My sis rang tonight to let me know my mum has died. I had got closer to my DM in the last few years & I feel sad. Although she was quite elderly we thought she would go on & on...
We are on holiday about 2 hrs from home. Sis says don't come home - nothing can be done at mo & she is right and my other sisters are there & can help. Need to tell dcs, although part of me doesn't want to & stay in the bubble ofour holiday. Just celebrated ds's birthday. We are due back on Friday & Dd goes away with friends that eve. I know I have to tell them - give my Dd the choice about going away (dd is 11, ds is 7) & make it feel real for me ....
DH being lovely & happy to go home if I want to....
Not sure I need advice/opinion -has made it feel more real posting
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123bucklemyshoe · 19/08/2013 23:11
Well done you.
Very thoughtful of you to update, thank you.
Very best of luck with everything.
So sorry to hear about your Mum 123. Happened to us with both my DM and DMIL - both died very suddenly... 
Whatever you decide to do today, be gentle with yourself - and let your DC help you come to terms with things, as they will want to talk about Granny. Your DH sounds lovely - let him take over a bit and allow yourself to start the grieving process.
All the very best for the next few weeks
84! Bless her :)
Banana and parsnip cake indeed.
You'll have to bake one. 
Where are you? Do you need any support?
123, I am so, so sorry about your Mum. Your stories about her are wonderful, and made me smile, especially the parsnip and banana cake. I think you are right to wait until tomorrow to tell your children. You say you are going home on Friday? Do you mind me asking (and tell me to bugger off if you want) what the time frame for funerals is where you are from (assuming UK). As I am in Ireland, so here a funeral will usually be within 2-3 days. Will going home on Friday get your children home in time for the funeral?
Again, so sorry for your loss, you will be in my thoughts 
Oh they're perfect stories
You might need to get back and feel close to her. You'll know what to do tomorrow when you've digested it a bit.
My mum died 9 years ago this weekend. I live a flight away and it was an emergency so dc's were 11 and 8, their dad stepped up (exdh) and took them for me while I went back for the funeral. (quick where I come from). Dc's weren't close to her anything, as I saw it.
They told later they wished they'd been there, for their gm's funeral and for me :(
But we all sit around laughing about the stuff she used to do. Bless her :)
So sorry OP, your story is the same as my dsis who was on holiday with her family when our mum died, just over 6 years ago.
You are in shock now and tomorrow it will be apparent what you need to do. Be kind to yourself and let your dh help you, he sounds really supportive.
I let mine not take over but sort of lead me to what to do, iyswim.
If it was me I would tell the dc tomorrow and go home early, but you need to do what you think is right.
Sending you my sympathy, so sorry love.
I also like granny stories and any time you want to share, I like so many others will be here.
Very sad for you, we only have one mum, even if the relationship has been difficult at times. And quite a shock to lose a whole generation so quickly.
You sound very thoughtful and sensitive, as do your DSis and your DH. I don't think there is any harm in holding back the news for a day or so, assuming of course that you can hide your feelings.
Really, I suppose I'm saying however you handle it, will be fine. If you tell the kids soon there will be questions and tears, if you leave it a couple of days and explain why, they'll understand. I know a lot of people will disagree with this. I just think she was your mum and you should be able to handle it how you want to, if that means keeping it to yourself for a while that's fine.
Look after yourself sweetheart, sending hugs
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