'veggies don't eat fish' friend fall out

[mrsfuzzy]

i'm a veggie i eat dairy produce, but no fish and meat nor have i done since i was a young child, i met a new friend three months ago and she asked about becoming a veggie which she was proud to tell everyone about but she still eats fish, i said that veggies didn't eat fish and that shell fish etc are 'banned' by the veggie society. i like her but she's got a bee in her bonnet and refuses to speak to me, we didn't argue about it about it at the time, i don't understand.

SunshineMum your son is lucky to have you. My DS (also autistic) has an extremely restricted diet so the people I piss off (vegetarians and meat-eaters) can take comfort in the fact that I worry about him and get judged by strangers for his food issues.

Or as my Mother says, he's my punishment for having been a fussy eater and bad sleeper myself. She is lovely like that.

I wouldn't care if a friend who ate fish cared to call herself vegetarian.

OP so adamant about having to correct her new friend sounds just as bad as the new friend taking a huff about it. I think maybe they deserve each other.

*I was vegetarian for 16 yrs, btw, still don't care what foodisian type a person calls self.

Ouch, Sunshine that doesn't sound easy

Pescatarian is becoming more widely known. If someone doesn't know what it means then they ask and then they know and all of a sudden it isn't such a strange/fancy word anymore :)

Anais I hope you don't mind me saying so, but it seems quite clear that your mother doesn't know what she's talking about, and never did. If she was responsible for the stuff you've told us about, she's an abusive nitwit.

She has about as much authority to talk about healthy eating as Bernard Matthews, or a bloke dressed up as a giant turkey twizzler!

"Are there words to identify peope who eat no meat but fish as opposed to people who eat no meat and no fish?"

Vegetarian - no meat, no fish
Pescatarian - no meat but eats fish :)

You can always clarify that you don't eat all fish in the same way as someone says ' I don't eat lamb' eve though they eat other meat.

Bumble teapot antimatter tree.

I think that veggie means different things to different people

Err - is there any reason we can't use the dictionary definition as we do for other words? That's pretty much why we have so many words, so we all know what each other is talking about??

Did you see the thread in chat about the OED?

Literally now means figuratively

AnaisHendricks

Is that to me or the link? It made me spit as well.

If the former, I've never racked up so many angry faces in one post and is something of a record!

Oops! It's the latter, promise

The rage from the link overtook, sorry! No new angry face record.

is this really something to argue about? bloody hell, eat fish, don't eat fish, so??

I thought my mother had found me on Mumsnet for a second!

If there has to be a neat phrase to sum up what goes down my gullet (and I'm not sure why there does), I just say "I'm semi-vegetarian; I sometimes eat fish." Since the age of 13 I had been completely vegetarian (as per the Vegetarian Society definition which allows even the sub-group of lacto-ovo-vegetarians to be allowed in under the banner of 'vegetarian'!) My downfall was a sudden craving for fish fingers when expecting my 3rd child! Though not many people care that much, tbh.

That would be nice, and lucky you that people don't care too much. I was told in RL that because DH managed to persuade me to try a tiny bite of chicken breast once (in over forty years) in order to get me over my phobia that I had no right to use the word non-meat eater in connection with myself.

This was from someone who had been a vegetarian for about a year. I suppose there is something about converts. Recently given-up smokers are notorious for it, but even they would agree than one puff of a fag in decades doesn't make someone a smoker

Hope you enjoyed your fish-fingers

Oh, and I have also been given fish (when I was a 'proper' vegetarian) and, on one occasion, chicken to eat when having meals with friends. I wasn't allergic to either, so I wouldn't have dreamed of embarrassing the hosts by declining their food.

I did, thanks, Anais and still am! Hadn't seen your reply when I did my 2nd post, so hope it didn't sound like I thought you oughtn't to be refusing food - a phobia is hugely difficult to live with. You were brave to try the chicken. It's just that I would rather set my sensibilities to one side, for one meal, not being allergic to, or phobic about food, rather than upset the host. Others seem to be far more zealous, like you say!

I think you were right and would have done the same if it was possible for me. I find life difficult enough without drawing attention to myself any further, as I said up-thread, as a child one of my three genie wishes was the ability to eat anything still is

"I think that veggie means different things to different people

hmm

Err - is there any reason we can't use the dictionary definition as we do for other words? That's pretty much why we have so many words, so we all know what each other is talking about??"

I was actually being polite - I personally don't think that non meat eaters who eat fish are veggie - but actually why the fxxx would care what othe people eat. Why would you care also?