To just go out and not be in

[LadyFlumpalot]

I'm due to have my second baby next Tuesday. I have cracking SPD and haven't had more than 4 hours sleep a night for the last 2 weeks.
My GPIL have invited themselves (via a message left on our answering machine yesterday) to come and stay with us this weekend. Not with any altruistic intentions of helping out. No, it's because they will be driving home from holiday tomorrow and want to use our house as an overnight hotel rest stop.

It wouldn't be too bad except that they are very high maintenance and will expect a full bed and breakfast experience plus a naice trip to somewhere suitable on Saturday followed by a full lunch out and about in a naice tea room sort of place.

I really wanted DH, DS and I to just have a lovely family weekend as it's possibly the last one we will have with just DS.

The mobile number we have for them isn't working. Just beeps and cuts out. Have even double checked it with PIL. DH has sent the number a text saying to call him urgently.

WIBU to just go out to my mums for the whole of tomorrow so I am not at home when they try to just show up at some point in the afternoon? I'm a soft touch and will end up just letting them in if I'm here. They will be coming past about 1pm and DH won't get home from work til 6pm.

Put up a tent in your garden and invite rave a note on the door saying you're out but tent's up, make yourselves at home. Be sure to put down roll mats rather than an air bed. Bet they would be gone :o

Right. I have been sensible.

I have tried calling the mobile number again. I just get four long beeps then cut off. So I have sent the following text for them to pick up when they get a signal:

Hi (grandad in law), (my name) again. Trying to call you but cannot get through. Am very sorry but we really can't be having visitors at all this weekend given that my due date is only 4 days away. Would be far too much for us all at the moment as I have been feeling really ill and exhausted with the pregnancy. We will come see you guys soon though, once new baby is here and we are all settled. Hope you are having a good holiday.

I now feel completely absolved of all responsibility should they show up and I'm not here or we turn them away etc, especially as MIL and FIL also know we have been trying to contact them and were just as shocked as to why!

Oh bollocks! Have just realised this means they now have my number! Darn it to heck!

good job, well done!

have a sticker ?

I hope you feel better. the last thing you need is being hassled.

I doubt they will call you.
it would stop them from being control if you knew what they are planning to do.

trust me. I know this type.

(unless of course they will rseort to calling you at 4am, but your phone will be switched off anyway.)

Go out, hide somewhere with coffee and cake!

ZingWantsCake at 4am I reserve the right to answer the phone to anyone at all with "unless you are dying, FUCK OFF" and have in fact been known to do this.

Go to your mum's. Phone off. Tell them it was faulty if/when you next have to speak to them.

Stop worrying!

Oh and make sure your house in not easily break-into-able, or you might get home to find them with their feet up in your lounge.

Ooh good text and now sitting back and will watch with interest

YANBU and good for you for the text. Firm but polite.

Awaits update tomorrow.

flump

channel that anger! you go girl!

and call me Zing!

I'm still going to my mums tomorrow, she's excited about seeing DS and will make me tea and sandwiches just how I like them!

My lovely, now late MIL invited herself when I was due. I told her everyone in my family goes late and that we were planning a home birth so maybe not turn up. She turned up 2 days after my due date. Fortunately I went over two weeks, almost three with induction, late and she very nearly missed seeing DD at all. She saw her for a couple of days, while I was safely in hospital, then had to leave.

However, she cleaned, cooked, brought San Pellegrino to people in hospital me and was generally lovely (if incredibly rude to book flights on the off-chance). Your PIL are not.

H2O

no, hiding and running way is not the answer here.
not in this situation.
you have to stand up to bullies and be firm and teach them a lesson. or it will never stop

my last comment was an answer to the idea of saying the phone was faulty. there is no need for excuses.

they now know it's not convenient and flump needs to explain herself no further IYSWIM.

flump enjoy your day at your mums!

You could do the old fashioned thing and send a letter by 1st class post - you can pay extra to guarantee delivery by tomorrow - telling them NO

Wow, some people really are amazingly un self aware arent they?!

Hope it goes ok OP :)

I can't get my head around the fact that people think its ok to show up on the doorstep of a woman a couple of days away from her due date, let alone expect to stay the night!

So glad that you won't be in OP. I actually hope that they don't get the message in time and turn up anyway as it might teach them a thing or two about waiting for confirmation in the future.

Well done! I would have been a coward and made an excuse. You are amazing!

As you've sent the text saying you are exhausted stick with that and do not elaborate. You are going to your mothers to be looked after and have a break because of 'women's trouble'. Leave it at that because being 4 days from EDD is enough trouble.

Then really go and sit down and put your feet up.

If you don't feel up to speaking to them if they call tomorrow, get your mum to answer.

Thank you all.

Well done for being direct with them. I hope they get the fucking hint! Some people have rhino hides!