to be disgusted by this.

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Dh never does the washing but was running low on pants. So he collected all the dirty pants in the house including ds's badly soiled ones in the laundry basket i use for clean washing.
Aibu to be disgusted by this. I have cleaned said basket with anti bac spray but this makes be cringe.
Aibu or ocd.

I didn't stop today with cooking, cleaning laundry and chilcare for 4 dc. Yet dh didn't do any diy or mow the grass. He sat watching the tv and playing computer games. Ok did cook dinner but thats it
Maybe with 1 or 2 dc it can work but not with 4

He's behaving like a 5th child, OP. This needs to change.

Yabu

I have separate baskets for clean and dirty, but if the clean one gets dirty I just give it a spray and wipe down or just rinse it. No big problem.

I wouldn't give your dh a hard time, he was helping with the laundry.

You need to have a serious talk with your dh about the sharing of chores.

I'd have switched his computer games off, because that's just ridiculous.

We have an ironing cupboard for clean clothes, no mistake where the dirty laundry goes. Did he collect the pants up for you to wash, then? Nice if so.

Just read some more posts, your dh sounds lazy and unkind

Also when I use to work in a nursery we just binned the badly soiled pants. I thought this was the norm? I would have felt bad handing them over to the parents in a bag. Now i wonder if the parents thought this was unreasonable and would have preferred to wash them?

I often say I am a 'bit OCD'. What I mean by this is, that at it's worst, I have had full blown OCD along with depression but am on antidepressants which help with both the depression and the OCD. I have also had CBT counselling with OCD. But it hasn't completely gone away, it just doesn't get in the way of living.

Sometimes I'll be aware of something in an OCD way, but I won't always respond to it as I am able to control it to a certain degree.

As for laundry, I would never use the same basket for clean/dirty washing I carry the washing to the machine with my hands, and then wash my hands afterwards.

Also, if OP does have OCD, then 'caked in poo' might be an exaggeration. I know that being a 'bit OCD' myself, dirt can be amplified in my eyes leading me to exaggerate.

Another one here to say many people on here are wrong about OCD. It doesn't just mean you are a clean freak. I have OCD and my compulsion trigger is my teeth, I have to count them all countless times a day and check that every one of them is not wobbly or chipped. I often convince myself that one is wobbly and that triggers a anxiety attack for me. This happened last night and here I am at 6am having not slept feeling anxious and counting my teeth over and over. We were meant to be visiting family today but now DH will have to take DCs on his own and I will have to stay here :(
You cant be "a little bit OCD" because OCD takes over your life, trust me I know. Sorry for derailing the thread.

Forget the OCD comment for a minute.
Op's husband doesn't supervise their 4 year old when he poos, thereby either leaving the child with a shitty bum or leaving the child to drop his shitty pants wherever he is and leave them there. This is Not Ok. He also fails to wipe his own arse properly leading to shitty adult pants which he also leaves for the OP to clean. This is also Not Ok.

I'm not surprised your husband can't toilet train your child when he isn't toilet trained himself.

Skid marks are unacceptable from grown adults.

How you can have sex with someone who behaves this way is beyond me.

Pooey pants need washing straightaway. Other than that it would have been fine,.

There's a big difference between 'i do most of the washing' and 'my husband never does any washing'. I do most of our washing but if someone told me to be grateful that DH had done it I'd be . As would DH actually because he's a proper grown up who knows how to wash and dress himself and stuff.