off on my own and enjoyed a lovely meal, but felt obliged to stay with her as she had never been to London before.

DD had a friend like that. Grandma told me she wasnt a problem eating, but came round turn her nose up at everything, the carrots were the wrong shape etc and everytime she came round she wouldnt eat anything. Unfortunately she didnt get better as she got to being a teenager.
We had a joint party for then DS 15 and DD 13. Milk Chocolate buttercream cake for DS and White chocolate buttercream for DD. She looked at DS cake and told me that she didnt like buttercream, so i didnt offer her either cake. Later DD came to me and said that K hadnt had any cake. Apparently she liked white chocolate buttercream
This was after having a screaming fit in the middle of the lake (raft party) and nearly got the party cancelled because the organiser thought she was genuinely scared. She only got one foot wet whereas everyone else was soaked from head to toe, they had to tidy up cold and wet, while she didnt help. I lost sympathy for her a years ago, she is just an attention seeker.

Is there any left? Feel free to send a doggie bag over my way!

your menu sounds delicious.

how did you not pour the sauce over her head!!!

what a massive attention seeking rude madam. but your post did make me laugh.

Prize fo best x post to friday16 and soupdragon!

Oh hang on it wasnt. Ignore me.

Lol SPB

You even asked t

Sorry, posted to soon! You'd even checked if the meal you were planning on cooking was ok!

ll31 My post was a bit tangential to the original anyway! I am always prepared to be proven wrong but IMO giving sweet drinks to a young baby is bound to jade their palate.

Meddie I feel your pain. I always research the local restaurants when I travel on business so I can get the best meal that my expenses will cover. Had a river cruise Swedish smorgasbord once.

I invited MIL and FIL over for dinner at 7.

Just before 8, FiL, SIL and DH's gran turned up; Mil is not in the mood. As DH dashes off to the shed for a spare chair (tiny house and 4 chair table then), DH's gran looks at my pans of food and announces 'No I don't fancy that'. I'm already fuming at the lateness, so I don't say anything, just plonk a cup of tea in front of her. I put the plates in front of FIL and SIL, FIL moved it to the side saying nothing and SIL said 'Yeah, we've eaten already thanks'. SIL then sits there staring at her phone and FIL asks to put the TV on.

That was 4 years ago in July. Haven't been invited since. Rude rude rude!

Everyone is entitled to their preferences, but the attention seeking behaviour is just unpleasant and tedious.

I can assure you no one is thinking how "interesting" and "different" you are and no one cares about your restrictive food habits.

Eat what you can/want to during the meal and shut the fuck up about it; don't annoy the host and ruin the experience for everyone else.

Alternatively, if you can't behave in polite company don't socialise at dinner parties.

It's not the fussiness but the fuss that annoys. Sausage and chips lady could have said "oh look I'll just sort myself out because I'm a bit fussy, see you back at the hotel/in the morning". But no, she created an hour's performance that pleased nobody including herself.