What's the most pampered/indulged behaviour you've ever seen?

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When I used to have a proper job , one of my colleagues would phone her mom at the first spit of rain to go and fetch her washing in. This was about 8 miles from the office (so who knew what the weather was like at home?) abd a 4 mile round trip fir the mom and dad (mom didn't drive).

SIOB that the parents would do it!

She once called home and asked her to go and wash up a breakfast bowl as she had run out of time to do it.

I'm now wondering if I'm spoilt and getting a bit worried. I am the only one of us who works outside the home and I have a very demanding job with a decent pay heck. DH does everything around the house including making my lunch, running me to the train station, doing the shopping, cleaning, finances etc and making dinner. I just do my washing and ironing plus the pet care. Is that bad? Be honest because I don't want to take advantage. He is job hunting and when he starts working I will do all the cooking, pack his lunch and do some of the cleaning (though probably not half as he is a neat freak). I will almost certainly always earn at least double what he will - does hat make a difference?

God I wouldn't recommend anyone make any more confessions on this thread!

quesadilla I'm in complete agreement with you which is why I have been getting help for my issues. I don't want to be dependant on them and when my parents die I will truly be up shit creak if I'm not better by then.

I don't think they necessarily have to do things for me because they love me, but the fact they love me enough to want to help and do these things is lovely. It means when I'm very ill I can concentrate on getting better rather than the cleaning or shopping etc. it's nice to know someone is there.

I also need to be well before we had children. It wouldn't be fair on anyone (including me) otherwise.

cats in my opinion as long as you are both 'working' the same number of hours, (and no cherrypicking of horrible vs easy chores) relaxing the same no of hours and have the same amount of fun money in your pockets then, no, you are not taking advantage

I am a lone parent so no one does anything for me.

For my dc I put towels in the tumble dryer so they are toasty when they get out of the bath.

I cook then whatever they fancy each night.

I suppose that's quite indulgent.

My ex H never cleaned a toilet in his whole life, he did not know how to use the washing machine, his four year old dd could put a wash on but he at 30 couldn't, I think he hoovered once in the 8 years we were together and he never got up once in the night with either of our dc, could also count on two hands how many he nappies he changed too. I remember one particularly memorable Sunday when I asked him to pass me the wet wipes box while he was lying on the sofa and he tossed his head around petulantly and said "I am too TIRED for all that today, I will go back to doing Dad Stuff tomorrow!"

That doesn't sound spoiled, Cats, personally if I was out of work and at home all day while DP worked I'd do everything (well, if there weren't any DC to look after). I'd only say that was spoiled if a) you'd throw a paddy if he said one morning that he'd not had time to make your lunch or take you to the station, or b) you'd still expect him to do more around the house than you because you earn more.

I was very independent and I think my parents raised me very well. I'm a good person, I share and care. I would do anything for anyone. I'm a hard worker and generally a nice person (I think!)

But then I had a very big breakdown. If it hasn't been for DH and my parents I wouldn't have made it this far. I've come along way and that because of the help thy have given and continue to give. I hope that they can one day retire and not have to look after me so much and that DH can stop worrying about too. But it's a slow road, I am trying though. I really am.

Eating, while it's lovely that your parents want to help you, shouldn't they be helping you become more independent if they want you to get better, rather than running about after you? Which as your loving parents they surely must want you to get better.

I find the fact that some men are attracted to women who behave like spoiled 9 year old girls quite worrying baffling.

Thanks sinister and thurlow, looks like I'm ok for now but when he starts working I'll need to be careful!

Sorry eating. X post. Ignore me!

Have just read the rest of the thread... Blimey Threesy... sounds like you have "daddy issues" Id hate for my husband to baby me like that! Surely your dh is going to get bored of having 4 little princesses to take care of? Wont he want a partner to whinge about the kids with?

Reminds me of that C4 documentary about adults who dress as babies.. it was mainly men, but some women liked to be treated as little girls for some reason. Possibly MH related.

eatingcrumpets fair enough. Good that you're aware of it and trying to get help. Good luck.

If you are ill that's totally different and not princessy at all. Sorry for giving you a hard time Crumpets, I was responding to earlier posts which were incomplete.

peace?

Do you suck your thumb threesy?

Crumpet, you and your family can do what you like, I don't care.. but I fail to see how getting daddy to fetch you milky bars from the shop helps you recover from your breakdown

(milky bars?! the sort that... BABIES eat??)

This thread is the funniest thing Ive seen for ages!

Oh threesy you muppet. Don't turn your girls into replicas of you. Encourage them to have some self respect fgs. It's beyond ridiculous.

No I don't suck my thumb

I came on and was honest I've taken a few uncalled for insults but I expected to. I am what I am and I won't hide it.

You really really should Threesey. Because people will think you're daft

"I will almost certainly always earn at least double what he will - does hat make a difference?"

No, not if he's doing the same hours as you

Nasty bullying on this thread.

it's more like scorn, sparkley

Sinister no worries, I should have explained better in my dirt post that I have issues, trying to come to terms with how much it's messed my life up is hard though, hence why I got all defensive with you, and I'm sorry about that.

Peace!

Stokey - my dad doesn't go and fetch me chocolate. DH does, sometimes it's a kinder egg

First not dirt

And strokey not stokey!