About husband 'smoking' an e cigarette in the house?

[Bejeena]

Title says it all really! I have told my husband countless times that I am not happy with him smoking his e cigarette in the house? He says ok but then continues to do so when I am either in bed or out.

A bit of background, we have an 8 week old baby and my husband stopped smoking when we found out I was pregnant and I was rather proud of him (he didn't tell me he had quit until he was 90 days without a cigarette)

He never smoked normal cigarettes in the house before and I don't see why he should smoke this electronic one inside either.

His argument is that it is just water vapour!

I should add he is a great man and a fab Dad, I can't fault him on most things, apart from this.

[picklebumplum]

Yabu.

He quit smoking which is hard enough to do, my dh just quit with the help of a ecig

It is just water vapour, he doesn't do it near the children but he does inside.

Cut him some slack, he has stopped smoking which is enough!

Yabvu..

[LimitedEditionLady]

YABU,as long as my oh doesnt let ds actually SEE him smoke it I dont see the issue.Do you understand what it is properly?maybe the word smoking and cig sets off alarm bells for you

[3birthdaybunnies]

I wouldn't worry so much at this stage, but I would want an agreement that he never smokes it in front of the children- I guess I would be more worried about the model of behaviour - he's smoking e cigarettes would they then be more likely to try real ones. Obviously yours is v little and if he quits completely then great, but worth having the line drawn now. If it is just water vapour then presumably no health risk.

[Hassled]

jacks has a good point - they do normalise smoking, and it probably does send a very confusing message to children. I don't think they should be routinely smoked in front of young children. But in this case we're talking a 8 week old baby who will be oblivious.

[Fefifo]

Agree with jacks. I've no problem with DH puffing away on his to his heart's content but was furious when I caught him indulging in front of the kids. I don't want smoking to be normalised for them. Mine are a lot older than eight weeks though.

[Sindarella]

It might just be water vapor, but they have nicotine too. If he's smoking it in the house you might find he is using it more often, so the addiction to nicotine gets harder to break.
E cigs are made by the companies that make tobacco cigarettes, so of course they want to keep you addicted.

Also, if he cant break the e cigs the ops lo will grow up watching daddy 'smoking' which has been proven to increase the likelihood of lo smoking.

An OP i don't think you are a nutter, nor do i think you need to see your GP.

[Echocave]

Aha. I stand corrected! Ta

[Jolleigh]

I used an e cig as a rout to quitting smoking, like your husband. Being able to have a few puffs at a whim inside was honestly the biggest perk...if I had to go outside to do it, I'd rather have had a cigarette.

All current evidence says the vapour is harmless. I'd personally leave him to it, though I do know a lot of people find the image of someone doing something that's so similar to smoking quite disconcerting.

[okero]

You can ban him from smoking his e-cigarette on the condition that you can't boil the kettle, sound reasonable?
No thought not

[Jolleigh]

'E-cigs are made by the companies that make tobacco cigarettes' - could you link me some evidence of this please? Afterall, tobacco companies strongly lobbied against vaping products being so freely available.

[Sinful1]

Using it in doors will be a big attraction, if he has to do it outside he'll just go "ah well may as well just smoke" and it will be harder to stay off

[diddl]

I think that you are being irrational due to 8wk old baby!

Are you doubting that it is just water vapour or is it that he still looks as if he is smoking & you associate that with outdoors iyswim?

I dislike smoking & although I know that an ecig is different, it just looks like smoking & I'm hard pushed not to view it with the same disgust!

[PlentyOfPubeGardens]

the e-liquid has nicotine in it, but the exhaled vapour does not

How does this work, FurryDogMother? I'm not saying you're wrong, I'm just curious to know how none of it is exhaled.

Congrats to your DH, Bejeena

[judgejudithjudy]

yabu - your poor dh :-\

[WorraLiberty]

Is he allowed to boil the kettle in the house or is he banned from that too?

[MaidOfStars]

YANBU to be concerned about normalising smoking. YABalittleU to worry about the dangers of the vapour in the context of a household (open windows letting in exhaust fumes, the occasional burnt dinner, and so on). YABU to moan about your husband after his monumental effort :)

[LovesBeingOnHoliday]

Sorry but I agree with you op. I don't think there is enough evidence about them full stop.

[honeybunny14]

Yabvu dont see the problem it wont harm anyone you should praise him a bit for quiting the real cigs

[bundaberg]

i think yabvu

he's done a massive thing in giving up smoking. if this is what he needs to do to continue staying off the real cigarettes then i'd be all for it! and if it's just water vapour there really is no reason why he shouldn't do it inside is there?

[kinkyfuckery]

What is your concern exactly?

[Bejeena]

Ok thanks for the input. It is ok I am sensible enough to know that I actually am not a nutter.

What do I need to see the GP for - to ask him if he thinks it is ok? For what it is worth when we left the hospital with baby the paediatrician asked if either of us smoked, I said just my husband the e cigarette and he told us firmly that he should only smoke it outside - GP would only confirm this surely?

Actually a bit of background to his smoking he only ever used to smoke at work every now and again or whilst out drinking. Max 5 cigs a day and sometimes could go for days and weeks on end without one. But now he is constantly on this e cig so I do think he is smoking more

[bundaberg]

how would you feel if he decided that seeing as he had to go outside he might as well have a real cigarette?

would that be ok?
would be a shame IMO.
and second-hand smoke on his clothes would be worse than water vapour from his e-cig.

let him do his thing. it won't be forever.

anyone here used them? how long does it take to reduce down to nothing?

[LtEveDallas]

I assume its as much his house as yours? I assume the baby is also his as well as yours?

Why can't he do something that is totally harmless, in his own house? You say he is only doing it when you are in bed or out - seriously, that is pretty bloody controlling.

[OneStepCloser]

I would just support him in quitting smoking in whatever way it takes. I would also be very proud of him as giving up is not easy.

[loopyloou]

YABU. He's giving up smoking which is very difficult. He doesn't need extra stress, he needs support. Besides, it is only water vapour and totally safe. It doesn't smell either.