What's the most pampered/indulged behaviour you've ever seen?

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When I used to have a proper job , one of my colleagues would phone her mom at the first spit of rain to go and fetch her washing in. This was about 8 miles from the office (so who knew what the weather was like at home?) abd a 4 mile round trip fir the mom and dad (mom didn't drive).

SIOB that the parents would do it!

She once called home and asked her to go and wash up a breakfast bowl as she had run out of time to do it.

Ah don't apologise to me, no wonder you got defensive, I went on the attack. Dunno whats wrong with me today.
Lets have some

Mmm Kinder

Well I shall have to potter off and run dp a bath soon. He doesn't expect it but I like to do it so he can hop in after he's finished work. He does loads for me and I do plenty for him.

It is a really lovely feeling to know you have someone who you can rely on to indulge you just a little bit every now and again.

let's just forget it ever happened!!

The funniest thing about this tacky "Princess" concept is that real princesses don't act that way.

I've met two and I'm happy to report they are actually very civilised people who wouldn't dream of asking someone to put their socks on or "expect" their husbands to pander to their "whims".

FFS, even Kate Middleton used to be regularly papped pushing a trolley around Waitrose when she lived in the cottage with William.

Threesy - you should START sucking your thumb. Its weely weely cute

Just to give another angle to the story, having given it some more thought, I do love to spoil and indulge my DH and DDs.

DDs are too tiny to spoil in any really way (baby and toddler) but DH is completely impossible to spoil - even something really simple like making a cup of tea, he'd rather do it himself.

I would love to be able to indulge him more, but he just won't have it. He finds it irritating and "mothering".

So, because I have that desire to indulge/pet my loved ones, I can see how spoiling happens and how it's not necessarily just the spoilee who creates the pattern.

Lol at strokey

I know somebody who is in her seventies now. She lives alone but near her sister.
Apparently she had a fiancé forty years ago, but gave him up because her sister needed her for childcare. He was heartbroken and emigrated.
She and her mother both provided any childcare this sister needed, moving around the country to be with her. They also did domestic duties.
I was as she told me. I know there will be two sides to this story, and she wasn't telling me in a bitter sort of a way, but imagine fucking up your sister's marriage prospects because you didn't want to get a childminder.

I am a little torn on the MH problem- I suppose because I have a teen dd with severe anxiety/depression and I am very aware of how easy it is to incapacitate her further by not helping her to independence.

It's not that I don't love her, but realistically I am not going to be around forever and I certainly won't stay young middle-aged and fit forever. I may fall ill, dh may fall ill. Though I am not yet 50, I have already been having some health problems this summer which have made it far more difficult to run around and look after people.

And even if she does find a lovely husband (no guarantee) who will never walk out on her, even the loveliest husband is not immune to illness and disability of his own. I am haunted by thoughts about "what will she do then?"

So even though she is still prone to crippling panic attacks and even though her last suicide attempt is only just over 6 months ago, I still encourage her to be as independent and self-sufficient as somebody her age should be- because I want to protect her and I know in the long run she herself will be the only protector available. But it is a difficult balance.

Incidentally, it has been interesting to see how my needing a bit of care this summer has helped dd with her confidence. I think it does everybody good to take turns with the giving and taking.

I think a lot of the middle aged women who see themselves as princesses or trophy wives is often much more faking it to make it in reality.

Most of the ones I know are single. Why they think another woman will run around after them, I've ever been able to fathom!

I don't agree with indulging. I didn't learn to do anything domesticated at all - boil an egg, make a cup of tea, wash clothes, change a bed, iron - until I was in my 20s. My DM is a bit of a control freak who can't stand anyone doing things in her house as they will "mess them up". I was catching up throughout my 20s.

I know someone who's kid had a temperature during the night, she had no idea what to do so she called her parents and her dad drove to hers and put the kid in a lukewarm bath and gave him calpol...he was fine 20 mins later.....this girl was married her dh was there..her dad was undergoing cancer treatment at the time

when I started work nearly 30 years ago an unmarried woman in the office, she was about 30 told us her father warmed her sanitary towels on the fire guard before passing them through to her in the bathroom!! I nearly boked!

Her father?! [shocke]
My dad would simply. not. cope. if I so much as mentioned sanitary wear.

Oh look a Chaucerian [shocke]

That is interesting ido. I think there is a bit of this in my background, too. I was not indulged, but DM was a control freak too in the kitchen and the home, and everything.

Tbh I'd be really cross with myself if I thought neither of my kids could manage a few basic tasks. Even my severely autistic ds can manage some domestic tasks and make himself a sandwich.

If you don't equip your kids for adulthood it must be really tough on them once reality sets in.

We all kind of pander to Each other here.
My dh will blow dry my hair each morning, and turns the shower on for me so it warms up :)
I will in return lay out clothes he wants for eve out, so it's more convinent to quickly change after work, and usually pack his laptop etc in his bag for work.

Both my parents and dh parents pamper us when we stay. They usually drive to London, pick us up and drive back to there's (3/4 hours away). They both make us breakast in bed.

We also pamper our children I suppose, just small things like we warm their pjs on heated towel rail so nice and warm after bath, and they get warm milk in bed each morning. Dh also massages their feet before they get up! ... They are small though

But it's nice to do things for other people, especially when it's reciprocated and/or appreciated.

I haven't said I can't do basic tasks I run a home and 3 dds perfectly well I do 70% of the house work and alot of the diy. I could be fiercely independent if I had to be but I don't.

It's sad some of the nasty comments on this thread we all have our pasts that have made us who we are today and if you don't have the full story and background your mearly assuming that we are a certain type of person, underachiever, fat, ugly, or have marraige issues. So sad imo

When I was a teenager I was round at a friends house and she was on the phone to her gran talking her through the Tiffany's website to order the bracelet she wanted for Christmas. The gran was getting confused by the process and my friend was frustrated and yelling at her. I was and told her she should be nice to people who are trying to buy her much nicer presents than I ever got.

I also once saw a girl holding a plastic cup for her boyfriend to pee in at a festival. She then threw it on the ground and it went all over my feet .

Only got to page 7 but I actually want to tear my own face off at the "little trophy wife".

I sincerely hope you don't have daughters.

My previous comment wasn't necessarily pointed at any individual on this thread, Threesy. Defensive much?