To just go out and not be in

[LadyFlumpalot]

I'm due to have my second baby next Tuesday. I have cracking SPD and haven't had more than 4 hours sleep a night for the last 2 weeks.
My GPIL have invited themselves (via a message left on our answering machine yesterday) to come and stay with us this weekend. Not with any altruistic intentions of helping out. No, it's because they will be driving home from holiday tomorrow and want to use our house as an overnight hotel rest stop.

It wouldn't be too bad except that they are very high maintenance and will expect a full bed and breakfast experience plus a naice trip to somewhere suitable on Saturday followed by a full lunch out and about in a naice tea room sort of place.

I really wanted DH, DS and I to just have a lovely family weekend as it's possibly the last one we will have with just DS.

The mobile number we have for them isn't working. Just beeps and cuts out. Have even double checked it with PIL. DH has sent the number a text saying to call him urgently.

WIBU to just go out to my mums for the whole of tomorrow so I am not at home when they try to just show up at some point in the afternoon? I'm a soft touch and will end up just letting them in if I'm here. They will be coming past about 1pm and DH won't get home from work til 6pm.

Yanbu go out

You should go out. You shouldn't be waiting on anyone of you are due in 2 weeks. Sorry about the spd, it truly sucks.

Yeah, go out.

Or - for your own comfort - stick the car round the corner, come back home and just keep your head down on the sofa with chocolate and DVDs lie low for the day.

They seriously want to just dump themselves on you a matter of days before you're due to give birth?

Absolutely go out or ignore the doorbell!

The bolshy side of me would be tempted to stay in, open the door and then tell them they can't come in or stay as you're DAYS AWAY FROM GIVING BIRTH (yes, shout that bit if needed) and have other things to do (like sleep, play with your DS, not wait hand-and-foot on unwelcome visitors).

I appreciate you might prefer a less confrontational approach though.

Hopefully your DH will have the opportunity to put them right beforehand though and they will just continue on their merry way home.

Good luck (with dodging the rellies and the birth!).

I am at the same stage of you be don't have that condition and I can honestly say.. Put yourself first... Absolutely go out....

If you need to don't come back until Monday!!!!

I'm going out. Just called my mum and she is happy for me and DS to go camp at her house tomorrow. GPIL don't have my mobile number so couldn't get hold of me if they wanted to. Then DH, DS and I will go out Saturday for a nice family day. If they show up Saturday morning we will be in a nice state of chaos and will just say "no, sorry, busy, will come see you soon."

Have they got form for this sort of thing?

drawn red spots all over your faces and cough a lot when you answer the door. Bet they don't stop.

Agree with the lovely note on door, "so sorry we couldn't get hold of you, etc etc"

I was 2 days off from having out eldest (15 yrs ago)

I was treated to guests from the US. I took them all over London, I cooked for them....they were only 18 years old!

So, not wanting anyone else to be 'done in' I would also suggest you hide!

Good luck.

Delighted you have made arrangements!

Come back and let us know if they do show up and how it all goes, ok?

Go out.

I never understand people who allow others to abuse them this way.

Oh yeah EldritchCleavage they have form. Last time they came to stay they were very upset because breakfast in bed wasn't offered. I had been up since 6ish with DS (DH and I take turns to lie in at weekends) and at about 9:30ish grandad in law came down and sat in the living room. I cheerfully said "breakfast things are in the kitchen" and he sort of ignored me and cracked open the Daily Mail a paper. After about ten minutes he sniffed "I'll get my own breakfast then, shall I?"

Bit short notice to arrange a weekend away with your DS but that's what I'd do under the circs. Lovely babymoon in a hotel with plenty of kiddie friendly things to do where you can snooze on an overstuffed sofa or spa while DH and DS head to the pool.ignores reality of the cost of such places and the simple unfairness of having to spank hundreds of pounds just to avoid your GPILs

Or I'd hide out at my mums leaving a note on the door to say you've all gone away and hope that when you come back they won't be asleep in the car in your driveway.

Glad you have something sorted!

'Last time they came to stay they were very upset because breakfast in bed wasn't offered. I had been up since 6ish with DS (DH and I take turns to lie in at weekends) and at about 9:30ish grandad in law came down and sat in the living room. I cheerfully said "breakfast things are in the kitchen" and he sort of ignored me and cracked open the Daily Mail a paper. After about ten minutes he sniffed "I'll get my own breakfast then, shall I?"'

Keep doing that, every single time. Do not cater or wait on these poeple.

Run! Run till you can run no more!

I predict a hurt message from them

Feminine Crikey! poor you!

Expat don't worry, I have no intention of letting them cross the doormat, let alone cater for them.

I hereby promise to update if I get a phonecall or an unexpected visit, or if indeed DC2 shows up early!

Alpaca - more like waddle quite slowly for a minute or two!

And thank you everyone for thw good wishes for the birth. I'm hoping to have a home birth (another reason why I REALLY don't want overnight guests)!

I'm so glad to hear you don't pander to it, so many people do!

And yes, good luck with the birth, I hope the SPD lifts and PIL don't cause you too much bother.

Good luck with Gpil and the homebirth LadyFlumpalot

• great name btw

YANBU at all, is there any way you can stay at your mum's on friday night so you're not even there on saturday morning either? Your GPIL are cheeky bastards, let them drive home or find a hotel.

Ooh now that's an interesting angle. Have you got a birth pool? Can you inflate it in the most annoying place possible, and then start talking loudly about placenta bowls and fish nets to "dispose of any waste products" and whether you need a spare liner for the pool, and if possible recruit your crunchiest pretend if necessary friends to come round and chant birth mantras and do some kind of "labour dance"?