wedding present

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We went to a wedding 2 months ago. A month previous to this we bought a very generous present for the happy couple from their online wedding gift list at a well known department store. So far we haven't had a verbal or written thank you. Is this normal?

I think it's pretty sad if I'm in the minority when it comes to manners. I'm just as appalled that people turn up to weddings which they haven't bothered RSVPing to and that others don't turn up when they have said they would as I am at people who delay thanking others for gifts.

Bear our honeymoon was 6 weeks after the wedding. By your unknown rule, does that mean we have 8 weeks? Also, if we're talking about rudeness, i had two close cousins and their partners not turn up and only text me to tell me on the morning. One of them was supposed to be giving a reading and text to say he had a headache. The other cousin who I spend a lot of time with, told me that she couldn't come because she was working even though she had told me she was coming and had plenty of time to book time off. Finally I've consulted DM and DMIL about the cards and have asked if we are being rude because we haven't been able to send our cards out and they have both assured us that we haven't. So sorry you feel so uptight about an unknown rule but I'd rather take advice from people who know us.

chocolate for the life of me I don't understand why you couldn't send out your thank yous in the 6 weeks between your wedding and honeymoon.

Equally, I think your cousins not attending your wedding is appalling too.

It would seem poor standards are very much the norm in some circles but I'd prefer not to lower mine to those of people who I think are being rude.

"It would seem poor standards are very much the norm in some circles but I'd prefer not to lower mine to those of people who I think are being rude."

You should re-read some of your own posts then, and drop the ad-hominen attacks.

Bear with your high standards, do you get invited to many weddings?

I'm not attacking anyone. I am posting my views.

The majority of posters on this thread are of a similar opinion to me, ie thank you cards should be sent in a reasonable period after the wedding and 'reasonable' is weeks not months.

The only people who seem to disagree are those who are the very people who have not sent out their thank yous in a timely manner and appear to be trying to justify their actions.

On that basis, given there is a divide in opinion but the consensus errs on the side of more timely issue of thank you's, as a bride, I wouldn't risk upsetting or offending my guests or even just having them thinking badly of me by delaying sending them out.

PS no idea what ad-hominen means?

That's the sad thing though chocolate I don't think my standards are high, I thought they were the norm on what is and isn't acceptable in these situations.

I'm not of an age where many people I know are getting married so maybe I am short on recent experience.

I still feel bad that it took 2 months to send out our thank you cards after our wedding. DH had an op a few days after we got back from honeymoon and need round the clock care and I also worked fill time (mostly from home).

Unfortunately, we were similarly tardy with our post baby cards, I had a lot of complications during labour and post birth, DS didn't sleep, we had a death on the family and DH had health problems. I sent verbally apologies and thanks yous and then sent the thank you cards as soon as I was able, we had feedback from both my DM and DMIL that's their friends all really appreciated them and wasn't expecting them have heard about our problems from DM/DMIL.

Re weddings, one that sticks out is v expensive wedding we went to, nearly four months later we received a printed picture with the text 'thank you for your gift' printed underneath, no personalisation apart from names on the envelope.

I also bought a friend's baby quites few clothehes/toys/books after they said they were struggling financially (surprise baby different gender to the first), gave it to them via her brother (included a card) not even a text to say thanks. Saw her a few months later and we were talking about thank you cards and she said she didn't bother with them or even thank you texts because she was too busy but she was always on Facebook/playing facebook games. Thought that was a bit rude.