To be upset that dh has received more money in pay packet and not told me?

[Pinkpinot]

Meantime I'm worrying about how to ask him to transfer some money to buy school uniform?
But he's left me £50 and gone out on the piss for the 4th time this wrek

[marriedinwhiteisback]

Come now. It's only words on a screen. They take the pee out of me Happy too. You're a decent lass - don't take it to heart. One day we'll go to goat training lessons together :)

Now Shhhhhhhhhhh vipers - stop hissing.

Get under the flakky happy and run with me - come on FASTER - sticks and stones and all that jazz.

[HappyMummyOfOne]

Thanks Married Can we meander slowly though, its been a long day!

Dont mind people refering to posts or my opinions but to blame me for what other posters write is poor form.

[Pinkpinot]

Yeah, just words on a screen

[daftdame]

Pinkpinot Are you and DH OK now?

[Pinkpinot]

We haven't had the budget discussion, I'm going out tonight, he made a big fuss of getting a babysitter, he's working
Will discuss tomorrow, but things have died down.
He's knows I'm unhappy, and he tries sometimes, but it's hard
Fed up

[marriedinwhiteisback]

But Pink why are you paying for babysitting? When ours were young we had a babysitting circle where it was reciprocal. It was harder for me because my DH worked alll hours but I used to do double day time stuff for evening hours.

[daftdame]

Oh I feel for you.

Sounds like he really does not like financial planning? Who does? However sometimes when your money is not working for you, you have to it. If he really is not appreciating the price of things, I'd have a receipt / priced up grocery shop ready for him. (If you price check with somewhere expensive he can see how much you don't spend ) Plus uniform list. This type of thing is quite easy on line.

Also it makes good financial sense, for you as a family to take advantage of your tax free status. Accounts in your name will not be liable for tax. So a portion of your savings should go there. Although he can have ISAs they are more restrictive, you would just be able to transfer the money back to him if he needed it.

To me it does sound like £1000 per month for you to spend on groceries, petrol and other day to day costs is more realistic. Added to this, if you can show you can save some excess he might like having that emergency fund.

Hope you enjoy your night out.

[Pinkpinot]

??
Sorry, don't have a babysitting circle
Don't know anyone that does either!
Friends that could babysit, would be the ones I'd want to go out with

[daftdame]

I don't have a baby sitting circle either!