What's the most pampered/indulged behaviour you've ever seen?

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When I used to have a proper job , one of my colleagues would phone her mom at the first spit of rain to go and fetch her washing in. This was about 8 miles from the office (so who knew what the weather was like at home?) abd a 4 mile round trip fir the mom and dad (mom didn't drive).

SIOB that the parents would do it!

She once called home and asked her to go and wash up a breakfast bowl as she had run out of time to do it.

My mum told us when she was little, each morning playtime at school, one of her friends would run to the railings round the playground where her mother was waiting with a bowl of tinned fruit salad which she then fed her with a spoon through the railings!

I have a friend whose husband, when he's going away on business, will prepare meals for her and the children to heat up & he even makes the kids' packed lunches for the days he is away. All so his lazy wife doesn't have to do it.

not talking about myself here, noooo

DH is making me a sandwich because I'm too busy reading this to get up and make one for myself. Does that count?
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Some of the examples listed here are so outrageous that I question their veracity. I don't know many people who would find this kind of entitled behavior bearable.

WhoreOfTheWorlds I think they both live in a world of total denial and collude with each other that they are beautiful people leading a glamorous life because it's what they so desperately want to believe

Theres definitely a bit of that going on with a lot of the spoilt princesses. The two spoilt princess girlfriends I described earlier (the one who has never worked and the one who gets the personal trainer paid for) are constantly described by their boyfriends and a few male friends as "stunners", "very attractive" and how "well" the boyfriends in question did to get them as girlfriends. To me, they are what I think most women would describe as "plain".

Yet more attractive women are described as "men", "masculine", "aggressive" and "bunny boilers" or one particular feature is criticised, such as their nose. Top models/beautiful actresses are described as "munters" and "not too attractive".

BoffinMum I am going to join the club of "because I have my arms folded" - it's even worse than "because the cat is on my lap"

I HATE the spoiled princess routine. Some women think this is the way to assert their womanhood/command a man's attention. It's pathetic, really.

I just asked DH to pass me my drink (to accompany my sandwich) because the dog was on my lap but he just laughed and called the dog down. I have tucked my cold toes under his leg though and am letting him watch the footy while I mumsnet to restore the balance.

My flatmate (23 year old man) getting his mum to clean our flat when it was his turn. I felt sorry for his mum, but I wasn't going to help with the cleaning when it wasn't my turn. She even got him all the cleaning products needed!

My DBrother (then 13 years old) asking our live in maid to pass him the sugar when it was right in front of him. My dad told him to get it himself and not to be lazy and get the sugar himself and my brother replied 'that's her job'.

My DH when he claims he can't eat clementines with the seeds (he means he can't be arsed to take them himself and I know this and I do it for him) and me, when I finish a drink and just put the glass/cup on my DH's hand. I don't say anything and I know he will take them to the kitchen. That's all really, but when I was pregnant I was really spoiled by my DH, he put on my sock and hold ups (when I was 8 months pregnant and I couldn't reach my feet ) and if I dropped something, he never let me bend and pick it up, in fact, he asked me to leave it until he got back from work. I am not any princess btw, to prove it, let me tell you I am the one who assembles the furniture in my household.

WhoreOfTheWorlds It's an interesting relationship dynamic LesMissAbs I think? Typically the man in the relationship is no great catch himself

Yes, I do find it interesting. I was really shocked when I moved to the city I now live in, because I'd never encountered the attitude before that the woman gives up work when she moves in with a man. Most of the couples I knew before this were similar levels of education and the woman would wait until having dcs if giving up work and both would contribute to the household income. So then my logic told me the man must get some payoff in this by the woman being exceptionally attractive, maybe a part time model or sportswoman in training or something, but not that either.

So yes I do think its a case of the man being very insecure and picking a woman who is financially dependent on him from the word go but who doesn't attract that much competition from other men. And then some of them must assume you can buy a better appearance with hair extensions, fake tan, fake eyelashes, fake nails, nightclub clothing for daywear, etc..

