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To think people don't seem to recognise the difference between evening wear and wedding clothes any more ?

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BetsyBidwell · 22/09/2013 08:24

(Disclaimer yes it doesn't matter compared to Syria , I do get out a lot, yes the bride and groom were lovely , etc etc)

Day wedding yesterday. Just too much tit. Too much bare top halves. Shiny cocktail dresses in a country church.

Just too much.

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BlueStones · 22/09/2013 14:01

Me and sister were and a bit that girls these days always feel they have to look sexy and "up for it" regardless of the event or venue.

So true, Wilkos. When I was a lecturer I used to feel the same when a 9 am Monday lecture, in February, was full of women in hot pants and stilettos. They must have been FREEZING. The blokes were wearing hats and jumpers.

Anyway, back to weddings!

YoureAllABunchOfBastards · 22/09/2013 14:11

At DS2's christening he was one of three being 'done'. His godmother look one look at the party dressed in short, tight dresses, stilettos and fascinators and observed 'I didn't know we were going clubbing, I thought this was a church'.

At a funeral this week and amazed at how many people can't rustle up a bit of black. Or that someone thought black jeans and a designer hoodie was the answer.

InsertBoringName · 22/09/2013 14:25

misdee What about a Hell Bunny dress? I wore that one to a wedding last week and got loads of lovely compliments. Admittedly I'm a size 12 but I do have big boobs and I know they look fab in a plus size!

Although just realised I made a gaff by not covering my shoulders in church! My mother was with me, her fault she should have told me them's the rules!

LtEveDallas · 22/09/2013 14:58

Catgirl, I've got one nice bodycon dress (AX Paris again) with a peplum thing going on that I think looks lovely, and I've had lots of compliments in it. Can't wear it to the wedding because its the same colour as the bridesmaids sadly. The 'madmen' look was what I was after when i bought it, and i think it works. I usually go for more flowing dresses, like my second one.

I agree with nancy about the well fitting slip. I bought one from M&S to go under my peplum dress and the difference was amazing. Even though I wear well fitted underwear, a slip over the top smooths over the lines/bumps and makes a big difference.

catgirl1976 · 22/09/2013 15:09

Oooh I might give bodycon a go then (with a bump smoothing slip)

LtEveDallas · 22/09/2013 15:13

Ohh, I've just found a picture of that scuba dress on a bigger girl, looks nice (but her boobs are smaller I think) item.mobileweb.ebay.co.uk/viewitem?itemId=330948221785

catgirl1976 · 22/09/2013 15:17

It does look nice...I like the style of that

ICameOnTheJitney · 22/09/2013 15:22

It does not look nice...it accentuates her tummy terribly.

CiderBomb · 22/09/2013 15:24

A few months ago the son of a family friend was getting married in a local church, so I decided to wait outside to see them emerging as man and wife.

Anyway they all came out and looked lovely, and then a girl, who was to put it quite bluntly fat, came teetering out on the most ridiculous black patent platform shoes I've ever seen. She was wearing a flimsy floral "thing" that was very short and barely covered her thighs let alone her bum. To add insult to injury as she had her back to me a gust of wind came blowing around the church yard, went under the back of her dress, blew it almost over her head and I got eyeful of her bare arse (she was wearing no knickers), and her badly applied fake tan that seemed to stop just under each arse cheek.

I'm not religious but I couldn't belive someone had actually entered a church looking like that!

TheWomanTheyCallJayne · 22/09/2013 15:27

I don't think it's very flattering either. The curve of the pattern accentuates the curve of her tummy

misdee · 22/09/2013 15:31

Insertboringname that is lovely

FrankelInFoal · 22/09/2013 15:37

I find LK Bennett is a good option for trendy but wedding-suitable day dresses.

TheWomanTheyCallJayne · 22/09/2013 15:39

That's a perfect example of people being on differing budgets.

SPsTwerkingNineToFive · 22/09/2013 15:42

Those dresses cost more than my rent!

I have £60 for a dress and accessories. Depending on how much I spend I might be able to get nails done.

I will shop at high street stores which is why so much of the same thing. Quiz is the shop I've seen some lovely stuff in

Tavv · 22/09/2013 15:42

YANBU

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BetsyBidwell · 22/09/2013 15:43

There were loads of dresses like that scuba one. STRAINING

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FrankelInFoal · 22/09/2013 15:47

Sorry Blush I wasn't referring to the £200+ dresses, more the styles on offer. The LK Bennett dresses I've bought have usually been in the sale or from their EBay outlet store!

FeckOffCup · 22/09/2013 15:48

YANBU I was Shock when a young relative of my friend turned up to friend's DD's christening in a white almost see through arse length dress with a black bra clearly visible through it. Seemed very inappropriate for a church or anywhere else.

snice · 22/09/2013 15:53

dorothy perkins £25

snice · 22/09/2013 15:56

there are loads on DP

TheWomanTheyCallJayne · 22/09/2013 16:00

I think this is quite pretty. Would need a wrap or something but affordable at that price.

DuckToWater · 22/09/2013 16:32

At all the weddings I've been to I thought it was lovely to see people looking so smart.

I think people should wear what THEY feel comfortable in, and can afford. Most people can't afford new clothes for a wedding at the moment. I don't really see why anyone should care that much about what others wear, or need to start a thread on it.

Oh and I spent years getting confident enough to show my legs after being called thunderthighs at school. I spent a couple of years dieting and exercising obsessively and went down to a stone underweight, and guess what, I still had muscly legs. The only way I wouldn't have sturdy legs is to have some kind of muscle-wasting disorder, and fortunately I didn't go that far. I started to actually like my legs after Beyonce became popular and then Serena Williams in tennis, and actually when I do show them I often get compliments.

That's not to say I'd wear something arse-skimming with massive stilettos for a wedding. It's not my style, and I can't bear heels more than about 3" for more than a few minutes at a time, and I'm tall anyway so don't need them. My mum might have in the 1960s though - she used to have knickers to match her skirt, just in case. But if other people want to that's their choice. I might be guilty of wearing a short skirt with sturdy legs though, and things that are non-traditional for a wedding, like cream and black.

I'm afraid this thread reads largely like a) the tyranny of the thin (even if contributors aren't themselves thin) and b) rather Hyacinth Bouquet in tone.

LtEveDallas · 22/09/2013 16:32

Oh I love that green dress Jayne. I normally go for sleeves, but that one is nice.

I hadn't noticed that about her belly on the scuba dress Blush. I actually thought it made her look more hourglass. I wonder what it looks like side on? Probably not good.

Think I'm going to stick to my floaty dresses, just fancied a change for once. Mind you, at a size 14 it's not like I'm going to persuade anyone I'm thin is it Grin

BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability · 22/09/2013 16:39

I'm tempted to get that green dress even without a wedding to go to! Grin

SparkyTGD · 22/09/2013 16:43

YANBU

I was at wedding in the summer & googled 'wedding guest dress etiquette' beforehand (saddo Grin) and its definitely bad form for female guests to display too much flesh.