What's the most pampered/indulged behaviour you've ever seen?

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When I used to have a proper job , one of my colleagues would phone her mom at the first spit of rain to go and fetch her washing in. This was about 8 miles from the office (so who knew what the weather was like at home?) abd a 4 mile round trip fir the mom and dad (mom didn't drive).

SIOB that the parents would do it!

She once called home and asked her to go and wash up a breakfast bowl as she had run out of time to do it.

5foot5 and MaxiPepsi probably off the point now but the wine thing could be generational - I can't remember specifically ever being taught that it was rude for women to pour their own wine - but that's how it always operated between my late parents' - the onus being on the bloke to offer and pour it.

To get back on topic I was horrified amused to see my 17 year old nephew having his breakfast toast and honey cut up for him in to crustless triangles by my bil last year ....

My 13 yo dd just asked me to run her bath, I might've done it until she went on to say she is "high maintenance" I said "try lazy"!

Needless to say I won't be running her bath.

If I raise her to be a "princess" she will then have to find a man who will do the same or rely on me for the rest of her life!

crumpet you can't stop yourself spending money, if you took some for your lunch.

What about taking a few quid?

Better still a marmite snadwich?

Very cheap.

Dh obviously wants me to be happy... But I want him to be happy too. Loving and appreciating dh mute than ever right now!

And Threesy, sorry I missed your post.

It's LOVELY to be a bit indulged, and I'm sure it's a two way street.

I am a terrible diva at times. DH does all the early mornings (DS2 is often up at 5) even at the weekends because I like my sleep. He goes to the shop for me when I want chocolate. No one's allowed to sit in my spot and I do kick people out of it. The TV is my choice, always.

My mum and dad babysit often, and we quite often pile round for dinner unnanounced. They give us lifts and sit in with poorly DC while I go out and buy us things and generally spoil us.

BUT.

I do lots of lovely things for all of them in return.

The pampered wives no doubt are having a lovely life at the moment, but unless they are offering something in return I guess the worm will turn at some point.

On the matter of wine pouring, I wondered if there was a French connection? I have read that in France it is considered frightfully rude for a woman to pour her own wine. In our house I need to pour my own to make sure I get my fair share

I used to share a flat with someone who was so lazy and entitled that his mother came once a week to wash his clothes.

When he moved in he said he did not have an alarm clock and could I wake him up each morning at 7? No skin off my nose, as I was up way before then. For about 6 months I woke him up at 7 with a cup of tea and would ask 'Hi Sam (actual name), how are you?'. One night he got pissed in the pub and started laughing at me to his friends saying how stupid it was I asked him how he was. After all, he had 'only been awake for 5 seconds', so how stupid did I have to be to ask the question?

I banged the pint of beer I had just bought him down and said 'fuck you. and you can buy your own fucking alarm clock as you can go fuck yourself.'.

[excuse language].

You know what- the remainder of the year we shared he would complain to all and sundry about how nasty that was of me. How he could not be expected to get himself up. (We were both about 27-28). When he left, he vanished when I was at work, and left me to clean his room, including the myriad of used condoms he had left on the floor.

arsehole.

sinister

Please explain how anything I have said impacts or effects your life on a day to day basis?

So someone's dad bringing them lunch affects you how?
Someone's DH taking them to hairdressers impacts you how?
Someone's mum warming pjs or putting socks on them concerns your life how?

Seriously what people do in their own lives is absolutely none of your business and really doesn't affect you in the slightest.

Soon after my marriage I visited my MILs. My SIL (DH's sister) was eating her breakfast in the kitchen and I was upstairs having just finished taking a shower. The rest of the family was out for a walk.

I suddenly heard loud screams from the kitchen and came running down. SIL (28 y) was sitting at the table and was calling aloud for water. The fridge and tap were both 1-2 metres away.

I was so stunned that I actually went to the fridge, took the bottle out and poured water in her glass.

Her outrageous behaviour continues till this day. Just last week my MIL (recovering from a cancer op in June) took a 2.5 hours flight to visit her because she could not cope with her DD's flu.

My in-laws side of the family (including DH) enable her and indulge her beyond reason and logic.

Surely you aren't independent if you can't cope with forgetting to make your lunch on your own?

I mean I have dropped stuff DH has forgotten off at work if I've been going past, but he's a big boy and can cope if its not convenient. And he does things for me: I get tea in bed most days for example. But I don't expect it and return the favour on the rare occasion when I get up first.

As for not carrying money: I've always carried at least enough for a taxi home since I was about 16 (until then my DM would give me an undated cheque for the taxi from the local town).

MIL will be waiting to have her wine poured for her because it used to be the accepted way to do things . I am 62 and still feel rude if I pour myself a glass of wine rather than the waiter or DH . Not at home obviously and I am working hard on grabbing the bote whilst we are at a restaurant !!

My sister is a horrorshow, though.

She makes people carry her bags, push her buggy, change her babies' nappies, give her lifts and generally dogsbody for her. And on the rare occasion she does something for someone else she will huff and pout and say, 'I HATE putting myself out, I hope you're bloody grateful'.

No word of a lie.

Give and take is a nice thing and we all have our daft little ways that to outsiders seem ridiculous. Hopefully it's reciprocated

Yeah there's a difference between people doing nice things for you and acting like a princess. My DH does loads of nice things, he normally brings me a cup of coffee first thing and nearly always gets up with DD (I do have health problems to be fair). But I look after him too and certainly don't think I'm better than him and deserve to be spoilt over him. We're a team.

feminine

A few quid wouldn't get me lunch I'm afraid, works canteen is very expensive.

As I said its just when I forget, most of the time I take lunch, although never Marmite sandwiches boak!!!

Please explain how anything I have said impacts or effects your life on a day to day basis?

Already did - I said above we all have someone like you in our lives, and it doesn't make us happy. That's the nerve you are touching here.

You won't get indulgences from us!

My MIL quite often walks up to the cooker, as dinner is being put out by FIL, raises an eyebrow and says 'I'd like X as well, please' - meaning he has to delay the food for her and prepare whatever it is she wants.

This makes me want to swear loudly but what can I do?

There's loads more. Sometimes she offers me a drink, everyone's chatting and nothing happens for ten minutes or so...then she puts the bottle down in front of me, points at the glasses, and says 'I'll have mine at the bottom of the garden" then walks out. Right charmer!

A question for the 'princesses' here please?

What would you do if your partner( one day) decided he had had enough of your demands.

Would you just do it yourselves?

Reality, is your sister Denise from the Royle family?

It really is about give and take there are tjings I do for dh he simply couldn't do for himself as I have always done them for him. It works for us and makes us happy.

I think to say we must have learning difficulties is a disgusting thing to say though. Their are people out there with learning difficulties perfectly able to live day to day lives independently and good on them. Just because some of us live differently or expect different things from our other half doesn't make us horrible people.

We have a saying in this family, which is 'please get me x because I have my arms folded' which dates from someone's pregnancy in about 1930 and which is adopted when one wants to be waited on without due cause. Works quite well as it flags up when someone knows they are being lazy but will reciprocate the favour at a future point.

Do it myself obviously I am not incapable of doing anything I just have the option not to.

Eating do you don't have the self-control to keep enough money on you to cope with the day should something go slightly wrong?

How much does a 14mile round-trip cost your DF? Bet you could get a bowl of soup or something for less than that.

crumpet you are still really young aren't you?

hopes she is

My niece (aged 3) used to say she couldn't get things because she was stuck to the chair