To ask your opinion on sending babies to nursery without having breakfast?

[Babybunny88]

I work in a day nursery with babies and am astounded by the number of patents who say their baby has been up from 6am (or before) and are starving, please give them breakfast .

We open at 7.30 and sometimes even have parents bring their babies in at 9am with no breakfast or even a bottle before hand. One little girl was brought in at 9.10am and had nothing to eat or drink apart from a bottle that she got at 4am . Another little girl is put into her high chair every morning with nothing while
Her parents sit beside her at the table eat breakfast. One time apparently she grabbed a piece of toast of her dads plate and he wasn't very happy as it was his breakfast and she had to wait until she for to nursery before having hers!

I think my DD would be going into the kitchen and making her own breakfast if I didn't give her any! Really is there any need not to feed your baby before nursery? Is it laziness? Opinions please.

Thanks Ice

I can't actually imagine a parent of a 4 month old wouldn't give their baby a bottle of milk if it was due one and crying though?? If a mother handed over her screaming 4 month old baby over to me and said she hadn't had a bottle for over 5 hours and was starving (as is the example given by the OP) I'd be a bit

However, swap the scenario for a 9 month old baby and I probably wouldn't think much of it. I would have thought the little one hadn't long woken up and that seeing as the nursery offers the breakfast services then the parents were just making use of it?

I'm going to link this thread next time there's a aibu? Went to collect dd at 9:30 from
MIL and she hasn't been fed yet despite being up at six and hungry

Or *dp took dd out for a walk at 8 without waking me up to feed her. She was really upset and hungry , I'm fuming"

Or

friend dumped her baby on me this morning and text me to say she hasn't had breakfast she's hungry what can I give her

Thread. If they will wait or aren't hungry fine but the op is talking about young babies not even given a drink by 9:00 who's parents have time to make themselves breakfast but not their baby.

DS gets up sometime around6.30, we leave the house at 7.30, five minute walk to nursery. He will not eat before we go. He usually needs an hour or so before he fancies food. He'll have a cup of milk, and maybe a couple of bites of toast/cereal if we're having breakfast, but he's just generally not interested. Nursery do breakfast at 8, so he eats then.

And, not to be harsh, but I am paying them to feed him three meals a day plus snacks (amongst other things), so if he thinks 8 is a reasonable time to have breakfast, why would I try and force it earlier?

But if he woke up really hungry would u deny even milk because someone else was paid to do it in two or three hours time? That's the point.

No, but if I was dealing with children who were being denied food and water for three hours every morning I would be making some phone calls to SS.

And I have also said that. That if kids are not being fed or watered and are clearly beyond the point where it should have been done and purely because someone else os paid to do it, then that requires action to be taken.

That's what I don't understand. I did try to ask what state the babies were in even she got them. It she didn't answer.

I've seen people myself use the "oh nursery will do that" line so I do believe it happens. Other people have posted to say kids have turned up dirty or hungry or in sodden nappies so its not isolated.

My DD doesn't go to nursery but would drop her at PILs without breakfast when I was working. Would have a milk feed when she woke up at around 7-7.30 then breakfast after drop off at 8.30-9. When she stopped wanting milk in the morning we still didn't give breakfast at home. I wouldn't eat at home either. Now I am on maternity we still have wake up at breakfast at these same sort of times. She is happy with that and so am I.
So unless these kids are clearly distressed and unhappy YABU. Why do the nursery even do breakfast if they expect you to have it at home?!

Our son tends to sleep until 07:00 & we offer him a drink & breakfast before we set off for Nursery & work. If he eats it then fine if not then he will always manage his breakfast at nursery.

Our son is a much better eater at nursery than he is at home, we think it is to do with his little friends being there. He is 16 months. xx

I still don't understand why the OP is discussing this on a forum. Talk to your line manager if you're really concerned, for goodness sake! It is very unprofessional behaviour to discuss this with anyone else (and I don't care that you haven't 'named names'. Someone so bloody judgemental has no place in any kind of childcare/family support rôle

My dc age 1 and 2 have a bottle but that's all . They are at nursery within 30 mins of waking.

I used to childmind a toddler who would have breakfast at home, come to me at 7am and have another breakfast, and then I'd take him to nursery at 8.30am where he wouldl wolf down his third breakfast of the day with gusto.

If we didn;t know better we would think he was starved.

My dc often don't eat before going to the cm as they aten't hungry for solids that early. They will both drink milk & then eat cereal after 8:30am.

About 18 months ago it was on the radio that children are being sent to school on an empty stomach too. It's a concern.

I can't help thinking if parents are accustomed to sending their kids to nursery preschool without breakfast, they'd be likely to continue the same habit at school.

So I am interested in finding out from those who find it acceptable to send kids to nursery without breakfast - when will you change this (if at all)? What will make you decide to? And finally, what would you do if your kids still don't fancy any food or drink before school?

Don't want it to sound like the Spanish inquisition but am genuinely very interested to find out the thinking behind it.

Lazy miserable parents. There's no other excuse - when dd1 went to nursery she always had breakfast with her dad, it never crossed our mind to do anything different

Atrcts- I send dd to nursery for breakfast as she gets there at 8am. She wakes about 7.30 so she gets dressed and out the door ( has a bf about 5am too). I don't know that many children actually start nursery at 9am, that seems very late, most people have to be at work before that.

I don't think this thread is about preschool nurseries which are basically no use to working parents! ( the 2.5 hours a day ones!)

My older child is at school. On days we work he goes to breakfast club at school about 7.45 ( which costs £5 and they get nicer breakfasts than at home there!)

On days I'm off, he has breakfast fast at home about 8.15.

Nurseries provide breakfast because babies and children arrive there at breakfast time... Why you would feed them twice is what is really confusing me about this thread!

I don't give DD breakfast before nursery thanks to her horrific car sickness and our 40 minute commute. In order to give her breakfast time to settle before the trip we'd have to give her it around 5am - not v practical considering she has to be woken at 7am and merrily sleeps till 9 most days if left to it. Lucky our nursery workers understand that a hysterical vomit-covered toddler is worse than a slightly peckish one. She's in nursery from 8.10am and has eaten breakfast by 8.30.

In answer to a previous poster, I will give her breakfast before school, as it is 300 yards away and she has never yet managed to get travel sick on her feet.

What the actual fuck are people on about, on this thread?

DS eats his breakfast at 8am at nursery. Am I seriously meant to feed him another before we leave the house at 6.45? (he has milk when he wakes up).

There are going to be some seriously obese children in this world if they're all getting two breakfasts a day...

Wtf is wrong with breakfasts clubs?

atrcts - I don't know if you are confusing a Day Nursery with a Nursery class?It's not the same thing at all.
School is an educational establishment where they go to learn. They will not be fed until lunchtime. The kind of Nursery the OP is describing is daycare, which includes meals. There is breakfast there for the children when they get there. It's part of what they do, when they care for the children.
It's perfectly likely that some of the parents will send their dc to breakfast clubs at schools, which they will pay for a place which combines childcare and breakfast. Those aren't the same children talked about in the report though, who come from home without being given breakfast.