to be pissed off that another mum has plastered my 6yo DD in make-up

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So my DD has come home from playing at a friend's house and tells me that whilst there they had a make-up session, with the mum, with the mum's make up, including foundation, lipstick, eyeshadow etc. My dd's face was clean when she got home but I feel that it is my decision to decide when I am ready for my DD to experiment with make-up, not someone else's. 6 is too young imo, and to presume without asking really pisses me off.

AIBU??

at make up sexualising the face. Mine's more like a repair job to cover up how bloody knackered I look most days!

hmmm

playing at being a tiger with face paints seems fine..playing at being older is okay but there ARE issues around sexualization of children.

Exposing children to the general idea that one needs make up in order to be seen out and about is probably the worst aspect...and most kids get that direct from mum (not dad of course...men are fine as they are).

So tbh my pissed offness level would depend on whether it was "ohhh lets have some fun and put make up on", or 'educational' "this is the concealer you put on so no-one has to see your ugly bags" with a side order of "how you look is the most important thing about being female".

I would be fucking livid if someone told my DD that 'one should always look ones best' or anything from that genre....

to namechanges

Delilah, you have with that comment basically stated that in your view, 'science' is completely open to interpretation, and everything we know is just 'opinion'. That reluctance to accept 'knowledge' might not help you long term...

I understand other people have fewer objections to make-up than me, and I don't judge them either way for it, some people are religious, some people believe marmite tastes nice, just because other people have different opinions doesn't make them idiots. Looking for reasons to adapt what I think is part of being thoughtful. Canvassing for opinion may mean I change my mind or not, but it's not for you or anyone else to imply that mine and my daughter's relationship will suffer, and doing so just shows what kind of person you are.