to send my address first?

[MrsPeeWee]

Long story short.
We bought a 10 week old kitten 2 weeks ago. We didn't feel she was settling in to our family so for that reason (and many others) we decided to take her back to the people we bought her from, just as they had told us too, because if she didn't settle, they'd prefer to take her back.

We took her back yesterday as well as all her food, scratch posts, etc. The lady didn't give us our money back for the kitten. She shouted over to DH as he was walking back to the car that she would pop me a message to get our address and details and post the money through my letterbox today. She hasn't messaged me at all.

AIBU to text her my address, so she knows I would like my money back?
AIBU to even expect her to give us our money back? I'm unsure on what is the right thing to do.

Thanks.

[MrsPeeWee]

She text me saying she will refund us on Thurs. I didn't text her first, just got a random text.

She also informed us that kitty already has a new home.

[StuntGirl]

I hope the new owners did their research better than you.

Perhaps pets are just not meant for you in future OP.

[ChairmanMeoww]

OP, people like you should not be allowed pets. Do the animal kingdom a favour and don't take on any more in the future. Absolutely appalling.

[MrsPeeWee]

Thank you Chairman

[whois]

Come on, it's not absolutely appalling!

It's a kitten. It didn't settle. OP took it back to the breeder. It's been homed with someone else.

Kitten isn't hurt. Kitten isn't dead.

OP made a small mistake that is all, chill people.

[Famzilla]

I had a 1/2 feral 'born in a barn' kitten/cat once. I loved her to pieces but she would turn from cuddly kitty to clawyourfuckingfaceoff kitty in about 0.00006 seconds.

I didn't have any kids so she stayed and we loved each other from a distance for many years. But if I did have kids, I would have done exactly what the OP did. Give her a break, imagine if there was a thread with the title "AIBU to keep my kitten even though he has put my baby nephew in hospital and my 5yo is terrified of it?". Or if it was a dog?

[DidoTheDodo]

Small children and new kittens rarely get on together. In my experience anyway.

[TallulahBetty]

OP if you'd just explained the problems sooner, people probably would have had more sympathy. Of course your DS and DN come first. FWIW you've done the right thing for your family and the kitten.

[chillykitty]

If she said that kitten was difficult i wouldnt hv taken it on
Glad u r getting a refund and kitty has a new home

[DropYourSword]

Yep, poor kitty.

[MrsPeeWee]

I do apologise. I thought I'd have fire thrown at me for explaining why we ultimately decided to take her back. It appears I did anyway.

[picnicbasketcase]

Chalk it up to experience and don't beat yourself up about it. The kitten is safe and well and has found a new home, and you're getting the money back. Happy ending all round.

[LessMissAbs]

If the breeder was that irresponsible, they wouldn't have taken the kitten back, refund or not refund.

After 9 days, kitty is back with her mommy cat - I can't quite see the trauma in that?

There is a lot of trauma involved in separating a very young animal from its mother and home environment, then moving it again after a short period. Kittens do tend to be difficult...especially around children.

Clearly none of this has sunk in. I am astonished you are getting your money back and I hope this doesn't encourage you to buy another pet. Maybe best to stick to non-live things for your purchases in future.

[Mojavewonderer]

I think you are very unreasonable to expect to get the money the money back! It also sickens me that you blamed lack of funds for not being able to just cut your loses, if you are so skint then why the hell get a kitten in the first place! You do know to get a cat neutered or spayed can cost cost around £100 - £150! Not to mention the flea and worming treatment the cat will need every 4 weeks. I would have hoped you would get the cat vaccinated too which is another big cost. Vets fees are very expensive too especially if your too skint to get the cat insured!
I get so frustrated with things like this because if you had gone through a rescue centre and so did everyone else then there wouldn't be all these back street breeders up for making a quick buck! Grrrr!

[JerseySpud]

Write the money off. if you were that short you shouldn't have got the kitten in the first place.

[Mojavewonderer]

I also blame the breeder for selling someone inexperienced a kitten who they already knew was 'difficult!' Obviously no one gave a crap about the animals welfare.
Op I hope you get your money back but perhaps don't rush out and buy another kitten.

[MrsPeeWee]

I am sure a lot of you have misunderstood? I didn't give up kitty because I was short of money/skint and needed the money back. I also know exactly how much it costs to look after her, vet bills etc - However, I was just making it clear that we had spent a lot of money taking her on this month, (mainly because we was hit with another huge unexpected bill this month, which was a bit of a wake up call, but either way, plans were already in place to collect her this month) which is why I wasn't sure whether I'd be unreasonable or not to pop her my address since she had said she would refund us. We wasn't expecting it. We didn't take her back and think We'd better get a refund It wasn't an issue.

I don't think I am going to get any more from this thread. Situation is resolved. We've certainly learned our lesson.

Thank you all.

[DropYourSword]

I don't think anyone thought you gave the cat back because you needed a refund because you were short of money!?

[IcedTeaOneSugar]

A bit more info up front would have helped.

[MrsPeeWee]

Maybe Iced, but I didn't believe it had and relevance. I still don't.

The Q on my OP was pretty black and white. I didn't want to go in to details. I was hoping that'd be respected? Clearly I was wrong in thinking that on AIBU. I know for next time.

[IcedTeaOneSugar]

Refusing to answer questions and drip feeding is never a good strategy.

[McNewPants2013]

In all fairness its the breeder's fault.

He/she Knew the kitten wasn't ready for homing and even told the OP if the kitten didn't settle to bring the kitten back. Which the op has done.

[Refoca]

Refusing to answer questions and drip feeding is never a good strategy.

Made for much more entertaining reading though

[Morloth]

Breeder definitely a numpty giving a 'difficult' kitten to a new pet owner.

I repeat though all cats a difficult especially kittens who are very young.

[chillykitty]

That is aibu for you