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What's the most pampered/indulged behaviour you've ever seen?

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ChaosTrulyReigns · 16/08/2013 12:08

When I used to have a proper job Wink, one of my colleagues would phone her mom at the first spit of rain to go and fetch her washing in. This was about 8 miles from the office (so who knew what the weather was like at home?) abd a 4 mile round trip fir the mom and dad (mom didn't drive).

SIOB that the parents would do it!

She once called home and asked her to go and wash up a breakfast bowl as she had run out of time to do it.

Hmm
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Shrugged · 16/08/2013 13:26

One of my parents' neighbours used to get down on her knees to notice the laces of her teenage sons' trainers when they came home in the evening. She was an older mother and was about sixty the time I saw this.

The same woman, a couple of years later when her DS1 was at university, asked me straight-faced if I would WRITE HER SON'S DISSERTATION for him. Because he was finding his studies a bit time-consuming. I was a lecturer at the university where he was studying. She saw no issue with this.

Threesy and Eating, you both sound about eight. I strongly doubt you would 'get on like a house on fire'. There's something curiously attractive about watching another adult woman behave like a spoilt pre-pubescent princess.

sparklingstars · 16/08/2013 13:27

We went to the dentist the other day, like you do. As we were sitting in the waiting room a woman walked in and stood by the hand sanitiser gel as if she were waiting for something to happen. Her husband then came over, picked up the bottle and put it on her hands and rubbed it in for her.

Primrose123 · 16/08/2013 13:29

My PIL would spoil my DH rotten when he still lived at home. If I called in early in the morning, MIL would call him to come downstairs, then bring him his breakfast on a tray - tea, toast (with butter and marmalade) and cereal. He would sit on the sofa and watch tv while eating. I was amazed! I had made my own breakfast and school lunch from the age of about 10!

I told him that when we started living together he wouldn't get that treatment from me! He is pretty good now, and does a good share of the cooking, and doesn't expect me to wait on him.

The problem is, they now treat my teenage DDs like that. If we go there, they ask them for drinks, biscuits, ice cream etc. I tell the girls to get them themselves, but PIL jump to it and wait on them. Hmm

ILovePonyo · 16/08/2013 13:29

I feel a bit annoyed too Feminine

Don't any of you "princesses" want to set an example to your children that you can do things independently? Why is being a princess such a great thing to aspire to? Shock

ThreesyDoesIt · 16/08/2013 13:31

As someone said everyones relationships have different dynamics that work for them. My dh and parents all see it as their job to make me happy and catering to me is how they do it. I am exactly the same to my dds and i would expect the men they end up with to see it as their job to make them happy too. I don't understand why people wouldn't want to have nice things done for them.

ILikeToClean · 16/08/2013 13:31

Tantrums - what happens once the girl has eaten her dinner, does the dad wait around to take the plate back home? That really has to be the winner of most spoilt!

DH was very indulged by MIL when he lived at home, she did everything for him including peeling grapes! Soon knocked that out of him Grin

McNewPants2013 · 16/08/2013 13:31

Do the poster here who parents/DH do things for them think themselves a lady rather than a spoilt princess.

LessMissAbs · 16/08/2013 13:31

Threesy and Eating I'm afraid from what you have described of your own behaviour, I just think under-achievers or learning difficulties. Its nice I guess that your boyfriends and families help you with your problems though.

SinisterSal · 16/08/2013 13:32

I simply couldn't respect someone who had no respect for themselves. Never mind stay married to them

EatingAllTheCrumpets · 16/08/2013 13:32

I have my reasons and for asking, those reasons are valid. I don't feel that I am being smug about it al all. This is my life, this is what happens in my life. If its not something you want to do... Brilliant don't do it. If you don't want your children to do it, then do tell them. But to infer that my parents were lax in raising me, or that am not Independent is wrong and and, quite frankly, rude!

If I don't want to drive somewhere I will ask someone if they will go for me, or take me. I don't carry money with me so if I forget my lunch or don't have anything in then my DF will bring me some lunch. I do not sit on a fluffy pink chair and throw out demands and orders.

TantrumsAndBalloons · 16/08/2013 13:33

He picks her up after work iLike
God forbid she should get herself home.
He collects the dirty plate then.

comingintomyown · 16/08/2013 13:33

Yes I can see why you wouldnt understand that threesy , you sound like a lap dog

Lulabellarama · 16/08/2013 13:33

Wow, there's some utterly pathetic behaviour being described here. But it's the pride in it that I find most loathsome. That and the mentions of being a 'princess'.

sparklingstars · 16/08/2013 13:34

LessMiss, couldn't have put it better myself.

ILovePonyo · 16/08/2013 13:34

Eating why don't you carry money with you?!

TantrumsAndBalloons · 16/08/2013 13:34

Any reason why you don't carry money?

Because that seems even more bizarre tbh

Shrugged · 16/08/2013 13:34

But why on earth is it your parents and husband's job to make you happy? Are you not responsible for your own happiness?

Honestly, I thought your original post wax going to conclude 'But I have a serious physical disability, so I can't actually do the shopping/unload the car'.

SinisterSal · 16/08/2013 13:35

I'll say it straight out - you're a pair of eejits Threesy and Eating.

It's no ones job to slave for someone else, one of these days somebody - you or him - will wake up and find some self respect. then the shit will hit the fan

Feminine · 16/08/2013 13:36

I don't sit on a fluffy pink chair

No, but you might as well crumpet

georgedawes · 16/08/2013 13:36

If your parents treat you like a princess and run around doing things for you when you're a grown adult who can do these things herself than it's pretty reasonable to say they've been lax. I don't think you or threesy sound smug, just a bit spoilt. Which is never an attractive quality. In kids it's irritating but in grown adults it makes you look ridiculous.

aturtlenamedmack · 16/08/2013 13:36

It was me that said about the different dynamics threesy but to be honest your posts are making me change my mind.
It's your job to make yourself happy, no one elses and when your daughters grow up it will be their job to make themselves happy. Leaving them reliant on another for their happiness is doing them no favours. They need to know that they can be independent, make themselves happy and that they do not need a man to do anything for them.
They also need to know that the route to happiness isn't 'nice things'.

ILovePonyo · 16/08/2013 13:36

Spot on shrugged

It sounds like everyone is running around after the princess desperately trying to make sure she is happy, woe betide them if she isn't. Depressing.

themaltesefalcon · 16/08/2013 13:36

Aspirational thread.

SinisterSal · 16/08/2013 13:36

But of course we think you are not independent - you have just said it! It's a bit daft to throw your rattle out of the pram because we have 'inferred' something that you have made pretty plain in your posts