What's the most pampered/indulged behaviour you've ever seen?

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When I used to have a proper job , one of my colleagues would phone her mom at the first spit of rain to go and fetch her washing in. This was about 8 miles from the office (so who knew what the weather was like at home?) abd a 4 mile round trip fir the mom and dad (mom didn't drive).

SIOB that the parents would do it!

She once called home and asked her to go and wash up a breakfast bowl as she had run out of time to do it.

I guess i am very pampered by DH, both he and my mum call me a spoilt brat.
DH cooks for us, He loves buying me presents. He is very soft and cant resist if he sees something i will like! He will go and get me drinks, or my phone etc from the other room. He will run up stairs and get what ever i have forgotten from our bedroom. Today he got the wrong type of pizza delivered from ocado, so he drove me miles to get a take out.
He is just very sweet and enjoys making me happy.

He will also surprise me with brekki in bed. and he is generally in charge of the laundry.

He also runs me baths and really runs around for me if i feel ill!

Gosh, brekki in bed, eh?!

I don't know, LessMiss, he wasn't really controlling (other than about health and exercise and appearance in an annoying preachy way, to everyone) or desperate.

Hmm, we were FWB, rather than classic partners, so maybe he was desperate to keep me as it is very hard to find someone else who matches your own ideas of how FWB should work.

My SIL is like this, a total madam.

Threesy's line above about believing herself to be a princess and expecting to be treated like one describes SIL perfectly.

She is in her 40's and I am 99% sure that the reason her DP hasnt left her is because she would never let him see their DD, she has said as much. He has dropped many heavy hints over the years about how fed up he is with her, and I wouldnt be at all surprised if he has cheated. He has now arranged his working life so that he is away all week and who can blame him?

She doesnt actually seem to give a shiny shite about him, but demands, demands, demands. She is another one whose perception of her physical self is wildly at odds with reality. She isnt ugly or fat, but neither is she model stunning or slim either. Yet she makes a massive deal about her hair and clothes, she does that stupid teenage pouty thing in photos but it makes her look like she has a mouthful of food :o

She treats staff wherever she goes as if they should be grateful to serve her and hates my guts! Why? Because the first time I was invited to her house was for a party. We were in the kitchen and she was next to the jug of cocktails I had just made and she handed me her glass and just said "drink". I assumed that a) she was joking and b) hadnt seen the jug next to her, so I handed the glass back and laughingly said "Jug!" as I pointed at it. She didnt speak to me again that night and then said to H that I was lazy (!) and didnt I know who she was? :o She actually said that she didnt expect to have to get her own drink in her own house and how dare I not "serve" her? She actually used that word! H laughed in her face and told her to grow up and she has never spoken to him since either. oh dear, what a pity, never mind

She has friends that last a couple of years until she either drops them for outliving their usefulness or goes batshit at them for not pandering to their every whim and stops speaking to them. She created such a fuss about a family friends wedding that none of the family went, as they all back her up.

Her DD spends more time at her mothers than anywhere else and I have seen her literally stamp her feet and scream and shout in a tantrum until she gets her own way. She does NOTHING that she doesnt want to do, and makes sure that her DP, DM or DSiblings do it for her. She is well on the way to making sure her DD, a lovely and engaging child until a couple of years ago, is going the same way. Such a shame :(

I am lucky to have him, he is lucky to have me. I don't think I am a princess, I don't think it's infantilising. It's what you do when you love someone no?

Well so far you are sounding pretty princessy to me. What do you do for him?

My DH does everything for me. I've got a good job and earn slightly more than him so I'm not lazy or incapable. I was also a single mum for six years before I met him so I can be independent. He just likes looking after me and I like being looked after!

I do all the cooking but he does everything else even when I'm off work on school holidays (I'm a teacher) or now I'm on maternity leave. He does all cleaning, ironing, washing, DIY and gardening. I cant remember the last time I hoovered and couldnt even tell you what my hoover looks like if my life depended on it. He brings me breakfast in bed every morning and does 50% of child care when he is not in work.

