To just go out and not be in

[LadyFlumpalot]

I'm due to have my second baby next Tuesday. I have cracking SPD and haven't had more than 4 hours sleep a night for the last 2 weeks.
My GPIL have invited themselves (via a message left on our answering machine yesterday) to come and stay with us this weekend. Not with any altruistic intentions of helping out. No, it's because they will be driving home from holiday tomorrow and want to use our house as an overnight hotel rest stop.

It wouldn't be too bad except that they are very high maintenance and will expect a full bed and breakfast experience plus a naice trip to somewhere suitable on Saturday followed by a full lunch out and about in a naice tea room sort of place.

I really wanted DH, DS and I to just have a lovely family weekend as it's possibly the last one we will have with just DS.

The mobile number we have for them isn't working. Just beeps and cuts out. Have even double checked it with PIL. DH has sent the number a text saying to call him urgently.

WIBU to just go out to my mums for the whole of tomorrow so I am not at home when they try to just show up at some point in the afternoon? I'm a soft touch and will end up just letting them in if I'm here. They will be coming past about 1pm and DH won't get home from work til 6pm.

Love 'Get your mum to answer': 'Sorry, Flumps isn't playing out today'

I am at the cheek of some people!

Flump have a lovely time at your DM's and hope you have a good weekend with DS and DH.

Your GPIL should get a good telling off from your DH or PIL for making you stressed while heavily pregnant.

Wow they're rude!

not placemarking at all, oh no

Phone on silent.

I'm SO SORRY I missed your calls! As you know, I've been feeling really ill. I was in bed all afternoon with the phone downstairs...

Marking place. Good luck with the birth!

Ooh I want to know what happens!

Well no reply as of yet. Won't know if they have contacted DH til he gets home. I copied my text to him in case of any sneaky behind my back type stuff.

@ "can't go out to play"

Flumps' Mum could add " she's playing hide and seek"!

[immature]

Well done on a great, direct text. I am stunned that they not only know your due date but also that you are hoping for a home birth! Selfish buggers. Also hope they turn up (when you are at your mum's) and perhaps learn their lesson....

I am so glad you are refusing and going out. It is so rude and presumptious of them. My MIL invited herself to stay when I was 35wks and on crutches with SPD last time. Said she would be helpful etc etc. My enduring memory of the visit is of her 'just asking' how to load each item into the dishwasher and then watching while I struggled to bend up and down and end up doing the whole thing because 'she didn't want to get it wrong'. The fury is with me still. Good luck with your home birth

You're doing the right thing - good luck!

Well DH is home and in full agreement with me over everything at 39 wweks pregnant he doesn't dare disagree and has heard nothing himself from his grandparents.

So, the plan is that I drop him at work tomorrow, take DS to get a biscuit and have a play in the park then head to my mums - will go straight from there to pick DH up so will be out of the house from 8am to 6pm tomorrow.

We are then going on a day trip on Saturday to enjoy and spend some quality time with DS as a family of three for possibly the last time.

So yeah, they have been texted and told not to bother so assuming they make no contact between now and showing up, it is not my problem and I will not feel bad.

So there.

Hmmph.

excellent plan - enjoy your time!
will you update after baby's born?

good luck with birth, I bet you can't wait.

Well done on that text, Flumps, soooo pleased you told them straight with no excuses. And your DH is fab, agreeing with you and everything!

Now, can we just check, your DM is going to pander, isn't she, and not expect too much from you?

UPDATE

So, GFIL just phoned. He never actually received my texts but told me that GMIL had basically read him the riot act about abusing hospitality. Turns out she had no idea, so they would not be stopping in.

Cue an awkward few minutes whilst we both tried to talk over each other.

He sounded a bit hacked off but that's not my issue.

Thanks GMIL!

Hurrah for sensible GMIL

And yes MrsWembley at the moment my mum won't even let me off the sofa whilst she's here. She has her moments and has quite narcissistic tendencies, but at the moment she is being a darling.

phew! Glad that's been cleared up!

But you should still go and get pampered by your mum :)

Zing course I'll update once the baby is here. I suspect I'll probably have a live labour thread as a way of keeping my mind off it.

Thank you everyone for yoir support today, you all helped me stay strong.

How old are they, as your dh grandparents I'm guessing they must be fairly elderly.
Maybe at their age they find the drive exhausting.

They wont be around forever, make the most of it while you can

mymatemax

They holiday in this country and abroad several times a year. Nowt to do with energy levels.

Glad it is all sorted and you have arranged a bonus relaxing day at your mum's. Spd with a toddler is grim.

Fabulous!