To be cross DH did not come home after stag do?

[ODearMe]

I dropped him off at 3pm last night and not heard from him or seen him since! He said he was only going for a few drinks and would not be going clubbing with them. So I have left the house unlocked and he did not come home. No phone call out of courtesy to let me know, so now I'm wondering all sorts. He is probably staying with a friend but how am I to know for sure he isn't in hospital? He is not answering his phone.

A couple of months ago, I had a work do and didnt intend staying out all night but I did in the end as was having a good time. I phoned DH to explain I would be staying at hotel in same room as colleague (who he has known since we were children), so he knew it was all above board. He even spoke to her too.

So on this basis, am I being unreasonable to expect a phone call or a text if staying out all night?

YANBU I would be livid.

Of course your not BU, I would be fuming

YANBU because he had said that he was only going for a few. But he will have got drunk, he did go on to the club, he's crashed at a mates and his phone is dead. If he doesn't have form for this, I would let this one pass. Or wait until he isn't hungover to have a quiet word.

I'm going to let him know I am not happy about it! He has done this before years ago but not since as I had strong words about how disrespectful it is not to let me know. He has always got a cab back since. Now the bugger has done it again!

YANBU I'd be livid.

Hope you hear from him soon and then you can get down to the serious business of "You know what you did!"

I phoned DH to explain I would be staying at hotel in same room as colleague (who he has known since we were children), so he knew it was all above board. He even spoke to her too.

Why did you have to validates 'it was all above board' ?

Not really Euphemia. It is the first time he has seen his old school friends in years, so while the intention was for him to have a low key night, it was never going to happen. He would havesawed swept away in the moment I expect. Still nothing from him, bet he is fast asleep and feeling rotten! (hopes).
The annoying thing is, he gave me the cold shoulder for staying out, even when I called to let him know!

This is about more than him staying out all night without letting you know.

And --- what waltzingmatilda says.

Very controlling of you imo - cut him some slack .........

Very controlling of her? Wtf? How do you get that? Why couldn't he have rung her? Especially as he appears not to like his wife staying out all night. Or is it OK for men to behave insensitively and selfishly?

Really Calopene, even after he gave her the cold shoulder for letting him know she was staying out ...

And no YANBU ODearme. I would certainly be reminding him of his attitude when you stayed out.

He's the one that sounds controlling! Speaking to your room mate so he knew it was 'above board'???? Is there a reason he doesn't trust you?

Waltzing-he spoke to colleague as she was old mutual friend we had lost touch with who just got job at my company so I wanted to surprise him! When I say above board,I meant he knew from that chat I was sharing room with girl, and I was safe. It wasn't contrived but it would have dispelled any notion if he had one that there was more to it me staying out.

He has not returned the courtesy!

He probably got absolutely hammered to the point if not being able to use his phone! And is probably still passed out somewhere and a ringing phone won't wake him. If he had something to hide then in sure a late night phone call with dodgy excuse would be far more worrying
Use it to your advantage when he gets home ...... Give him the cold shoulder treatment and subtlety hint at some DIY that needs doing!

YANBU - I get annoyed when my husband leaves the house 8pm to meet his friends at the pub, says he will only stay for a few hours but then doesn't roll in until almost 3am! I don't mind that he does it exactly, I know what men can be like when the beers start flowing, it is just the fact that he doesn't let me know which irks me. I just don't like waking up in the night and finding he isn't there when he said he'd be home hours ago, it makes me worried that something has happened to him. Which is a natural reaction I think.

I hope he comes home soon and that you make him feel as guilty as hell

Have you still not heard anything? Do you have a number for anyone he was out with? I would actually be starting to worry.

No, I don't have another number

I would be frantic with worry if DH didn't text me to say that he was not coming home and would phone all his friends to see if he was alright.