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to not want to go to an Indian resteraunt while suffering horrendous 'morning' (haha) sickness

143 replies

Makqueen · 26/08/2013 11:28

Dh parents arrived today. They love an Indian resteraunt near us and want to eat there everytime they visit. I usually love it too (I am half Indian but a crap cook so it's like a taste of childhood going there).

However, I am 9 weeks pregnant and puking round the clock. The only things I can eat (this week) are soggy cornflakes and for the past two days I am having trouble keeping anything down, sometimes even fluids.

I can't open my own fridge without gagging so the thought of sitting there smelling all those spices is filling me with dread.

I've told dh to go on his own with them tonight, but he won't as the evenings is when my sickness spikes (I passed out on the bathroom floor thur night), but I am gettin guilt tripped by all of them. They say they will miss out if we don't all go and won't get a takeaway as its not the same.

I don't want to ruin thier trip, but I can't go. They are saying I can just nibble on some rice. It's the smell, and the fact that I am exhausted and can't keep anything down.

The resteraunt only has one loo and I don't want to be hogging it.

God, I feel like shit and just want to sleep!

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LadyClariceCannockMonty · 26/08/2013 13:08

Agree, get to hospital now and get yourself sorted out. Then, as Glaikit says, tear your 'D'H a new one Grin

trikken · 26/08/2013 13:09

poor you. hope u feel better soon!

Sorelip · 26/08/2013 13:17

I hope you get seen quickly, and that you feel better soon (I haven't had HG myself but my mum did with me and my little sister, so I sympathise).

I haven't got anything constructive to add, other than that your inlaws are cunts, and as for your DH, he is the luckiest fucker in the world that you didn't divorce him on the spot for that email, let alone what happened after. He needs to spend the rest of his fucking life making up for that.

PrincessFlirtyPants · 26/08/2013 15:14

I'm Shock at your DH saying that his parents happiness is priority of your unborn child's life... Just Shock I could not imagine my DH saying this in a million years, I'm just so Sad that you lost your baby after that. Flowers

Please, get these horrible people out of your home. A visit every 5/6 weeks is clearly too much when they are this poisonous. Do they not care that their behaviour is risking the life of their unborn DGC?! What lind of people are they?? I just cannot believe people like this exist!! How horrible! Angry

PrincessFlirtyPants · 26/08/2013 15:16

*kind

fryingpantoface · 26/08/2013 15:49

OP I had HG until 16 weeks and it was rubbish. I still can't be around certain smells, curry being one of them, because it sets me off.

Go to the hospital and get looked into

Makqueen · 26/08/2013 16:06

Just to say a big thanks to those who said go to hospital - it gave me the push to go to A &E.

I'm very glad I did, I am being kept in as there ia blood in my urine and I do have quite a high temp and my blood pressure is horrible, dr said it was a good job I came in sooner rather than later and I was seen very quickly, thankfully.

Still in A&E waiting to be taken to a ward and dh has popped home to get me an overnight bag. He's left me with his phone so I can have 3G at least, but he text his mum from it a when the dr said they wanted to keep me in and she just text back with 'handy'. !!!!!!!

Ffs, if that was my ds pregnant wife, I'd be concerned!

Am being rehydrated and given antibiotics so hopefully will be on the mend soon, I feel better just being here though and not coping on the bathroom floor tbh.

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PrincessFlirtyPants · 26/08/2013 16:10

Glad you are at hospital, Makqueen hopefully you will feel much better soon.

What a bitchy text, is no one allowed to be unwell when they are pregnant?! Angry what a cow!!

LadyClariceCannockMonty · 26/08/2013 16:11

'handy' Shock God, she's an evil cunt!!!!

OP, so sorry you're unwell but I'm so pleased you've been seen and are getting sorted. LOOK AFTER YOURSELF AND YOUR BABY. FUCK THE REST OF THEM.

Yes, I shouted that Grin Thanks

CaptainCapybara · 26/08/2013 16:14

Hope you feel better very soon, rest as much as you can. Your MIL is a shitty troll, I would be telling your H that she better not be there when you get home.

