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¨To send a copied and pasted Facebook Conversation to the superior at somebody's work

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QuintessentialOldDear · 26/08/2013 23:08

Most of what happens on Facebook just wash over me.
But today I got really really pissed off, and the latent feminist in me made a silent ROAR.

I am a member of a Selling/swap page on Facebook for my home town. A man posted asking if somebody knew a place on Facebook to post a job advert. (Vacant position) He attached a screenshot from his mobile detailing the job. He wrote in slang, outlining it was mostly lifting heavy boxes from delivery vans and putting them in storage, saying "this job is not for women".

A woman posted saying she did not think he could phrase it like that as it was discriminating against women. He replied saying in broad terms "you come and try out this job for a day babe and you will see it is not for women". She replied she worked in health care and did not need another job, she just wanted to point out that she did not think it could be phrased that way. A barrage of abuse from him, and various other men, mocking her being a woman, mocking her working in health care, and saying stuff like "of course, working in health care you have the time to make dumbass replies online" etc

I googled his name. Lo and behold he is general manager of the local branch. He has also taken part in a national reality show similar to Temptation Island, drives a Hot car with a Hot girlfriend in 6th form.

A woman posted saying she did 90kg in weights and would love a job with heavy lifting. He replied, he did not really want to meet a woman who could do that job, as he would not fancy a woman who could do such physical work without problems. He wondered if he should repost on lezbo.org.

His girlfriend posted laughing at all the women who felt affronted that they could not do the job.

He wondered if he should repost and hope that he would not get replies from "half brains" and idiots.

It was most absurd, most of the people posting were trying to help him see that it was against the law to post a job advert that was blatantly discriminating against a specific gender, and that not all men would be able to do that job. He was offensive to all of them.

As he is the gm of the local branch of a privately owned medium sized nationwide company, I am so tempted to email the entire conversation, with 30 comments mocking women and generally just being an arse to head office.

I dont know WHY the whole thing has angered me so much.

Should I just let it go thinking "Just another horrible arse" and be glad I dont actually know him at all.

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ThatVikRinA22 · 26/08/2013 23:42

hope you got a copy of it before it was deleted.....another who read the title thinking "noooooo" then read the post and thought "Yessssss"

QuintessentialOldDear · 26/08/2013 23:44

I did copy before it was zapped.

However, the convo was so long a screenshot did not fit on my small tiny laptop screen, so it is a copy and paste job from bottom to top. Pictures and all.

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StephenFrySaidSo · 27/08/2013 00:08

glad you got it on time- someone (that he respects- therefore male ) must have tipped him off that he was treading on thin ice.

I would send it from the angle that you have assumed it to be the company advertising the job and that they have broken the law by doing so with the attached advertisement- they're likely to take it more seriously than a complaint about one of their staff acting unprofessionally if they think the company itself could get into trouble for something they haven't done.

lagertops · 27/08/2013 00:09

do it- someone in the year below me at school was recently in the DM for saying vile sexist things to a feminist campaigner, and the plumbing company he works for are now investigating and might face the sack

Isatdownandwept · 27/08/2013 00:26

I've advised v large companies on discrimination and am an HR specialist too. I also know you in RL from way back (have name changed many times since).

Please, please send it all to head of HR at company HQ. It is a sackable offence and tbh he deserves to be sacked, although it could,easily result only in a final written warning.

I would also be v tempted to send to everydaysexism and the local rag, too, but I know that would be shallow and vindictive but I'd still fucking do it

depending on how good looking he is and how much of an impact he had in the reality show, the nationals might even fancy this as a story.

nennypops · 27/08/2013 00:50

You would be doing his employers a favour by letting them know. If he is recruiting on their behalf, they stand to get into an awful lot of trouble if they don't deal with this immediately.

MusicalEndorphins · 27/08/2013 00:51

Please, please send it all to head of HR at company HQ. It is a sackable offence and tbh he deserves to be sacked, although it could,easily result only in a final written warning.

I would also be v tempted to send to everydaysexism and the local rag, too, but I know that would be shallow and vindictive but I'd still fucking do it

depending on how good looking he is and how much of an impact he had in the reality show, the nationals might even fancy this as a story.

I agree with above.

FondantNancy · 27/08/2013 03:41

Send it! I'm sure his superiors would love to see that being fanciable is a prerequisite to getting a job at his organisation.

bucylen · 27/08/2013 04:45

Yes send it to his employers. It's the smug/ aggressive attitude which gets me. What makes him think that women are less than he is? Different yes, inferior no.
As suggested, would be tempted with the screen shot.

ClutchingPearls · 27/08/2013 04:59

I agree its his tone and continued sexism that's the issue. I would also send it to HR CEO, MD etc and if they don't act the local paper.

HotCrossPun · 27/08/2013 05:22

And let us know how you get on OP!

YoniMatopoeia · 27/08/2013 05:35

Another "send it" from me.

LittleEsme · 27/08/2013 05:37

Do it. It's his twattish response that riled me more than the original ad, tbh. This kind of attitude in a management position needs addressing pretty sharpish.

MrsSchadenfreude · 27/08/2013 05:38

Send it!

BrevilleTron · 27/08/2013 05:43

Poor little man would have a fit at what I do for a job. Building cars is heavy work.
Send him to me

Send it definitely the longer these attitudes go unchallenged the more prevalent they will be

TiredDog · 27/08/2013 06:06

I read the title and came in ready to tell you not to be an interfering nasty piece of work... .

Get in there! Send it. He deserves to feel the consequences

ShutTheFuckUpBarbara · 27/08/2013 06:15

Send it! He is a twat. I hope it gets him into some trouble.

sparklingstars · 27/08/2013 06:16

I would say do it but then I'd also say don't do it because he may be supporting children who would then suffer if he lost his job. I agree that his behavior suggests that he is an odious toad though.

awaywiththepixies · 27/08/2013 06:24

Don't do anything. Let them post the advert as he has suggested. Apply for job then sue for sex discrimination when you aren't even offered an interview. Use all the Facebook stuff in support of your claim.

LindyHemming · 27/08/2013 06:26

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Lazyjaney · 27/08/2013 06:27

It's been pulled, sending it now is too late. Wait for the Ad to come out.

TotallyEggFlipped · 27/08/2013 06:31

Send it. If it was my company is want to know. He is damaging the company's reputation and opening them up to legal problems. They deserve to know what's going on so they can deal with it.
I wouldn't send it to the press etc unless the company just ignored it.

zipzap · 27/08/2013 06:37

I would also copy his personal Facebook page if you were able to see it publicly and it has lots of work related stuff in. There are several good screen capture extensions available on both firefox and chrome that are easy to use (and once you have them you'll wonder how you ever did without them!)

I wouldn't bother finding out who his superior is, just send it to the HR department as others have said about brining the company into disrepute and showing a blatant disregard for the law. You can say that when you went back to make a proper copy the conversation had been deleted as it had got so bad - if they are interested they can contact the lust owner to see what was said.

KatOD · 27/08/2013 06:45

Send it. What a moron.

Portofino · 27/08/2013 06:46

I bloody would.

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