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What's the most pampered/indulged behaviour you've ever seen?

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ChaosTrulyReigns · 16/08/2013 12:08

When I used to have a proper job Wink, one of my colleagues would phone her mom at the first spit of rain to go and fetch her washing in. This was about 8 miles from the office (so who knew what the weather was like at home?) abd a 4 mile round trip fir the mom and dad (mom didn't drive).

SIOB that the parents would do it!

She once called home and asked her to go and wash up a breakfast bowl as she had run out of time to do it.

Hmm
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Famzilla · 19/08/2013 07:39

A lot of boasting on this thread is making me cringe.

I don't think the intention of it was to enable women to list all the things people do for them in an "Ohhh look at me I'm so speshul" kind of way.

KitNCaboodle · 19/08/2013 07:44

An ex colleague still lives with mummy at the grand old age of 34. Mummy picks her up from a night out at any time of night.
When I first started working with her, her mum went into our boss and had a go at them for upsetting her precious daughter!

sparklekitty · 19/08/2013 07:46

These are amazing! I thought my dad was being ridiculous when he drove an hour to change a lightbulb for my DB who was 23 at the time (he was also having a really hard time and suffering extreme anxiety, thinking about it dad probably went to check on him rather than just change the light bulb)

Notonaschoolnight · 19/08/2013 07:56

I can't bring myself to read this thread after 20 years of living away from family combined with marrying a boy/man would had come straight from a home were everything was done for him so all he contributes in this house is a 50+k wage and thinks that's enough, has made me very able and independent.

So yes I mostly want to punch any pampered princesses who I come across in my life, but then, on the hand, I'm very aware that its very rare that anyone is ever kind to me and that makes me want to cry, how pathetic I think I must be hormonal sorry.

Trills · 19/08/2013 08:13

I think some of the princesses here can't be real princesses. Not like "the princess and the pea".

Would the princess and the pea think it was okay to have her food already salted and peppered? No. Because whoever it was wouldn't do it right. You need salt and pepper nearby (in the table or on your tray) so you can add it throughout the meal.

Similarly - breakfast downstairs ready for you - how does the person making it know what you want?

SPBisResisting · 19/08/2013 08:37

LessMissAbs, I used the "nasty" word which you took great delight in telling me made me a princess I think. I am far from a princess.

YonilyDevotedToYou · 19/08/2013 08:54

Well, Reality, obviously that's different :)

cory · 19/08/2013 09:02

Am I the only one getting irritated by all the drip feeds and irrelevant posts on this thread? the "oh yes, I'm a proper princess...but actually if you wait and follow the thread for 5 more pages you will find that I'm not really because I take my turn with the pampering, so the title doesn't apply to me". In which case, why bother posting?

Would anyone like me to tell them about my wisteria? Totally not relevant to the thread, but it's very pretty. And if you then manage to keep concentration for another 6 pages, I will reveal that I haven't actually talked dh into getting it yet (he would prefer a camelia).

Feminine · 19/08/2013 09:11

I'd like you to share cory Wink

Bunnyjo · 19/08/2013 09:46

Fascinating thread. Some very Princess-like behaviour, but some very nasty insinuations too.

My Princess-like behaviour... When I was 18 and a student, I got a part-time job with 6am starts. My lovely dad used to get up 15mins before my alarm (at 4:30am!) and bring my a cup of tea for when my alarm went off. He would then iron me some clothes and do me a packed lunch whilst I had a shower and got ready.

In return, I played taxi service. I would drive him to the pub, once a week, to meet with his friends and pick him up later. Often I would drop his friends off home too.

As a family, we all do things for each other. My DH does DIY and stuff for my parents and his MIL. My parents and MIL look after my DC so I can go to university. I make my parents doctors/dentist appointments (my mum is Greek Cypriot and worries that people don't understand her accent and my dad suffers from depression and struggles with things like that) and I drive them to places if needs be. My parents paid for us to go on holiday this year, which was fantastic and something we couldn't have done without their help.

Surely it's about give and take? I don't expect my family to do these things and I am more than happy to do things in return. To those who do expect and do little in return, how can you be so sure your family don't resent your expectations? Maybe they are secretly seething at your sense of entitlement...

PoppyAmex · 19/08/2013 10:39

"Am I the only one getting irritated by all the drip feeds and irrelevant posts on this thread? the "oh yes, I'm a proper princess...but actually if you wait and follow the thread for 5 more pages you will find that I'm not really because I take my turn with the pampering, so the title doesn't apply to me". In which case, why bother posting?"

cory I don't know if it's my pregnancy hormones making me exceedingly cranky, but I found myself thinking the same thing.

I'm seeing this phenomena in almost every thread at the moment and it's driving me crazy!

Someone posts about the importance of getting a safe car seat for infants and you get people coming on the thread to say the OP is unreasonable because they person doesn't own a car, doesn't travel by car and why should they spend rivers of money on something they don't need? Confused

Acres of answers here in the same vein; "I'm very spoiled and pampered because DH makes me tea, but I wash all his clothes, blow his nose for him and wipe his bottom". IRRELEVANT.

PoppyAmex · 19/08/2013 10:39

they person = this person

Tuon · 19/08/2013 10:50

"Acres of answers here in the same vein; "I'm very spoiled and pampered because DH makes me tea, but I wash all his clothes, blow his nose for him and wipe his bottom". IRRELEVANT.

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I better go POAS.

BIL and SIL are like this. She does absolutely everything, but because he brings her a glass of wine every now and then he's husband of the year. Never mind that she everything needed to make the house run. Smacks of keeping her in her place, drudge and princess all in one.

I'm still with Naiceham that having it go both ways equally is nice though, split the boring stuff and both indulge each other.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 19/08/2013 10:51

I took it as people just sharing their own experiences on the thread and having a discussion.