He also runs to the shop for treats, rubs my feet, runs baths and always does my hair for me. It's curly and after I wash it he curls it into ringlets with wax so it doesn't go frizzy.

It's not a control thing. He just likes to look after me. He does lots for my family too and even went round to wash and wax my friend's car for her a few weeks ago to cheer her up when she was down. He's done lots of things like that for friends and family.

Our relationship works for us and I don't ask or expect him to do any of these things. It doesn't stop some others from making nasty comments similar to ones made on this thread though! I've had a colleague ask me if I feel like a real wife and another say behind my back that I won't keep my DH for long if I keep behaving like this. I think a lot of the time people are just shocked because I'm a women being waited on by a man. I know the same women who made those comments wait on their husbands and children hand and foot.

It has to go both ways.

So you do nothing then? Otherwise why post about being spoilt if you are not, as others have done, saying "He does XYZ for me but I do ABC for him"

Being in a partnership is give and take so fine if both partners are spoilt by the other. Otherwise it is not a partnership at all.

I think those of you who are so utterly horrified by the idea must be just jealous, and maybe a bit fat.

Perhaps if you were prettier and nicer, people around you woudl be more inclined to be nice to you.

Try being less cunty, and perhaps the princess within will have a chance to shine.

Miserable fuckers.

Well, I just made dp some toast and poured him a glass of wine (also made myself some and poured my own wine). He might make me a coffee in the morning or some crumpets (depends who is up first really).

He does loads of lovely things for me. I do plenty for him. I like to make him happy.

One of the nicest things I ever experienced was going to see my good friend and her DP for the weekend.

They put me up in the lap of luxury, I didn't have to lift a finger (although I did try!). Her DP made us all our meals, went to the shops for grog, and (the best bit, and it sounds small but was such a lovely thing) lit all our fags before passing them to us.

It was utterly lovely.

The loveliest thing was realising that they live like that all the time, just like me and DH. We do all the silly little things that one doesn't mind and the other doesn't enjoy. So pouring drinks and lighting cigs, running baths and making fry ups.

It's give and take, but on a pamper-y scale.

Anyway, I'm watching the fucking Thick of It now, so this thread can fuck off. It's annoying me.

It's raining here, I just gave DS a lift to his pals house for 'pre going out drinks'

(In my pyjamas)

DD says i'm a mug and shouldn't indulge him

Your DH sounds like a proper catch TSC

Luvverly.

BTW, are you going anywhere near Dorset?

TSC you have a very similar relationship to us, I think.

I do all the thinking, and DH 'pampers' me in return. It works.

reeling pre going out drinks? At this time? I would be on my way home by now :o

Why does the give and take have to involve physically doing things though?

I give DH the love and emotional support he needs and he does the domestic stuff that I'm rubbish at. Im also much more career focused than he is. I bring tons of work home so it's fairer for him to do all the chores. I think a lot of relationships work like this just the other way round. No one bats an eyelid if the woman runs round after the man!

Oh, and I don't even do any if those things on Second Coming's list either (apart from the breastfeeding )DH sorts out bills, school stuff and makes all doctors/dentist/opticians appointments. He's just more organised than me.

and (the best bit, and it sounds small but was such a lovely thing) lit all our fags before passing them to us.

Ha ha ha ha ha please tell me this is a joke?!

But that sounds just bloody reality and TSC. That sounds like a healthy give and take relationship. Not where someone is doing everything and someone is taking it all iykwim.

My family was distinctly odd so my in laws almost taught me about normal family which sounds like yours reality, people doing favours for each other, helping out with no feeling of obligation. I was surprised by how much they helped each other out with childcare, running people around, doing each others gardening and DIY jobs. It's actually really lovely compared to what I'm used to.

Some of the stories on here are shocking though. I would hate to be that reliant on anyone. But things like running the bath, that's just turning the fucking taps on in my world, I am not Monica Geller with bath salts and candles.