What's the most pampered/indulged behaviour you've ever seen?

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When I used to have a proper job , one of my colleagues would phone her mom at the first spit of rain to go and fetch her washing in. This was about 8 miles from the office (so who knew what the weather was like at home?) abd a 4 mile round trip fir the mom and dad (mom didn't drive).

SIOB that the parents would do it!

She once called home and asked her to go and wash up a breakfast bowl as she had run out of time to do it.

"if I say I need something (in conversation) a couple days later she will have bought it. " - People who wish to be independent would learn NOT to "mention" anything they need in conversation with someone whom they know will just go and buy it for them.

"And he will always give me money if I am short. . . I don't expect or ask this of him" so how comes he finds out that you are "short" then? If you KNOW he will give you money if he finds out you are short, and you let him find out you are short, then you ARE asking.

I'm reading this thread and hating it. The reason why is because if I am looking at what counts as entitled behaviour it appears that I act "entitled" to my DH.

I am not financially independent (I gave up quite a low paying job to be SAH); he does most of the cooking and also does most of the maintenance in the house. Because he is an early riser he also looks after the DCs first thing in the morning.

I have never seen myself as entitled because I don't use him or treat him badly to get my own way.

I guess it depends on your view of entitled I do most things myself, happy to do more or less but I think some things could make me look entitled. my dad insists on driving me home from his especially at night, I live 5 minutes away. id never ask him too he just feels better doing it. when we shop with my nan she gives me any my mid twenties sis 10 pound, she does this every week. we don't expect it or ask her to do it but to people looking in it could.

Isn't the whole point of being in a relationship about give and take? Not to martyr yourself and never ask anything. If someone can't be nice and make you a cup of tea while they're making their own or stick the bath back on after they've had theirs what's the point. I couldn't be with someone so selfish that wouldn't do anything for me because I love doing things for others but not if it's not a 2 way street.

For instance I wouldn't think twice about plonking my feet in (now ex) dp lap and asking him to rub them. The fact I have been on them all day working, running around after the dc, washing clothes and cooking dinner and baking his favourite cake I would think I deserve him to pamper me slightly.

Not a princess but I like being appreciated and being treated nice.

will excuse her incapability with life by saying "I's so ickle!" in a little girl voice.

That actually makes me feel queasy.

Not quite the same thing, but I've seen this kind of foot-stamping tantrum stuff from some very attractive girls, too. I call it pretty-girl syndrome, where someone has been indulged all their life because they are attractive, and have been spoiled because of it (which is not to say all attractive women/people are like this; they're not, but it's definitely a thing I've observed from some).

That's a really good point, whore. It would be nicer to know that while your parents loved you and wanted to help, they had their own life and hobbies too and couldn't just drop everything for you.

My Dad helps us around the house a lot as we are admittedly useful, but he tries to teach us and we try to learn. I did drop a lot of hints the other week about the new cotbed we hadn't got around to putting up yet and he just kept saying "yes, I'm sure it will be lovely when it is up" and refusing to help put it up! Good for him, really. We were just being lazy and he decided not to indulge us for once.

Useful? Useless, more like...

bloody hell war I missed that comment - who could do this and be serious?!

My Mum's next door neighbour is, like my Mum, in her 80s. She was married but had no children, did not work and apparently her DH "did everything for her."

She now constantly tries to get other people to do things for her, run around after her, get her shopping etc. When she was ill all the neighbours were mobilised to help - which is nice, of course - but she was extremely demanding.

Mum says she often comes out in the garden at about 2pm when Mum is gardening and says something like "I haven't had anything to eat today yet!" as if that is somehow miraculous, and Mum says she gets the feeling that she is expected to reply "Oh no, you MUST eat" or even rush round and make her a meal.

She is, basically, a Princess grown old.

It would be nicer to know that while your parents loved you and wanted to help, they had their own life and hobbies too and couldn't just drop everything for you.

There was a thread earlier this week about someone worrying what they would do with their life once their children were older.

1 - I agree with the point above that it's better (for the child and the parent) to have things in your life that are not about your children.

2 - Some of the confessions here show that you can make your life all about your children no matter how old they are, if that's what you really want.

I've got at least twenty years or more to go before that scenario happens, but I can already imagine - self-indulgent holidays! Yoga! Evening classes! Sex in the afternoon! Bliss.

When I was living at home I never had to do anything. Never made dinner, wash up, clean my room I had to beg to be allowed to cook. There were reasons why I was I indulged and I really was. But never acted spoilt, somehow had it installed into me a sense of independence.

I left home to live abroad at 17 (not a job i walkd into with accommodation) never had a problem being independent, quiteeasily cooked, worked a washing machine etc and I really value my sense of independence it gives me confidence to do things others may fear. I never relied on anyone for money and would always try to work something out myself before asking others (which is very very rare)

I lived with my grandparents and my nannys attitude was this is what you will have to be doing one day so make the most of it now when you don't have to. I never acted the princess and would not have been allowed to I just think the women in my family are very capable and that has been passed on no princesses in my family this would be frowned on for being a little pathetic

It is not how I shall be bringing up ds or if I had a daughter but luckily it worked out ok for me and for my mum and aunt

My mil once called to FIL to pass her handbag to her. It was on the floor by her feet. FIL was in another room.

Another time, my DH picked them up from the station when they came to see us. when they arrived at our hone i was watching for them out of the window. FIL got out and Dh got out. They went to the boot to get the bags out. Mil had a screaming fit because neither had opened her door to let her out. She's a grown woman but won't open her own car door.

Don't really get the bit about 'Running me a bath' being a problem

Isn't it just turning the taps on and making sure it does not overflow?

If I have been at work in London or Manchester travelling on public transport and DP is home before me, I will often say 'Stick the bath on for me please, I fell really manky dirty'.

Then I can dive in when I get home

Bloody hell. You princesses are frightful!

I had to end a long term relationship because my DP would do anything I asked, even really unreasonable things. I couldn't respect anyone who tolerated being treated like that but at the same time I'd grown to expect him to jump through hoops for me. It was really sad, I often wonder what might have been if he'd had more balls.

DH and I would be no more if I tried that princess shit with him. He'll often do nice things for me but I do them for him too, it's mutual consideration rather than a slave labour arrangement!

My sister was due to fly from overseas to meet us in Edinburgh. She was to land at Glasgow but missed her flight and came the next day. The plan had been for her to get the train to Edinburgh and meet us there. We had plans for the next day and, because we had arrived in Edinburgh, she insisted we make the 100 mile round trip through 2 cities to pick her up, rather than getting the train. I pointed out that visits to her involved the tube, or a train but she was adamant - she doesn't DO public transport.

Amusingly, when she ruined our plans by refusing to come, she switched her ticket to visit Hong Kong, where she had to get the train into the city centre.

She also missed her niece's christening because the hotel was full (and quite shabby) and she doesn't DO guest houses or B&Bs.

TentUp I think the running a bath issue is not about incidents of "Would you run me a bath? I've had a horrible day/journey." And more about the people who whine that they "Don't know how!" Or "I never get the temperature right!"

I'm assuming you are actually able bodied and of sound mind Eating?? Because if that's the case I'm hugely intrigued as to why your reasons for demanding such treatment are "valid".
Care to spill?

Eating, it seems I've missed a post - apologies.