Must say it never occurred to me to pick a man on the basis of what he could do for me. I've been criticised for very choosy on physical appearance and education level, but I think that's just looking for someone on the same level and not shallow.

Not driving seems to be a common denominator. Usually either due to never having passed a driving test or having some condition that prevents them driving, such as only being able to drive automatic long wheel based 4 x 4s or something.

WhoreofhteWorlds is spot on in all her posts on this thread.

Generally though I feel control issues come into play - although the person doing the pampering may appear to be the 'victim', whether its a parent or lover, theyre closeting the one theyre pampering, keeping them totally dependent. Catering to their every whim and need keeps the pampered one exactly where they want them to be. With such low self-esteem the 'victim' probably feel thats the only way to bind someone to them..or at least has a very strong need to bind a person to them totally. Quite creepy.

I know some women who completely bow down to men, it must be engrained from childhood. They treat their sons better than they do their daughters, and pamper their DH too.

Independence is good in its place, although Ive no interest in that, unless single - I much prefer interdependence in a relationship, works best for me. But if 2 people are happy with the 'pampering' relationship dynamics it just goes to show, there are many types of relationships out there that can and do work.

Media will probably spy on this thread and come up with a reality series subjecting us all to godawful images of pampered women with poodle hair glorying in their 15 minutes of fame, duly accompanied by an unassertive 'yes dear' wimp with all the personality of a lump of mash potato

My mum's friend's daughter is like this. She is 33, single, and lives in a very nice house bought and paid for by her parents. Her father got her job for her. When she quit because she didn't like it anymore, he paid for her to go travelling for (I think) 6 months.

They also bought her a car. She is a terrible driver - just really inattentive - and she'd only had the car a couple of weeks before she scraped it all down the side when pulling in her parents' drive. She then couldn't pay for the damage to be repaired as she couldn't afford it. Then went on to show her mum the Jimmy Choo's she had just bought.

She's not the type to pitch a fit if she doesn't get her own way - just doesn't seem to realise how ridiculous it is that she books a posh restaurant to take her mum out for her birthday, and then her mum pays for it! She also takes her washing home for her mum to do as well, including dry cleaning stuff, so that gets paid for as well.

She's single because she admits she wants to be a trophy wife. She would absolutely not be happy with a 'normal' bloke, I think she wants someone either famous or in a very high-powered job so she can spend the rest of her life pampering herself.

Every time my mum tells me a new story about her my mouth drops open in disbelief!

I know someone whose wife left him and their young son. She took the washing machine among other things. Despite being in a very well paid job he didn't get another one. No. He took his washing round to his mums for her to wash and iron. Apparently he didn't have time to do if (normal 9-5 job)

Eventually he got a new girlfriend who moved in with him. And his mum did her washing too!!!! No way on earth would I let anyone else rootle through me smalls! I couldn't believe she'd move in and except her MIL to do the washing!
They did get a washing machine in the end.

When i was a student i worked in a private hospital dishing out food and drinks to patients in their rooms. I dropped a tea tray off for 1 'gentleman' and he shouted me back - he actually said "oy, girl" and clicked his fingers! - wanting me to stir his tea. He'd had an eye lift, not major surgery so i told him to do it himself!
I thought i was going to get sacked andconfided in a nurse - turns out he had asked more than one nurse to wipe his arse. They'd all said no and he put a complaint in - saying he wasn't getting the full service he'd paid for!

Entitlement is not always a good thing. I can't really believe that people are happy to let others run around after them on a regular basis.

I have been a SAHM for many years. I do most things for my DCs, including their washing, ironing and cooking. I don't make breakfast or lunch for them, I let them do that themselves. I wash their bedding, but they put it on the beds themselves, as I feel they need to realise real life once they move away.

A few weeks ago I had a life-changing accident. I don't want to go into details, but it was truly horrifying and I'm still nowhere near where I was before, and it will be a long long time before I'm anywhere near sorted and as I was.

My DCs have been superb. Absolutely, totally superb, as has my DH. They have cleaned, cooked, washed, ironed and generally been totally marvellous. I have been entirely looked after, to the extent I haven't been able to move from my bed or the settee to do anything.

