To think people don't seem to recognise the difference between evening wear and wedding clothes any more ?

[BetsyBidwell]

(Disclaimer yes it doesn't matter compared to Syria , I do get out a lot, yes the bride and groom were lovely , etc etc)

Day wedding yesterday. Just too much tit. Too much bare top halves. Shiny cocktail dresses in a country church.

Just too much.

What do you think of this dress for a wedding AX Paris Scuba

For someone 5ft 4, size 14 with HUGE boobs?

Oh or this one Feathers

LtEve - Ii don't think that would work with huge boobs.

I've got big boobs and I find that high necks are very unflattering and that a v neck or more of a scoop neck looks better.

second one deffo much more flattering for larger busts

Cheers Nancy, was trying to give myself more of a waist, but I think you are right with the boob thing.

The Dorothy Perkins dress is pretty:reminds me of julia Roberts at the polo match in pretty woman

YANBU

There are LOTS of dresses you can wear to formal events without advertising your goods. We had an evening wedding in October, and women seemed to find gorgeous ensembles.

But someone mentioned earlier, tights? Do we have to?? They itch...

Oh my, this thread has made me worried about anything I've ever worn to weddings and funerals. I usually think of Coast as my go to shop for wedding wear. Am I completely wrong?

Lte

I am a 12 /1 4 and am always scared of dresses labelled as "body con"

How do they fit on someone our size? I've seen a lot of dresses I like on-line but then see the "body con" description and get put off?

In my head they will either make me look like Joan in Mad Men (dream scenario) or a teletubby in a sausage skin (nightmare)

Have you tried bodycon before with good results or does anyone know if I can wear that style?

A guest wore a full length sapphire coloured ball gown to our wedding, her son (aged about 10) wore a loud sweatshirt and track suit bottoms. Another guest wore a white dress, the actual dress that she married in the previous year, none of these people are short of money or clothing. It was a traditional wedding, church then 200 year old venue for sit down meal, It didn't matter but I do look at the photos and think "wtf" where they thinking!?!

Don't do tights do hold ups? The very word "gusset" makes me shudder

I was at a Scottish/Irish wedding last month where the two sides of the congregation were facing each other. The Irish side was definitely dressed more formal and wedding-y as was commented on by more than one Scottish attendee.

If you're not sure what sort of outfits the OP and others are thinking of might I suggest you Google 'Aintree Grand National ladies day' images

I have a lot of sympathy with women in inappropriate dresses: usually I spend a coupe if hours in the ships, find nothing and end up spending my dress budget on fabric and making my own dress.

If someone isn't a confident sewer and doesn't have a large budget its very difficult.s

I used to buy all my going to wedding dresses in places like monsoon. They seemed to fit the brief well.

Whoever it was who was saying about strapless wedding dresses I agree. I have a friend who has an amazing figure, perfect in a bikini yet she had a strapless wedding dress and I have to say it made her look odd, even a bit extra boobish because it had to be tight enough not to fall down.
I actually managed to find a wedding dress with straps that I then had long flowing sleeves added to. Got many comments about how beautiful they were.

But I'm not sure it's a question of money-it's more a question of looking in a full length mirror and asking yourself,regardless of what's in fashion, 'Do I look good in this?' and 'Is it the right size?'

"Would one of the girls from towie wear it on a night out?"

LE eve if the dress FITS then its fine

that was my initial post - so so many people POURED into dresses

Imho if you need spanx then either go on a diet or buy a dress that fits

isaggree you need a large budget

The woman who looked nice at the one I was at had on a PLAIN black short sleeved dress that could have been this kind of thing with bright cardigan on and then this kind of necklace here and she looked comfortable and stylish

I made my own wedding dress to avoid all the strapless ones, I do not have the figure for them at all!

Agree re the short dresses and sturdy legs. I tried on a gorgeous dress whilst looking for a race day outfit, alas it looked nice on the top half but when I looked in the mirror at my legs I just thought "nobody in their right mind would want to look at that" and bought trousers instead.

All about fit size up rather than spanx you will look like a sausage. I think all the crap tv has convinced women that a glitzy look is the only way to go

spanx fool NO ONE and if you want to buy them so you look thinner, try eating less

I know I know takes own advice

I need spanx, not for sizing but to flatten the baby apron that no amount of dieting will ever reduce

Larger women going for control underwear like Spanx will look much better if they buy control slips rather than the knickers or shorts where everything spills out over waist and thigh bands.

With a slip style underdress you get a much smoother, even shape.