QuietNinjaTardis · 26/08/2013 16:16

I'm absolutely gobsmacked at what a complete fuckwit your mil is! At least you're in the right place fr medical attention and I hope you feel better soon. Ignore anything she might say and give your Dh a kick up the bum if he doesn't stick up for you.

RSVP · 26/08/2013 16:16

Stay focused on getting better. You are in the right place.
Don't waste any time thinking about them, they are not worth the energy.
Seriously, your MIL, what a cow!

candycoatedwaterdrops · 26/08/2013 16:20

Blank your bitch of a MIL out of your head and just focus on you and getting better. Wishing you a speedy recovery as well as lots of Flowers and Cake for you!

fryingpantoface · 26/08/2013 16:22

Handy!!! Did you reply? I would be saying i didn't want them staying over again.

RobotHamster · 26/08/2013 16:30

I'd have to sit on my hands to resist replying to that text! Cheeky bitch.
Actually, I'd happily reply, so she knew I'd seen it.

Hope you feelbetter soon

CleverWittyUsername · 26/08/2013 16:46

Handy???!! What an absolute bitch. I would be so tempted to reply. I hope you are soon feeling better.

ems1910 · 26/08/2013 16:55

I'm so glad you got checked out. Take care of yourself xx

As for mil, what an evil cow, esp after your previous loss :( Think no more of them, what did dh reply?

lastnightiwenttomanderleyagain · 26/08/2013 17:00

Jesus wept. I started this thread wondering how bloody special this curry house is. Don't get me wrong, I have my favourite restaurants but if one of my friends, let alone family, was that ill I wouldn't dream of forcing them to go and would even not go myself if there was anything I could do to help. I cannot even.comprehend their mindset - this is the wellbeing of their daughter in law and future grandchild.

Then I got to the MMC part, and MIL's 'handy' text... Oh, I'm sorry, of course, you're just being melodramatic and faking a trip to.hospital to get out of a curry with them. Jesus. How can two people be so utterly lacking in compassion.

OP - I genuinely hope you're feeling a little better soon. If I'm honest,it's quite depressing seeing all the well wishes you've had on MN whilst knowing that your own family can't even muster basic concern. You need a serious chat with your DH. These people are a complete drain and, from your post, offer nothing positive to your life. They need sorting out and sharpish.

IJustNeedANap · 26/08/2013 17:03

I'm so glad you got yourself to hospital! Your DH is a complete arsehole and his parents are alot bloody worse! But enough about that you need to focus on you and not stress about them idiots Thanks

FondantNancy · 26/08/2013 17:05

Handy?! What an extremely nasty thing to say. Does she think you cajoled the doctors into admitting you so you didn't have to go for a curry? Hmm

Hope you feel better very soon, OP, and your pregnancy is a healthy one.

OP's husband: grow a spine. NOW.

GlaikitFizzog · 26/08/2013 17:12

Just when I thought it couldn't get any worse! What a cow bag your mil is.

I would be tempted to text her back, telling her to get out and stay out she is no longer welcome in yr home.

However, you must concentrate on being well again for you and your baby. I sincerely hope your dh mans up and stands up to his toxic parents. And defends you and your relationship.

If he doesn't ill happily tear him a new one for you.

Get well soon Flowers

heidihole · 26/08/2013 17:22

HANDY! HANDY! i'd fucking stick a rocket up her arse and light it, OP

Your DH needs to stand up to them right now. It will only get worse once baby is born.

eurochick · 26/08/2013 17:23

What a cow!

goonyagoodthing · 26/08/2013 17:26

Jesus Christ, some people are bonkers. Does she really believe you could FAKE blood in your urine? I am amazed at the ignorance and utter lunacy of some people. Your DH should have replied to that message with a "Would you ever fuck off".

goonyagoodthing · 26/08/2013 17:27

And OP I think you said in an earlier post that they are usually reasonable people. I doubt it, its just that they have kept their ignorance and bad manners under wraps until now.