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What's the most pampered/indulged behaviour you've ever seen?

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ChaosTrulyReigns · 16/08/2013 12:08

When I used to have a proper job Wink, one of my colleagues would phone her mom at the first spit of rain to go and fetch her washing in. This was about 8 miles from the office (so who knew what the weather was like at home?) abd a 4 mile round trip fir the mom and dad (mom didn't drive).

SIOB that the parents would do it!

She once called home and asked her to go and wash up a breakfast bowl as she had run out of time to do it.

Hmm
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BlazinStoke · 16/08/2013 16:54

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larrygrylls · 16/08/2013 16:56

I expected this thread to be all about entitled blokes, given the feminist slant on many threads. But, no, 95% of the over indulged and entitled seem to be female. Interesting....

And, as a completely irrelevant but interesting aside, it is amazing how many "princesses" seem to have solely daughters, to make a "princess" family. Someone should do a PHD on it.

To the overindulged, I think self respect is predicated on a degree of independence. And it is hard to be independent if one does not do it habitually. I sometimes notice the way the wealthy panic when the cleaner or nanny go on holiday; they have forgotten how to do the jobs themselves.

ThreesyDoesIt · 16/08/2013 16:57

No why should I have to defend myself to anyone. I don't care if you don't like the fact people treat me the way they do without you having some sort of warped preconception of who I am and how I raise my dds

SinisterSal · 16/08/2013 16:57

Never miss an opportunity to get the digs in Larry

SinisterSal · 16/08/2013 16:58

It's not a warped preconception - you've told us, straight out.

larrygrylls · 16/08/2013 16:59

Sinister,

Well it is interesting. And, seeing as I contribute to about 3 threads per week (tops), "never miss" is a slight exaggeration.

SinisterSal · 16/08/2013 17:01

Ok Larry. You goddam crazy kid

ThreesyDoesIt · 16/08/2013 17:03

I haven't once said I have special needs, that I am fat, the I can't do anything for myself, that I underachieve, that my husband will cheat, the my dds can't do anything, that I am middle aged, that I use a god awful baby voice, suck my thumb, think I am cute.... all pre conceptions made by those on this thread. I DO AS MUCH FOR MY HUBAND AS HE DOES FOR ME yes I am spoilt and yes I have some brat like behaviour so what.

Reality · 16/08/2013 17:09

Some of you on this thread shoudl be ashamed of yourselves. Some really nasty bullying digs going on here towards Threesy and Crumpets, both of whom have explained further that they are not sitting on their backsides being waited on hand and foot.

For shame.

Shaky · 16/08/2013 17:09

My dp has 2 brothers who are 48 and 41. Neither of them have ever worked. My mil does everything for them. She is 73 and fil is 83. The eldest brother can drive but refuses to and gets driven around by fil Angry the youngest is an eternal student who spends all his time in his room studying.

We go to see them every Sunday and we haven't seen the youngest since ds was 4 months old, he is now almost 4. Bil is there but he will not come out of his room if we are there, not even at Christmas.

Only last weekend mil was saying "I don't know what will happen to these boys when we are gone". I had to stop myself saying that they will just have to bloody grow up.

They are paying for the youngest's uni course but he won't even tell them what he is actually studying!

strokey · 16/08/2013 17:14

"your mearly assuming that we are a certain type of person, underachiever, fat, ugly"

No way threesey. I dont think that at all, I reckon you've got a banging body and give great head... that's the only way I can make sense of it.

Sparklysilversequins · 16/08/2013 17:15

I am disgusted by some of the things said on here today and not by the "princesses" either. Thoroughly poisonous.

SinisterSal · 16/08/2013 17:15

Hang on Reality - At first they said they were sitting on their backsides, being waited on hand and foot. Didn't you start a joke thread about that type of behaviour too? Then they explained more fully, and people responded to that.

YouTheCat · 16/08/2013 17:24

Seriously, my comment previously was not meant as a dig at any individual poster. If I mean to have a dig at an individual, I'll post the comment to them.

It was a general comment.

Don't have a tantrum ffs.

tryasimight · 16/08/2013 17:27

Meh. You must know you're gonna get flamed if you write this on MN:

"If at my parents house I still have my mum run my bath, heat my pjs up, she even puts my sock on if I am cold"

DontmindifIdo · 16/08/2013 17:27

Just to set the record straight, apparently the "Prince Charles has someone to put toothpaste on his toothbrush" story normally misses the bit that it was only during the period when he broke his arm.