I said as much to my DH the other day. He told me it was because we've brought them up properly. To see what's needed in other people's lives and to help them when they need it.

I am proud of my children. They'll be ok, whatever life throws at them. If they need me to come and help I will, but I'll never be a doormat and will tell them if I think they're getting entitled.

This has to be one of the most unedifying threads I've ever read.

BIL has been waited on by MIL all his life (he's 38) and as a result he's never married or had a girlfriend even. Or kids.

Who would put up with him?

Now MIL is getting more and more frail and neither SIL nor DH will raise a finger for him. We both have kids and lives and he's a grumpy, entitled, spoilt brat.

I never figured out what a woman I babysat for did all day. He husband did everything, she had a cleaner, all three kids at school and, as the kids grew, she had them doing everything for themselves.

Almostfiftty I hope you get better soon, and I am glad your family has been a tower of strength for you at a horrible time.

I am astonished at some of these stories. I wouldn't want that kind of bloody life. It's one thing for families to help each other out, that's what healthy families should do, but sitting back and letting other people do everything for you is ridiculous.

Everyone always mocked my ex because quite frankly he was a bit of a prat, but he did "spoil" me and look after me in a nice way, which I haven't really had from anyone else, like I would arrive at his house and he'd have a bath run for me and have bought me a book laid out on the side with a glass of wine, and be cooking dinner, then he'd give me a massage while we watched a film.
So I can understand the appeal of a bit of pampering.

(He was a pompous old body fascist though, obsessed with the gym and looking just right and me looking just right, before anyone asks for his number.)

I must admit my parents spoilt me as their only child, and I struggle to escape the mentality sometimes, shameful though that is, that someone else can just sort things out for me. I am aware this is a fault though and I try to work on it as an issue! I am a non driver as someone mentioned!

Wish I had time to read this. Have been villified on here because my DH likes an ironed hanky and pants and I do it for him. Have looked after him for years and he looks after me too. I could live like a princess if I fancied but if I did DH would soon find it tiresome I think and then I couldn't :).

But MIL used to put FIL's cheese in his sarnie horizontally !!!!!

That would drive me mad CogDat. I'd either think he was desperate for a girlfriend, or a control freak. How irritating!

I've just remembered the friend's girlfriend who's never had a full time job also expects to have her holidays paid for and will only stay in good hotels. So when her boyfriend was selected for sporting international duty, she wouldn't go to support him to the main tourist destination the event was held in, because she refused to stay in a mere caravan where the rest of the competitors were staying!

I au paired in my youth for a wealthy woman with three children in California. She had previously been a professional woman, but gave up work when she married her (minted) husband. She had a housekeeper, nanny, gardener and pool guy who all came every day. And me, for 6 months. The nanny woke the kids up, gave them breakfast, washed and clothed them. I played with them or took them out on trips every day. The housekeeper cleaned and prepared all meals. A woman visited her home every other day to blow dry her hair, she had a massage three times a week and a private yga instructor who visited daily.

I was 19 and from a council estate in London - it was an eye opener, I can tell you. I remember her calling the housekeeper downstairs to open a bottle of wine for her 'to save her nails'. She also had a little bell she rang when she wanted a glass of water brought out for her to the terrace where she soent hours sunbathing. I had never seen such a pampered human being in all my days. I was actualy in awe of her. She seemed like a character out if a Jackie collins novel to me.

One of myNephews is 22 and a total pampered prince. They live in a village about 10 miles from all his friends his job etc.
His parents drive him whenever and wherever he likes.

He is woken up By them at a certain time. If they are early, he swears at them till they leave him alone. Then they present with his breakfast, to his room, cooked etc , all his clothes washed and ready. they literally drop everything for him. In return, he does nothing for them, swears at them, shouts at them, hits his siblings and is generally a nightmare. only to them though. When we see him he is all sweetness and light. Had I not seen the videos his sister took I'd never believe it.
I have never seen anything like it.