BalloonSlayer · 19/08/2013 11:03

Agree with cory.

thread started with lighthearted tales of monstrous pampering/indulgence and the usual shock/outrage/amusement in response.

Then the 2 posters came along saying "oh my family wait on me hand and foot ha ha ha" and said to each other that they would get along together etc.

Posters then said they sounded awful. 2 posters then dripfed and dripfed, eventually declaring that they did a lot for their families in return, and also had serious reasons why they needed waiting on hand and foot.

Other posters ended up apologising.

If those 2 posters had started their original posts with "Look I know people feel shocked at seeing people apparently pampered, but sometimes there is a good reason for it - I myself may appear pampered but there is a backstory, perhaps you shouldn't judge on what you see at face value" then it would have been an interesting contribution to the thread and none of the nastiness would have happened. But they didn't.

Trills · 19/08/2013 11:14

I agree.

Hopasholic · 19/08/2013 11:26

Me too. What a load of bollocks.

Moral of the story, make sure you are actually posting in chat and not AIBU. Posting here, you'll get the truth and I can't bloody stand it when there's a massive U-Turn once they don't get the response hoped for.

Lavidaenrosa · 19/08/2013 12:26

I remember I have met a 'real princess'. She worked as a receptionist 9 to 5 job and sometimes would work from home. (we shared a flat) her husband would do everything, cooking, cleaning, laundry, even cleaning the bathroom after she had a shower.

He had 3 jobs, had to wake up at 4am to be in the first job from 5am to 8am (cleaning offices), then to his security job (9 to 6) and then would cycle (to save money) to his home and make dinner for his wife and take her food to her bedroom and washing up afterwards (she was always in bed as soon as she got from work -no disability-).

On the weekends he worked in a pub (usually nights only) so he could afford 'the princess' having her hair done every three months, buying her the expensive GHD (not even sure of the name of that hair straightener) and other expensive things 'the princess' liked. He would wear primark clothes only.

The 'princess' wasn't very attractive in the conventional way and a bit overweight too (not that it matters really).

The princess had a baby and things only got worse for her husband... she couldn't lift the baby 'because her arms hurt', she couldn't breastfeed, because it was too tiring to wake up in the middle of the night, so her husband did all the night feeds. She send the baby to the nursery as soon as she could, because it was too tiring looking after the baby (she doesn't work now).

WhoreOfTheWorlds · 19/08/2013 13:29

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AntsMarching · 19/08/2013 14:22

I once worked with an actual princess. She was a minor princess but had led a very pampered life. We worked in a lab (she was a PhD). I was at lunch one day and she came in and asked me to come see her when I finished. As I was an intern, I immediately put down my lunch and went to see her. She pointed to a bottle of bleach on her office floor and some toilet seat covers and asked me to carry them to the bathroom, which was next door to her office (and further away from where I was having lunch). She had walked further to ask me to do the task then it would have been to just do it herself. All I could figure was she'd always had people to do these type of jobs so it didn't occur to her to do it herself.

vladthedisorganised · 19/08/2013 14:33

There's quite a bit that DH does for me because he's quite perfectionist about how things are done. If I get up first to make coffee in the morning he moans that I haven't done it exactly as he would have done, so the solution is easy - I stay in bed for another five minutes, he makes the coffee. A lot of DIY is the same - I'm happy to do it, but he's very pernickety so will do it himself rather than see me getting it wrong. I don't see it as being pampered at all, and when the opportunity arises I prefer to do pretty much everything myself.

The worst I ever saw, though, was my university room-mate who gave me a list of duties within 5 minutes of her arrival. These included waking her in the morning with a cup of hot water and 5ml of freshly-squeezed lemon juice, making sure her clothes were out for the next day and getting her toothbrush ready in the bathroom.Angry
Assuming she'd been taking the piss, I left her to it the first morning, at which she went absolutely apoplectic with rage. She was 23.

SPBisResisting · 19/08/2013 14:41

Ants and vlad...what happened next in each case?

SPBisResisting · 19/08/2013 14:42

I DEMAND you post your responses now and then pop round here and press F5 for me

Trills · 19/08/2013 14:43

If we're playing "say how you are most princessy, then explain further down the page that you are not selfish or spoiled at all and it's actually perfectly reasonable" then I'll join in.

I have White Company towels. Everyone else, even guests, has to have cheap ones we got off the internet.

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They were a present, and they are quite old and hard now, but I like hard towels. The ones from the internet were a very good deal, they are good quality and they are actually softer.

LessMissAbs · 19/08/2013 15:05

There are quite a number of flatmates who act like princesses. I've often rented a room in my flat in the past and its rare to get one who didn't try it on. A lot of them seem to think their rent included a personal concierge service! I've wrote on here about my now ex flatmate who wailed and whined when she had her period and expected me to pick her up in my car if she didn't feel like driving. I also had one who issued commands by email, such as "The kitchen sink tap has broken I've broken it" can you have it fixed in the next two days before I'm back from holiday" - it was Christmas Eve! Both in their mid thirties.

I often wonder why they don't get boyfriends, as presumably they would be happier to run around after them than another woman!

Another perennially single friend is a champion in getting people to run around after her. She claims physical problems prevent her from doing anything but eventing horses. She regularly puts requests up for all sorts of tasks needing doing on FB and gets an astonishing number of replies, but if you ask her for help with anything, she charges you for it! She once asked me to do eviction notices for the tenants in her flat, wouldn't print off what I sent her by email but wanted me to post it snail mail to her personally, then complained and asked me to do it again when said snail mail was delayed by a postal strike! A couple of months later she asked me to set up a business for her and when I told her it was too much to do informally and unpaid, moaned that she would have to pay £2000 for a firm of solicitors to do it for her instead!