To just go out and not be in

[LadyFlumpalot]

I'm due to have my second baby next Tuesday. I have cracking SPD and haven't had more than 4 hours sleep a night for the last 2 weeks.
My GPIL have invited themselves (via a message left on our answering machine yesterday) to come and stay with us this weekend. Not with any altruistic intentions of helping out. No, it's because they will be driving home from holiday tomorrow and want to use our house as an overnight hotel rest stop.

It wouldn't be too bad except that they are very high maintenance and will expect a full bed and breakfast experience plus a naice trip to somewhere suitable on Saturday followed by a full lunch out and about in a naice tea room sort of place.

I really wanted DH, DS and I to just have a lovely family weekend as it's possibly the last one we will have with just DS.

The mobile number we have for them isn't working. Just beeps and cuts out. Have even double checked it with PIL. DH has sent the number a text saying to call him urgently.

WIBU to just go out to my mums for the whole of tomorrow so I am not at home when they try to just show up at some point in the afternoon? I'm a soft touch and will end up just letting them in if I'm here. They will be coming past about 1pm and DH won't get home from work til 6pm.

tbh if I was so close to giving birth I wouldn't try and come up with any tactics to avoid them.

I would call them up and tell them it is not convenient.
if they turned up I would remind them of the phone conversation.
I would not let them in and would just shut the door on them.

no way I would let them chase me out of my own house 3 days before I'm due to give birth!
in the nicest possible way I say fuck that

but if you feel that staying at your parents' house is less stress for you I can understand that.

good luck for impending birth!

Good luck with it all OP!

Fill the birth pool up and if they turn up on Saturday morning dh can answer with "oh no - I was hoping you were the midwife - flump's just about to get in the pool" " - do you taking ds to soft play for a few hours as it'll be much easier if he isn't here....oh dear - you have to go!"

Not to be done if GMIL is the type to barge in and want to be part if the action!

Zing - They are uncontactable. The only contact number we have for them isn't working. DH has left a "call us" text message in case they are simply out of signal.

I'm not having a birth pool unfortunately but they do know I want a home birth so if they do show up I may just let rip some screaming and a few choice swear words from upstairs whilst DH answers the door.

You know, treating them to the glorious sight of you crowning a baby on your sofa might be just the ticket!

Squitten

Those of you lurking or waiting for the wrath of the Inlaws may have to wait til tomorrow evening about 6:30ish I'm afraid, unless I can get hold of them today.

Place marking

Dismantle the spare bed. Offer them sofa cushions on the living room floor. Bonus points if you have an ashmatic, slobbery dog that absolutely must also sleep in the living room. Tell them how much you are looking forward to them looking after their great-grandchild for the weekend as you are absolutely exhausted and are planning to sleep for 24 hours.

That really made me laugh, Squitten

Good luck, OP. one if the clearest YANBU's I have seen on MN for a while!!

flump
oh of course they can't be contacted, I should have known!
it does not surprise me the slightest.

they are playing power games with you - what a classic presentation of passive-aggressive behaviour!

two words : fuck them

now repeat after me :"I'm in control and I will be in control"

you have got to put your poor swollen foot down and seriously hit back.
if you go out they will inconvenience you anyway so they have won! do not let them win.

stay put and send them away. you don't even have to answer the door.

Right I really must go do stuff now. Promise to update you all!

Wow I can't believe the cheek of some people!

Rude sods! I really hope you get a showdown of some sort Fx for you keeping well & calm though flumps and best of luck for the birth!

Stick to your guns! You really do not need or want this.

A heavily pregnant lady is not someone to be messed with!

Definitely hide out at your parents house. I hope this teaches them a lesson.

blimey! glad to read you've made plans.

i hate people like that... but then i hate people (apart from my dm) invading my space

good luck with the birth

Dude, you can't possibly have people staying. Even if they were trying to be helpful (these aren't) it would still be a pain in the arse.

YANBU...I had same thought as others up thread, husband to greet them at door, bucket in hand, just filling pool etc. I bet they would disappear mighty fast. Best of luck with the birth, and get as much rest as you can beforehand.

but then i hate people (apart from my dm) invading my space

Blimey I'm gald I'm not your MiL

Send a text from DH's phone saying sorry, Ladyflumpalot is away and I am at work so you won't be able to come to visit that weekend. Even if they don't have a signal now, they will pick up the message once they are back on the network.

Would your mum be willing for you, DH and Ds to stay overnight at hers on Friday night so DH can come straight there from work? And then go out from your mum's on Saturday morning?

Do they know how close to your due date you are?? Words fail one. YANBU.