What's the most pampered/indulged behaviour you've ever seen?

[ChaosTrulyReigns]

When I used to have a proper job , one of my colleagues would phone her mom at the first spit of rain to go and fetch her washing in. This was about 8 miles from the office (so who knew what the weather was like at home?) abd a 4 mile round trip fir the mom and dad (mom didn't drive).

SIOB that the parents would do it!

She once called home and asked her to go and wash up a breakfast bowl as she had run out of time to do it.

When my MIL wants another glass of wine, she holds her glass up in the air and glares at FIL until he jumps up and refills it. I've always been amazed that he does it.

I am stealing that 'arms folded'.

I had a primary school techer who would send us kids to fetch things by saying 'I can't get it, I've a bone in my leg'.

When I met DH (He was 20 at the time and we were both at uni) his mum was still buying him everything, - all clothes, underwear, toiletries, - she would travel forty miles on the bus every other weekend and bring him food home made cakes etc. and take his washing home, and return the previous fortnight's laundry, all neatly ironed.

If we had a meal at her house, she would serve DH and his Dad first with as much as they wanted of everything, then what was left could be divided among the 'womenfolk'.

She was still washing his hair and running a bath for him when I first knew him (also doing this for his dad and his 18yr old sister).

She gave her child benefit to both her children to spend on themselves (even though she wasn't well off) and when my SIL had a sumer job, she was given bread tokens with her wages (for a crappy local bakery) and MIL used to buy the bread tokens from her to give her extra money.

MIL though I was an absolute hag when I said there was no way I would be running around after him wiping his arse for him.

Now wonder he and his sister are both so bloody lazy (although DH is a bit better now after 31 years of training at Kurri boot camp!)

I don't get why you'd go to the supermarket if it doesn't interest you, threesy, can't you tell your DH what to get without being there and physically pointing at it?

Loving the spoonfeeding girlfriend!

A girl I went to university with invited me and other guests to her birthday party. Attached to this email invite was a list of gifts she wanted, with prices added. None were less than $60 (Cdn) sooo...like £45ish?

Then there was a PS that said "if you can't afford any of these gifts, let me know and I'll buy them myself with my credit card. You can pay me back later."

No one bought her anything off her list. I didn't go to her party. And then she wrote a blog post about how she's flat broke buying all the gifts herself because "no one bothered to read the gift list."

Sadly a very true story.

Do it myself obviously I am not incapable of doing anything I just have the option not to.

My dd can be a bit of a princess - she's always trying to get me to fetch things for her because she can't be arsed. The difference is she's 3. And I still don't put up with it!

'Just because some of us live differently or expect different things from our other half doesn't make us horrible people.'

I have to say it kind of does, if you expect this level of servitude from people who presumably have their own feelings. Assuming this is the whole story and not just one side of it

Kurri your DH had to get his mum to wash his hair at the age of 20?
speechless....

Threesy, I think you are missing the point. The reason people are ridiculing your helplessness is because people with extreme special needs, physical and psychological, are fighting every day to live independent lives, including the kind of things you pride yourself on not doing.

three can I ask? how did it all start?

Were you this way when you first met?

GeorgeDawes I'm not horrified, I just think you both sound ridiculous. I've met people like you before, and they generally think people see them as "cute", what with their little spoilt ways and all. In reality, most people think it's a bit sad

That's just it. Its sad enough behaviour in a very young woman, and I admit when I first got a doting boyfriend (now my DH) I spent a few months letting him run around after me. The novelty soon wore off! But what is even more sad is when a middle aged or older woman still behaves like this, and is blissfully unaware that no-one can really be bothered with her any more. It would be annoying enough behaviour in a super-attractive, cute young girl but its really very sad in an otherwise ordinary specimen.

Neither of the two women I've described are even pretty girls. The world is full of pretty girls who work, are nice genuine helpful people, interesting, talented, and then you get these analogous creatures who wrongly assume the world revolves around them and probably blame everyone else for being "nasty", particularly other women, when they don't give them the same attention.

I do think if you scratched the surface, you might find some psychological tendency floating about there somewhere, not least the ability to see yourself as others see you and a lack of empathy. I've also noticed that this type have few friends outwith their family, and are very reliant on their parents for social support, which is nice, but not to the exclusion of a social circle of friends outwith the family.

