Bad news

[123bucklemyshoe]

My sis rang tonight to let me know my mum has died. I had got closer to my DM in the last few years & I feel sad. Although she was quite elderly we thought she would go on & on...

We are on holiday about 2 hrs from home. Sis says don't come home - nothing can be done at mo & she is right and my other sisters are there & can help. Need to tell dcs, although part of me doesn't want to & stay in the bubble ofour holiday. Just celebrated ds's birthday. We are due back on Friday & Dd goes away with friends that eve. I know I have to tell them - give my Dd the choice about going away (dd is 11, ds is 7) & make it feel real for me ....

DH being lovely & happy to go home if I want to....

Not sure I need advice/opinion -has made it feel more real posting

Probably going to be some kind of formalities according to sis - so don't know yet. Not likely to be this week. Dd due to be away next week so need to talk to her about this.

Sorry, I missed the bit about your DD being away next week. Do talk to your DD and DS, but give yourself a chance to breathe and gather your thoughts. And look after yourself. This is bound to be a tough time for you, so please be kind to yourself.

84! Bless her :)

Banana and parsnip cake indeed.

You'll have to bake one.

Where are you? Do you need any support?

Thanks Monty - will have lots of support when home - 4 sis & a bro. Feel a bit disconnected...

Maybe we should have a feast in her honour...tinned salmon mousse pie, white dinner (steamed fish, parsley sauce, mashed spuds, cauli)...

Need to sleep - thankyou for support.

sorry to hear about your Mum x

So sorry to hear about your Mum 123. Happened to us with both my DM and DMIL - both died very suddenly...

Whatever you decide to do today, be gentle with yourself - and let your DC help you come to terms with things, as they will want to talk about Granny. Your DH sounds lovely - let him take over a bit and allow yourself to start the grieving process.

All the very best for the next few weeks

Hello OP
So sorry to read this - do let us know if you'd like us to move this out of AIBU wont you?
Kindest

So sorry for the loss of your mum

I'm so sorry for you loss x didn't want to read and run x look after yourselves xxx

Thank you mumsnet. It was originally an AIBU in my mind - re holiday etc.

To everyone we have told dcs - they are ok. Been an odd day - thank you for your support last night.

Hope you've all had some cuddles off each other.

Take care.

Well done you.

Very thoughtful of you to update, thank you.

Very best of luck with everything.