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to be disgusted by this.

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binhome · 18/08/2013 17:31

Dh never does the washing but was running low on pants. So he collected all the dirty pants in the house including ds's badly soiled ones in the laundry basket i use for clean washing.
Aibu to be disgusted by this. I have cleaned said basket with anti bac spray but this makes be cringe.
Aibu or ocd.

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binhome · 18/08/2013 19:08

Ok so iambu re basket thing and ocd comment but dh helping really.
I do all the laundry for 6 people. In those 0 years he has probably loaded the machine twice maybe.

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LadyBryan · 18/08/2013 19:08

Gosh lots of judgement here.

I do all the housework. MrLB works. So shoot me Grin

OnTheNingNangNong · 18/08/2013 19:11

I think your DH needs to be shown how to wipe properly, skiddies are vomit inducing.

StephenFrySaidSo · 18/08/2013 19:12

a lot of ignorant comments about OCD on this thread.

someone can suffer from OCD without it having anything to do with cleanliness. hoarding for example is a form of OCD which in itself makes cleaning quite difficult.

Ilovemyself · 18/08/2013 19:13

Namechangesforthehardstuff. I'm not a "helpless little prince" but I don't do a great deal of the washing. Mainly because my wife had done it all before I get home from work as she stays at home and looks after the children.

Nice generalisation there!

MrsDeVere · 18/08/2013 19:14

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IneedAyoniNickname · 18/08/2013 19:34

I have 2 laundry baskets.
1 upstairs where dirty clothes go. I carry them down in my arms based on what colour load I am doing,.eg I carry all the whites down.
Another basket for moving clean washing out to the line/in to the ironing board.

I thougt that was normal Confused

miffybun73 · 18/08/2013 20:48

IneedAyoniNickname, I thought that was what everyone did until I read this thread :)

candycoatedwaterdrops · 18/08/2013 21:50

Sorry miffybun for making assumptions earlier in the thread. I was a bit riled up but still, no excuse. Flowers

Onesleeptillwembley · 18/08/2013 21:51

If you are that bad surely you'd have cleaned the 'badly soiled' ones immediately. Get a grip.

wharrgarbl · 18/08/2013 21:56

Sorry, I know I'm digressing but fuck it out a window!

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binhome · 18/08/2013 22:29

I am glad there are a few on here who keep a hamper for dirty stuff and a basket for transporting clean. I was thinking i was totally mad.
I do deal with the soiled pants when i assist ds. However, i don't always do this as i now have a clingly ebf baby to deal with too.
Dh just seems to let ds get on with it. Its only days later that i find them in a room i don't use.
Anyway basket has been cleaned and i am calmer now dd asleep.

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binhome · 18/08/2013 22:30

O and there was normal laundry with the pants.

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Fakebook · 18/08/2013 22:36

Why weren't the pooey pants rinsed straightaway? Confused. You just leave poo in clothes lying about until it dries in a dirty clothes basket? Double Confused.

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binhome · 18/08/2013 22:39

I don't. They were ones i found in a room i don't use. When i deal with ds i deal with them immediately.

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WestieMamma · 18/08/2013 22:40

My husband isn't a 'helpless little prince' but he doesn't do any washing either. Just like I don't do any lawn mowing or hedge trimming or house painting. It's division of labour according to ease of ability.

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binhome · 18/08/2013 22:46

The problem with that style of division of labour is that you end up doing the every day jobs and he gets to do the weekly, monthly or whatever jobs.
Sadly this is the way we do it too but quite frankly i am struggling at the moment. I didn't stop today with cooking, cleaning laundry and chilcare for 4 dc. Yet dh didn't do any diy or mow the grass. He sat watching the tv and playing computer games. Ok did cook dinner but thats it.
Maybe with 1 or 2 dc it can work but not with 4.

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Mummyoftheyear · 18/08/2013 22:46

I have to agree with the comments on OCD. I'be had OCD and have some tendencies, still. But it is bandied about like a fashionable show-off label for being neat.
In our house:
Dirty clothes get flung downstairs and popped straight into mesh laundry bags. - separate for lights or darks. Caked poi would be soaked and cleaned a bit though as wouldn't like the idea of poo going into washing machine! We all have our 'thing'.

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binhome · 18/08/2013 22:47

Sorry cooking was doing breakfast and lunch.

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ImagineJL · 18/08/2013 22:48

Your DH needs a serious poo lesson. A 4 year old can't be assumed to be able to wipe themselves effectively. My 4 year old certainly can't. So he should at the very least check your DS after he's done a poo.

And as for his skid marks - words fail me. Why? Why would an adult be incapable of wiping their bum clean after they've done a poo, unless they have a disability? That's just disgusting.

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binhome · 18/08/2013 22:50

No i am definately not neat. Would love to have a neat and tidy house but just not possible with amount of stuff we have.

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TheGinLushMinion · 18/08/2013 23:19

Bit odd really aren't you...

WestieMamma · 18/08/2013 23:36

The problem with that style of division of labour is that you end up doing the every day jobs and he gets to do the weekly, monthly or whatever jobs.

That's not a problem for me. I'd rather do the everyday jobs. I despise shopping so husband does the weekly shop. Land where we live is so cheap that cutting the grass is an endurance test. I've done it once and it took me 3 days. I'd rather do all the laundry by hand for the rest of my life than have to do that again. As for painting the house (timber house needs repainting on the outside every 10 years) it's like the Forth Bridge. You finally get to the end and it's time to start again. :o

StephenFrySaidSo · 18/08/2013 23:49

my ds2 took a year to dependably toilet train. I had used reusables until toilet training so I had really had it up to my back teeth of dealing with shitty washing. for the last few months of toilet training, when he had a poo accident I just binned the pants. not very eco friendly I know but I was sick sore and tired of soaking pooey pants several times a day (you cant put a disposable liner in pants!) so I bought those £2.50 for 7 pairs packs in asda and if he pooed in them I binned them without hesitation. it meant no poo lying about the wash basket, no soaking, and no me getting pissed off if he had another accident (I know I shouldn't have been but after a year it really started to get to me).

Thatballwasin · 18/08/2013 23:51

OCD meant I had to take a year's break from my uni course. Life revolved around hand washing, touching ever part of the tap handle at the same time while holding my breath. Sometimes I'd be almost hysterical and bursting for air trying to get it right. It was really horrible. Electrical switches were a nightmare too. Luckily for me it turned out to be something I kicked, to have had that all my life would have been dreadful.

Pooey pants would have bothered me but probably not in the straightforward linear "too germy" way that people who have never had OCD might think.