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Original poster

To think people don't seem to recognise the difference between evening wear and wedding clothes any more ?

246 replies

BetsyBidwell · 22/09/2013 08:24

(Disclaimer yes it doesn't matter compared to Syria , I do get out a lot, yes the bride and groom were lovely , etc etc)

Day wedding yesterday. Just too much tit. Too much bare top halves. Shiny cocktail dresses in a country church.

Just too much.

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mylittlesunshine · 22/09/2013 10:31

Oh thanks! It feels so good on I really like it. I only got married 8 weeks ago and can hardly remember what my guests were wearing, I'm sure I would have noticed if there were any real shockers!

catgirl1976 · 22/09/2013 10:31

YANBU

It grates on me for some reason (I know I should get out more)

There is a big difference between wedding and cocktail party. But a lot of people seem to be oblivious to this when choosing outfits

Original poster
BetsyBidwell · 22/09/2013 10:32

Hassles that's fine. Jacket though remember

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chicaguapa · 22/09/2013 10:33

Re Spanish weddings, it's a class thing I think. The length of the dress is determined by the start time of the wedding. I was invited to one in Spain, and knowing all this I double/triple-checked the exact dress code. I mentioned it to another Spanish friend who remarked that they must be a very nice family.

I turned up in evening dress, to the floor, and ironically was sat with the British contingent who were dressed for a UK wedding and I was very overdressed. But I didn't mind as I looked European. Wink

KatieScarlett2833 · 22/09/2013 10:33

I was at a wedding recently in my knee length navy dress and matching long coat, hair up by hairdresser and killer heels.
One of the guests had shorts on.
Another wore a white long dress.
Another wore what can only be described as a bunny girl outfit sans ears.
This was a naice do.
Still, it gave us something to look at while waiting for the photo session to end Grin

ryangoslinglovesmedamnit · 22/09/2013 10:51

totally agree. and officially confirming myself as old before my time

went to a wedding a few months back. My dress was a tight wrap dress but just below knee length with three quarter length sleeves. I sat next to two girls. .neither could dance let alone because of their heels and I saw FAR too much ass cheek.

and they older than me (im early twenties) I actually felt old.. I was Shock I don't understand why some girls feel the need to show so much! ?

SPsTwerkingNineToFive · 22/09/2013 10:55

Beyond I go to Tesco in those dresses! Its my casual wear. I have a black one for dossing around the house Grin

SPsTwerkingNineToFive · 22/09/2013 10:57

This is mu first grown up, without parents wedding. Its my first school mates wedding. i preferred when my mum picked my clothes Grin

Blueandwhitelover · 22/09/2013 11:06

i have a wedding to go to on friday, i will be wearing a maxi dress and my boobs are quite generous. dh loves me in it though and as it is his family, i will stick with it. i am excitedly looking forward to seeing what the young people turn up in-it is a young wedding.
i did wonder about the evening do and changing though-the wedding is at 3.30 so i assume it is carrying through, don't really have anything to change into either.

BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability · 22/09/2013 11:09

Dammit, wrote a long post and it disappeared!

I need a wintery casualish (but able to be dressed up) dress atm, skater dresses would be ideal but I'm 5'11 and all the ones I have tried tend to flash my bum Grin

Have loads of multipurpose summer dresses that can do any occasion, but really struggle with wintery ones

SPsTwerkingNineToFive · 22/09/2013 11:10

I'm 4foot 11 so short dresses are always longer Grin

PumpkinPositive · 22/09/2013 11:11

I clearly don't recognise the difference cos I didn't have a foggiest what OP was about, even after several rereads. Confused

Is the suggestion that we wear staid, inoffensive apparel to the nuptials and then bring a change of tarts clothes for the reception?

Wouldn't they get crushed in one's handbag?

BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability · 22/09/2013 11:11

Am also actually dreading my next wedding/similar event type thing, as I cant wear heels atm. Wtf should i put on my feet?!

IceCreamForCrow · 22/09/2013 11:22

I think there are too many strapless wedding dresses about. They are often unflattering with skin squleching out the top and sides. Dresses with sleeves look more stunning, elegant and right for the occasion. Only imho of course.

Original poster
BetsyBidwell · 22/09/2013 11:29

I think strapless wedding dresses are rough tbh. Once started a thread that if you're over a size 12 they should be banned. You can imagine how that went. Side boob. Back hamster etc.

I also don't really care for skater dresses. straight to hell

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noddyholder · 22/09/2013 11:30

Skater dresses are not for women

Blueandwhitelover · 22/09/2013 11:31

i also live in fitflops, after my own wedding i removed the shoes of torture at the reception and popped on some white fitflops under my dress. i will be wearing strappy flat sandals on friday,

BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability · 22/09/2013 11:33

I don't think I've ever seen a man in one though?

mylittlesunshine · 22/09/2013 11:34

Oh dear this thread is making me paranoid... I wear skater dresses and had a strapless wedding dress! I don't actually think dress shops have enough non strapless dresses all sleeve types in shops I was in were lace and I'm allergic to that so was very limited.

Original poster
BetsyBidwell · 22/09/2013 11:36

It's only me anti strapless wedding dresses. They're just dull. And not suited to most.

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Pinupgirl · 22/09/2013 11:39

Completely agree op-was at a wedding yesterday and some of the outfits were horrendous. I am usually a great believer in women wearing whatever the hell they want whatever their size-am a 16 myself-but far too many of them were in tiny dresses,bad fake tan and stripper shoes. It was really not appropriate for a church wedding!

I myself stuck to my usual style-Lady vintage dress for service and vivien of Holloway dress for evening reception-many compliments I got too

Alisvolatpropiis · 22/09/2013 11:41

Yanbu.

I thought that at the last wedding I went to. Half the guests looked like they were dressed to hit the local bars.

BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability · 22/09/2013 11:46

SP??
Just randomly popped up on my clever ebay "things you might be interested in"

Nancy66 · 22/09/2013 11:46

I think it's the American influence where it's much more common to wear evening style dress to weddings - the UK is prob the only country that does the day dress/big hat thing and that seems to be increasingly going out of style. Understandable I guess.

Umlauf · 22/09/2013 11:48

Yanbu, I also dislike strapless wedding dresses. It was HELL shopping for my dress and being told my every shopgirl how uh-amazing they look on and wouldn't I just try one, especially as there were no non-strapless in the shop.

Re church wedding attire, what DOES one wear without looking like a) ones mother, or b) a tart? At 26, I'm not quite at the Jacques Vert stage yet and have a wedding to go to in December.