AIBU TTC at my age

[Sazzle41]

Context. In the past i have had very emotionally abusive relationships and had a long battle with depression. Have really had a bad time tbh. Fast forward to now and i've met someone lovely. He is desperate for kids, i would like them too. But, he thinks i am younger. I haven't lied we just never talk about age. He is 50 and seems to have assumed i am late thirties. Should i say yes to TTC but say u do realise i am 45? Or do i hold the thought that i work in a huge company with loads of professional women on baby no 2 or 3 and all around 40-42 and just say 'yes, woohoo, lets get practicing'? (my best friend at school was born to a very surprised 46 yr old mum too btw).

I also got pregnant once at 40 incredibly quicky/accidentally but was talked into a termination i have always regretted. I'd been seeing somone 3months and can only put it down to being on antibiotics (I didnt know they made pill less efficient). Is 45 too old to even try? Should i make him aware? I am lucky that he is solvent and could afford IVF by the way, he has mentioned that ..and we have both said we agree with adoption as well... I am just scared he will drop me for someone younger and therefore officially 'fertile' ..

Thanks catsmother, you are right actually, dont smoke/drink & getting my act together on my previously rubbish diet, I've recent lost 1.5 stone. On way to work I now walk up every staircase and escalator possible & dont get out of breath & do long, long walks with partner and the dog. I still do choc & cake, but once/twice a week not all day every day and the weight just dropped off (I was a two kitkats a day girl before..with cake on top as 'pudding' )

Oldandcobwebby I may just frame your post, you could be me and my partner. I love your 'age old "just shagging" method'. I've also just been speaking to a teacher friend not seen in years. She told me the majority of her classes seem to have plus forties Mums these days...

Kitkats!!! Nestle products?

sharp intake of breath-icon<

not at all jealous as hell over your 1.5 stone loss, which i seem to have found

I don't even know why you're asking on here. You want a baby. Your partner wants a baby. You're financially stable. You've finally discussed your age issues and he's ok with it.

Just go and try to make a baby ffs. You're not selfish to want a child. The clock is ticking. Stop justifying yourself to people.

Stuntgirl. If you're desperate for kids, ending a pregnancy at 40, whether it was planned or not is surely taking a huge risk that it may not happen again so easily?
An abortion at 25 because the timing is wrong is in no way comparable to the same at 40.

OP's termination - which happened 5 years ago is utterly irrelevant.

Hey Tina Malone is pregnant and she's 50. Sam Taylor Wood had a baby at 42 and another at 45. Geena Davis was pregnant with twins at 48!

Go for it OP!