Oh and this current Queen does usually carry some cash, (apparenlty usually a £5 or £10 folded in the pocket) I quite like the fact that even though she's always got staff around her, the Queen is more able to avoid going hungry with a "forgotten lunch" situation all by herself than some people on this thread!

In my experience, the sort of men who like this sort of "needy" woman is the sort who wants to keep them in their place, they like infantiling their DWs and also most woman around them - they tend to be the sort of cock who doesn't think woman should be promoted, or given too much authority/responsiblity etc because the main woman in their life is busy showing them that they are right, woman are really just a bit useless compared to men. I've met a few of these couples, the men usually don't like strong woman.

Others just need to feel needed. Rather pathetic really.

They also rarely leave their wives because they've had enough of being made to run round after them, more likely they will leave for a younger another woman who "needs them more". If you have the sort of man who wants to "parent" you as some of the woman on this thread do, the advice to stop acting like a little girl and do stuff yourself is very bad marriage advice - these men don't want an equal relationship, and won't stick around if you start being less helpless.

Reality · 16/08/2013 17:28

Funnily enough I hadn't seen this thread before I started my slightly tongue in cheek one about drinks. That thread led me to this one. It's absolutely true, btw, I do make DH bring me things by calling out 'ding ding' Grin

But this went far past ribbing people about being princessy and went into horribleness. Not nice.

peace and love, dudes. Peace and love.

SinisterSal · 16/08/2013 17:31

It was about horribleness in most peoples' opinion.

strokey · 16/08/2013 17:38

Oh come off it Reality!!

The horribleness is in these sentences "I have my mum run me a bath"

"I am a princess and should be treated as such"

"I get dp to walk fifteen minutes to the shop when I fancy a milky way"

FeijoaVodkaStat · 16/08/2013 17:41

I once worked for a man who was something of a power happy megalomaniac (esp if you weren't his type of girl - bleurgh). He made some fairly areholeish demands of me and my co-workers, but the one that really got me was told to me by a co-work about my predecessor.

One day the boss had been and spoken to her about something. He leaves and then calls her on the phone and asks her to come outside. She goes out, he's sitting in his car ready to drive off. He asks her to get him something out of the boot of his car! She was apparently so shocked she did it.

Reality · 16/08/2013 17:41

How is that horrible?

I got DH to drive to Tescos at 11pm once because the local shop didn't have any Ben and Jerry's. He was happy to do it, because he enjoys treating me like a princess. It's just a fact.

I also run around after him, go out of my way to make him happy and treat him like a King.

My Dad ran me a bath last time I stayed at theirs. I didn't even think twice about it tbh.

Telling somebody they must be obese or ugly or mentally disabled is horrible. Sharing that you are indulged by those that love you isn't.

strokey · 16/08/2013 17:48

Sure, my husband left the house to get me pizza in the middle of a snow storm when the public were told to stay inside for their own safety.

That's not what Im mocking is it?

ThreesyDoesIt · 16/08/2013 17:53

Well if it helps my mum stay a good bit away I stay at her 2 night a year max, she runs me a bath , heats up my pjs and puts my sock on my feet. I think it's fab like being at home again and she enjoys having me there to run after as its usually just her and my dad.

EatingAllTheCrumpets · 16/08/2013 18:01

blazing no worries, as I said to sinister, I should have explained better in my posts. It's easy to get too defensive and it's easy to a bit judgy on a forum and I get that. No hard feelings please feel free to have some Cake too.

I'll admit that some of the comments have been a bit too much and have been quite rude and some have been nasty. But I'm a big girl and can take it, especially since I wasn't fully clear and open in my first posts.

I'm more concerned that strokey feels there's an age limit on chocolate. I also like animal biscuits and DH loves a rusk Shock

I also don't think Threesy is in the wrong, it's nice to feel pampered and if her family are happy to do things for her and her brother then that her (and their) businesses, the minute she starts demanding perfect strangers out her socks on I will absolutely flame her, but as long as her and her family are happy I see no problems. She clearly does housework and raises 3 dc's which I don't believe is an easy task!

People not pulling their weight at work, and the calpol stories are a completely a different kettle of fish!

paperclipsarebetterthanstaples · 16/08/2013 18:08

Those of you who are pandered to - I'm bloody jealous and can't believe all the nasty comments and even a referral to special needs. Enjoy it and ignore all the viper.
Not sure if anyone ever wins on here - women who say they're running around after their DH and kids are told they're doormats and to make DH do more. Those whose DH does things for them are anti feminist.
One poster (came remember the name) said she does all the washing, ironing etc so so what if her DH does the shopping and takes her to lunch? Ffs - why is everyone so uptight these days?!