"If I don't want to drive somewhere I will ask someone if they will go for me, or take me. I don't carry money with me so if I forget my lunch or don't have anything in then my DF will bring me some lunch. I do not sit on a fluffy pink chair and throw out demands and orders."

FFS!!

Oh just remembered When DSIL came to stay with us when she was younger, she would take a piece of fruit out of the bowl hold it out to me and say 'can you wash this for me please?' - I would laugh merrily and say 'have your arms fallen off?'

She also wouldn't eat any vegetables from my garden as they would be 'dirty' not sure where she thought shop bought vegetables grew.

Why on earth would anyone be proud to admit they're
a) "hard work"
b) Materialistic
c) So incapable/lazy/irresponsible/out of touch with the adult world that they can't carry cash around with them?

The mind boggles.

That's hilarious mummybeerest. How do people manage to live amongst humans?

Used to volunteer with a bit of an oddball woman in her 50s. She still lived at home with her elderly mum.

When she was about to leave for home, she would ring her mum and announce "Supper alert, mother!" down the phone. Poor mother would have to prepare food and this could be at 10 or even 11pm.

Well, this makes me feel a bit better about my indulgences.

My colleague and I are both only children and are fortunate to get a lot of support from our respective parents with childcare. Her mum often cooks her dinner if she's working late and her DH is out, and mine will come and do a morning's cleaning for me if I've got a lot on.

We had a laugh the other day about the fact that she had never cooked a meal until she and her DH moved in together, and I had to get my DH to show me how to use the washing machine .

However - she learned to cook, I figured out how to use the washing machine (although DH is as bit uptight about laundry so still does most of it) and we both look out for our parents and do what we can for them - our being 'spoilt' is really a side effect of having a tiny family and all living in the same area as much as anything.

I saw my friend piggy back her 14 year old son up the stairs so that he would take a bath that his younger sister had been told to run for him I was astounded and even more so when he banged on the floor for her to go up dry his feet and piggy back him downstairs. She did this on the grounds he wouldn't bathe otherwise and it wasn't a one off it was a regular thing.
Her older daughter 18 also had a tantrum like a toddler, kicking and screaming because her mum had woken her at lunchtime before the tea she had made her was cool enough to drink and had put butter on her toast when she should have known that she would want chocolate spread.

quesadila - sadly yes, he and his sister and his Dad (who was about 58 at the time!) would lean over the bath and she would wash their hair for them. She offered to wash mine for me when I stayed there,- I declined on the basis that I wasn't an under five.

Wow Mummybeerest!

I remember once meeting a guest in a holiday let I own and asking her to sign the key return agreement. She promptly burst into tears, wailing and whining about how she didn't want to take the responsibility and her mother would sign when she arrived. She was in her thirties.

I've never had to deal with a whining, wailing adult before so I left her without keys in the property and sent my DH round later. She pulled the same stunt with him, so he chucked her out until her mother arrived!

We still laugh about that one.

Yes I've always been like this since I was a child, theres a reason as to why I was spoiled from a young age also that genuinely explains why I am the way I am and after having looked into it was told by a professional I revert back to the age and mentality of a 3 year old in certain situations because of it.

Yes, my 3 year old has started to say '^Find* it Mummy!'.

As in 'Where's Iggle Piggle? Find it Mummy!'.

The key is I say to him I am not going to find it. if he wants Iggle Piggle, then he must go and find iggle piggle.

I think he kicked up a fuss maybe twice.

[mean mummy alert]

I have a friend who's sister moved back home after university to save money, while communiting the next town for work
Her daily routine was something like this:
6:30am: Her mum would wake up her with a cup of tea
6:45am: her mum would drive her to the gym near their house then drive back home and make her lunch
8:00am: Her mum would drive back to the gym, give her a packed lunch and pick up her gym clothes, then drive her to the station, then drive home
6:00pm: Her mum would pick her up from the station, drive her back home where dinner would be waiting and her gym clothes (and any other clothes) would be all nicely laundered and put away

Sometimes, she would prefer to go to the gym after work, so her mum would meet her at the station with her gym bag all ready, then drive her to the gym, then go back and collect her

If that wasn't bad enough, the gym was less than a mile from her house, and less than a half a mile from the station. So she would run on a treadmill for half an hour, then be driven half a mile to the station.

Well, threesy seriously, might be time to grow up.