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AIBU?

¨To send a copied and pasted Facebook Conversation to the superior at somebody's work

267 replies

QuintessentialOldDear · 26/08/2013 23:08

Most of what happens on Facebook just wash over me.
But today I got really really pissed off, and the latent feminist in me made a silent ROAR.

I am a member of a Selling/swap page on Facebook for my home town. A man posted asking if somebody knew a place on Facebook to post a job advert. (Vacant position) He attached a screenshot from his mobile detailing the job. He wrote in slang, outlining it was mostly lifting heavy boxes from delivery vans and putting them in storage, saying "this job is not for women".

A woman posted saying she did not think he could phrase it like that as it was discriminating against women. He replied saying in broad terms "you come and try out this job for a day babe and you will see it is not for women". She replied she worked in health care and did not need another job, she just wanted to point out that she did not think it could be phrased that way. A barrage of abuse from him, and various other men, mocking her being a woman, mocking her working in health care, and saying stuff like "of course, working in health care you have the time to make dumbass replies online" etc

I googled his name. Lo and behold he is general manager of the local branch. He has also taken part in a national reality show similar to Temptation Island, drives a Hot car with a Hot girlfriend in 6th form.

A woman posted saying she did 90kg in weights and would love a job with heavy lifting. He replied, he did not really want to meet a woman who could do that job, as he would not fancy a woman who could do such physical work without problems. He wondered if he should repost on lezbo.org.

His girlfriend posted laughing at all the women who felt affronted that they could not do the job.

He wondered if he should repost and hope that he would not get replies from "half brains" and idiots.

It was most absurd, most of the people posting were trying to help him see that it was against the law to post a job advert that was blatantly discriminating against a specific gender, and that not all men would be able to do that job. He was offensive to all of them.

As he is the gm of the local branch of a privately owned medium sized nationwide company, I am so tempted to email the entire conversation, with 30 comments mocking women and generally just being an arse to head office.

I dont know WHY the whole thing has angered me so much.

Should I just let it go thinking "Just another horrible arse" and be glad I dont actually know him at all.

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zipzap · 27/08/2013 06:47

Oh and how old do you reckon he is?
If I were the company I'd also be worried if he were anything more than very early 20s if he is bragging on his public fb page about having a hot 6th form girlfriend.

All just adds to his general unlikeable attributes!

PedantMarina · 27/08/2013 06:49

Send it. Seeeennnnndddd iiiiittttt.

In fact, depending on how you feel about the company as a whole, you may feel free to start the media in on it (the locals, the nationals if they're interested - what a previous poster said about his involvement in that reality show - and everydaysexism) - this will pretty much force the company to take very strong steps, and one of them will almost certainly be sacking the twunt.

Let's see how long he keeps his hot rod and his barely-legal GF without a job...

Please update!

PedantMarina · 27/08/2013 06:51

I meant "start the media before getting a reply from them ..."

But if you like the company and really do think this guy is a one-off, you might give them the opportunity to come back to you with a response before doing the media thing.

sigh< Marina needs coffee...

ZillionChocolate · 27/08/2013 06:53

I'd send it to the employer but not to the press unless the company fails to act at all.

gaggiagirl · 27/08/2013 06:58

send it send it send it send it.

If people like you don't stand up for what is right these horrible people will continue to get away with their behaviour.

Do it and be our hero!

KingRollo · 27/08/2013 07:02

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JamieandtheMagicTorch · 27/08/2013 07:06

email it

LovesBeingOnHoliday · 27/08/2013 07:09

Another who started off as no and now screaming yes

Azultrailer · 27/08/2013 07:09

Send send send!

LovesBeingOnHoliday · 27/08/2013 07:10

Btw I very be very shocked if he got away without being sacked

JamieandtheMagicTorch · 27/08/2013 07:10

If it's the company I'm thinking of they have a brand and reputation that is completely at odds to this twat.

themaltesefalcon · 27/08/2013 07:13

Nope.

"And as ye would that men should do to you, do ye also to them likewise."

RaspberrySnowCone · 27/08/2013 07:15

Send it! He should be sacked. Imagine working with/for him!

VivaLeBeaver · 27/08/2013 07:16

I came on here to say don't do it and then read your post. Please send it, sounds awful.

CaptainSweatPants · 27/08/2013 07:18

Has op sent it ?!!

Tee2072 · 27/08/2013 07:22

Well, it might not hold as much credibility since it was a copy paste and not a screen shot, but, yes, I would send it.

I'm not sure what him being on some reality TV show and having it on his FB has to do with anything, though.

LindyHemming · 27/08/2013 07:22

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Trazzletoes · 27/08/2013 07:22

An organic food delivery company? Def report it. I've used both the main companies and they both pride themselves on their delivery drivers. Most likely because they are the only face to face contact you have with the brand.

I would send it. That's absolutely appalling and totally at odds with the ethos of those companies.

LindyHemming · 27/08/2013 07:23

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JumpingJackSprat · 27/08/2013 07:26

Id send it too.

Inertia · 27/08/2013 07:27

I think any company would prefer to know so that they can deal appropriately with their employee , rather than face legal action or loss of reputation and custom.

christinarossetti · 27/08/2013 07:27

I was also going to say no after just reading the title bit now am deffo in the send it brigade

He hasn't responded well to direct challenges so yes his line manager needs to know how he is representing the company.

lurkedtoolong · 27/08/2013 07:32

I'm yet another one who came on to say don't but read the OP and now think definitely send it. He is damaging the company's reputation by behaving in this way and they have a right to know.

MalcolmTuckersMistress · 27/08/2013 07:33

I really do hope you send this OP. so often I read threads on here where people see or hear of something pretty outrageous and nothing is done about it. This brainless woman hating scrotum needs a reality check.

mignonette · 27/08/2013 07:38

Please send it on behalf of all women who continue to be discriminated against everywhere.

And as a Health Professional I take real exception to his words. Yet I would still treat him w/ respect and compassion should he ever darken my door.

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