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AIBU?

¨To send a copied and pasted Facebook Conversation to the superior at somebody's work

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QuintessentialOldDear · 26/08/2013 23:08

Most of what happens on Facebook just wash over me.
But today I got really really pissed off, and the latent feminist in me made a silent ROAR.

I am a member of a Selling/swap page on Facebook for my home town. A man posted asking if somebody knew a place on Facebook to post a job advert. (Vacant position) He attached a screenshot from his mobile detailing the job. He wrote in slang, outlining it was mostly lifting heavy boxes from delivery vans and putting them in storage, saying "this job is not for women".

A woman posted saying she did not think he could phrase it like that as it was discriminating against women. He replied saying in broad terms "you come and try out this job for a day babe and you will see it is not for women". She replied she worked in health care and did not need another job, she just wanted to point out that she did not think it could be phrased that way. A barrage of abuse from him, and various other men, mocking her being a woman, mocking her working in health care, and saying stuff like "of course, working in health care you have the time to make dumbass replies online" etc

I googled his name. Lo and behold he is general manager of the local branch. He has also taken part in a national reality show similar to Temptation Island, drives a Hot car with a Hot girlfriend in 6th form.

A woman posted saying she did 90kg in weights and would love a job with heavy lifting. He replied, he did not really want to meet a woman who could do that job, as he would not fancy a woman who could do such physical work without problems. He wondered if he should repost on lezbo.org.

His girlfriend posted laughing at all the women who felt affronted that they could not do the job.

He wondered if he should repost and hope that he would not get replies from "half brains" and idiots.

It was most absurd, most of the people posting were trying to help him see that it was against the law to post a job advert that was blatantly discriminating against a specific gender, and that not all men would be able to do that job. He was offensive to all of them.

As he is the gm of the local branch of a privately owned medium sized nationwide company, I am so tempted to email the entire conversation, with 30 comments mocking women and generally just being an arse to head office.

I dont know WHY the whole thing has angered me so much.

Should I just let it go thinking "Just another horrible arse" and be glad I dont actually know him at all.

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ChubbyKitty · 27/08/2013 07:50

Send it. What a twat.

Maybe he wants to come and get his dinner from my store?

That store where I do all the heavy dough lifting?

Heavy boxes of cheese?

Pulling out massive pieces of industrial kitchen furniture to clean behind it?

Arsehole

And I am not unattractive.

ChocolateBridesmaid · 27/08/2013 07:53

Have you sent it?

mignonette · 27/08/2013 07:55

My beautiful daughter is up at 3 a.m hand making patisserie and bread. She is five foot nothing and has to have a step stool to reach the ovens whilst carrying a heavy peel full of heavy raw dough. She hand kneads in high temperatures on here feet whilst we all sleep. Then she will soon go off to train at a prestigious Patissiere school doing a full day after her job.

He'd never last that course. And the level of hatred towards women means he knows it too.

Mojavewonderer · 27/08/2013 08:00

Please send it! You can't let him get away with that kind of behaviour!

MrsHoarder · 27/08/2013 08:03

I'd send it. Don't worry about him: he choose to damage his own reputation by having that conversation in a public arena.

ExcuseTypos · 27/08/2013 08:03

I would definitely send it. He shouldn't be incharge of people. He sounds such a knob.

Bloodsocks · 27/08/2013 08:04

I hope you've sent it op and their HR department are currently squirming in embarrassment desperately thinking of a reply and getting this guys file out ready to throw in the bin!

mynameismskane · 27/08/2013 08:18

Send!

NicholasTeakozy · 27/08/2013 08:19

I opened the thread fully expecting to say YABU but read your OP with a face. YANBU in the slightest to send it. What an arse. Send it.

Tiredemma · 27/08/2013 08:20

what a nobhead.

send it.

Bluestocking · 27/08/2013 08:21

Definitely send it, but to Head of HR, not to his superior, who may be tacitly or openly just as bad. And send to everydaysexism too. What a pathetic specimen.

Scrubber · 27/08/2013 08:24

What Bluestocking said. Please do send it, you'll be doing everyone a favour stopping knobbers like him.

QuintessentialOldDear · 27/08/2013 08:37

I will send it today. Just trying to work out who best to send it to. The sons of the Old man who started the business ages ago has taken over, and are on the board, but there is no contact information. They have executive positions on many boards in thriving businesses. I am sure they are sharp enough to realize that this type of attitude, even on grass root level is not on. The website list only the sales and production directors, not HR.

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squeaver · 27/08/2013 08:41

Phone up the head office and ask for the name of the HR Director. If they don't have one, ask for the name if the director with responsibility for HR. Just say you've got something to post to them.

pianodoodle · 27/08/2013 08:42

Send it and not just on behalf of women either!

DH is just as disgusted by this attitude as I am

Could you call the company to get the name and address of the Head Cheese?

pianodoodle · 27/08/2013 08:43

Or the Director...

mignonette · 27/08/2013 08:43

Phone them up and ask for contact details. Pose as somebody else. Tell them you need email contact details plus HR.

Well done Quint. 'If you're not part of the solution you are part of the problem' is my mantra and so many people look the other way.

hackmum · 27/08/2013 08:43

Like others, I was prepared to say yabu, but then I read it! I agree you should send it. His employers should know that one of their managers is doing something illegal because one of these days they could get sued for it.

He sounds thick as well as nasty - always a winning combination.

MumnGran · 27/08/2013 08:50

Just google the address for the Head Office, and use that for mailing.
Then google company name + HR Director (followed by alternatives for Director if first shot doesn't work)
Frequently you get a LinkedIn profile result, showing the search string as current post for a named profile .....
Otherwise, its amazing how many pdf's come up, naming responsible individuals within a company.

It just takes time to find the right title.

orangepudding · 27/08/2013 08:54

I wouldn't usually say anything but in this case he deserves it - he's being discriminatory and needs to learn it's not okay.

bootsycollins · 27/08/2013 09:00

Send it! That idiot deserves to go viral.

blondieminx · 27/08/2013 09:04

So glad to hear you are sending it. What a wankbadger he sounds. Please update on the company's response

BigW · 27/08/2013 09:12

I think you should send it. Reputation is really important and he could do some serious damage to the company by behaving like that on a public forum. Especially as it has now made it from FB to MN. Plus, he sounds like an arse.

I don't think it is vindictive. If you were being vindictive you'd send it to a newspaper.

ems1910 · 27/08/2013 09:13

Send! Keep us updated.

waikikamookau · 27/08/2013 09:14

send it your The Guardian

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