Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

See all MNHQ comments on this thread

Original poster

That you should of helped

246 replies

bongobaby · 06/09/2013 14:08

Was running 10 minutes late past school pick up time and rang my friend to ask if it would be okay
If my dc could stop at her house til I got there to collect him from her house. She said no,she was going out and couldn't, fair enough.
Anyway I got to the school and no sign if him, I got held up at a hospital appointment that over ran when it shouldn't of as it was at 1.50 pm so plenty of time I thought to get back.
I got a call a disgruntled call from my friend to say that dc had turned up at her house.
Turns out that her husband opened the door and wouldn't let my dc in as he thought that I had sent my dc round there and then her husband said that my friend was out. But my dc heard her from the kitchen talking.
My dc asked if he could get her to ring me and tell me that he was there.
I know that I was in the wrong for not being there on time , but I would never do that to a child who had the good sense to go to a friend for help in this situation.

OP posts:
expatinscotland · 06/09/2013 15:31

Don't help this person again, ever. Make that very clear, too. If she springs her kids on you, text her and tell her to be there in 15 mins. or you're reporting her. And tell her why.

expatinscotland · 06/09/2013 15:33

If she's a friend then tell her! 'I was really disappointed today. I can't help you with your kids anymore.'

Hullygully · 06/09/2013 15:34

wot usual said

friends help, no matter what, especially a kid.

TimothyClaypoleLover · 06/09/2013 15:35

I think your friends are mean. Mine would never do that. FFS, it was 10 mins of minding your child and for them to not let him in the house is pretty poor behaviour. I appreciate there is speculation that maybe your friend was having some sort of personal crisis but if it really is a one off of you being late then I just don't get what the problem is.

Yes you should have called the school to say you were running late. At least you now know not to rely on your so called friend for a favour in future.

pigletmania · 06/09/2013 15:36

Yanbu she does not sound like a nice person. I would have at least let your ds telephone you

pigletmania · 06/09/2013 15:37

I would cool te friendship adapter this, not help her out anymore!

pigletmania · 06/09/2013 15:39

Some of you are Melanie's not to help a friend in need!

usualsuspect · 06/09/2013 15:40

Would you trust him with a key,so if it happens again he can let himself in and call you?

renaldo · 06/09/2013 15:40

Would HAVE
YANBU by the way she sounds mean

Viviennemary · 06/09/2013 15:43

She was being very unreasonable indeed. I would not be doing her any favours in future after this. The only excuse she could have is if you are constantly ringing up when you're running late. And this obviously isn't the case. School should not be letting 7 year olds leave alone. But if your 'friend' had said she couldn't help why didn't you ring the school if you knew you were going to be late.

expatinscotland · 06/09/2013 15:47

YY, I'd get him a key.

redskyatnight · 06/09/2013 15:48

The DC is Year 5, so 9 not 7.
On the basis that your friend said she couldn't watch him because she was going out, is it not possible that she was literally on the verge of leaving as he arrived? Or were you expecting her to change her plans?

SoonToBeSix · 06/09/2013 15:58

Yellow yes they just open the junior door and they go out in their own. Obviously I wait by the gate and pick her up as do most parents but plenty don't.

Vivacia · 06/09/2013 16:02

I think you should apologise to your friend and explain why your son turned up there even though she'd said no. Then, if there's no reasonable explanation forthcoming, such as a bereavement that day, I would never ask her for a favour again and never do her one.

Well, I probably would, but only once I'd forgotten about this.

BTW Your insistence on using 'of' rather than 'have' in every post, despite it being explained to you, is making me laugh.

usualsuspect · 06/09/2013 16:07

I would use 'of' in every post I ever wrote if I was the OP.

Just to piss off the grammar/spelling police.

Tee2072 · 06/09/2013 16:08

I would of, usual, and I could of. Maybe she should of?

Tee2072 · 06/09/2013 16:10

And I agree. The OP should of given him a key and should give him a key in the future.

Of.

usualsuspect · 06/09/2013 16:18

I think some posters clicked this thread just to correct the 'of'

They should of just ignored it, all that bug bearing must be exhasting.

TSSDNCOP · 06/09/2013 16:18

The OP should of phoned the school to say there was no child care. I cannot see where she's answered that question.

Tee2072 · 06/09/2013 16:20

I know I'm exhausted reading it, usual.

They all could of just ignored it.

AlexReidsLonelyBraincell · 06/09/2013 16:21

Me too Usual. In fact I wish I would of thought of that first.

The grammar correctors just look like smuggy, superior, dickheads. No need!

usualsuspect · 06/09/2013 16:24

I know I spelt exhausting wrong,before you start.Grin

AlexReidsLonelyBraincell · 06/09/2013 16:24

"Ooh look an op in a tizz, worried about her son, annoyed and probably a bit upset that a long term friend has let her down. Shall I help her?"

"Fuck that, let's slate her grammar instead, for I am such a very clever clogs and I want to show everybody on the Mumsnet how big brainied I is".

Buzzardbird · 06/09/2013 16:25

Your friend was a dick OP. I hope your hospital appointment went ok (even though they held you up)?

usualsuspect · 06/09/2013 16:27

I don't think bug bearing is a thing, I made it up Grin