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Original poster

That if someone comes to your house with some cakes/scones/biscuits that they leave them if there are only two left at the end

75 replies

nocluemum · 23/08/2013 19:14

And not take the two cakes home at the end of the morning like somebody did at my house this week. Ten people in my house and 2 cakes left at the end and the person took them home..... I would have left them as think that if someone is going to have a load of people at their house the least you can do is leave them a couple of cakes for later. What would you do.....

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GredandForge · 23/08/2013 19:17

A woman I know came to a party once, brought six beers, drank two of them then in the morning rang up to see if she should collect the other four or if I would drop them off! Some people have very odd ideas about possession.

Squitten · 23/08/2013 19:18

I would never take food back unless someone asked me to

LillyofWinchester · 23/08/2013 19:19

Haha, that's so weird. The correct etiquette is to leave them for the host, of course!

PigeonPie · 23/08/2013 19:19

I'd have left them and would generally try to make sure I add a couple of extras so that their DH can have one later!

Certainly would never expect leftovers back - just rude!

trinity0097 · 23/08/2013 19:23

If I made them it would be as a gift and I would have kept back at home any I wanted to keep from a batch.

ILetHimKeep20Quid · 23/08/2013 19:24

How odd!

expatinscotland · 23/08/2013 19:26

I'd leave them.

pianodoodle · 23/08/2013 19:27

That is weird!

LanguageTimothy · 23/08/2013 19:29

Cakes brought to coffee are a hostess gift surely.

they are all for ME

80sMum · 23/08/2013 19:30

Rather rude to take them home, I think! She's obviously very fond of her own baking.

HorryIsUpduffed · 23/08/2013 19:32

That is weird.

Mind you, some hostesses press you to take a doggy bag home because they've inevitably overcatered. Maybe she thought you'd catered so well you didn't need them.

Floggingmolly · 23/08/2013 19:32

Did she actually rummage through the leftovers to ascertain which were hers? Some people shouldn't be allowed out on their own!

LanguageTimothy · 23/08/2013 19:35

I once had a lady visit and without a word hand me a pineapple. She was bringing in a pram at the time so I wasn't really sure if it was for me or it was a gift..,

IsThatTrue · 23/08/2013 19:37

I would leave them normally.

I have taken half a cake home before but the hostess was on a diet and I left enough for another piece each for her dcs. It was too nice to leave and it get chucked!

miffybun73 · 23/08/2013 19:37

YANBU, I would never ever take home any food or drink that I had taken to someone elses house. Very very rude/impolite.

Gracie990 · 23/08/2013 19:43

Christ we had guests once who came over, they brought wine x 2.
We ordered takeout, they didn't offer to pay half. They drank our wine x2 one of their own and asked to take it at the end!

We don't have them over anymore just too rude.

Original poster
nocluemum · 23/08/2013 19:46

Had only done a few other bits and these were def the highlight. Glad it is not me being off/rude/ wanting to eat them all!!

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Capitola · 23/08/2013 19:50

We went to a house party where a couple took a bottle of Bombay Sapphire.

We all stayed the night and next morning, they left and cheerfully took the bottle (which about 1/3 left) with them.

We were all Shock

mumofweeboys · 23/08/2013 20:34

Food you would leave, alcohol on the other hand if its a large amount I would take. We have house parties as do our friends where all of us bring a crate of beer and few bottles of wine. People tend to drink their own then take whatever is left at the end of the night but then we are all pretty hard up and we all tend to drink at different rates.

DieDeutschLehrerin · 23/08/2013 21:00

My husband does this. Usually asks first but still it drives me mad and makes me cringe.

NicknameIncomplete · 23/08/2013 21:01

I agree with mumofweeboys.

I would leave food but take alcohol home. However if i am at my friends for movie night i might sneak home some chocolate if i had bought it Grin

galletti · 23/08/2013 21:05

Anything I take to someone else's house I would leave. IMO incredibly rude to take something back. And usually invitations are reciprocated so works out fine.

TheRedRabbit · 23/08/2013 21:13

I had 5 friends come over once when I was pregnant. I slaved away cooking a lovely meal for everyone and a few of them had brought cakes over for tea later. I couldn't eat any tea as had morning sickness and went upstairs to lie down for a bit. When I felt better I came downstairs to find that 4 of them had left and taken all the cake with them! I was very fed up as had been looking forward to eating cake when I felt better! Honestly! Taking cake from a pregnant woman!!!

sazzle82 · 23/08/2013 21:14

Generally I always leave what I take, unless the hosts give it back to me. However, once we went to dinner at DH's friends. I had made a cheesecake for desert (my first ever), when our taxi arrived in my drunken state I opened their fridge and took what was left of the cheesecake.

When I found it in my own fridge the next morning I was very Blush. I apologised to them and they weren't bothered (so they said anyway). I think I got it to take my tin home, but I can't really remember.

Clary · 23/08/2013 21:19

In my book club we often bring food, sometimes that might be a batch of brownies or similar.

I only bring any home if the hostess insists (take these home for your DC, we won't eat them etc) but really expect to leave them. I am taking them as a gift, if we don't eat them then the lovely hostess can enjoy, surely.

Very odd behaviour from your guest OP.