to think being overweight may negatively affect your chances in online dating?

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And if so, what's the answer? Is it to give the whole online thing a swerve in favour of meeting people in other situations which are more personality and less looks driven? Or to lose weight and only give OD a go when you reach a certain size?...

whois has form for this ive seen them post inflammatory stuff about bigger people on other threads.

You HATE overweight people whois We get it ok.

Bet you wouldnt refuse treatment from an overweight nurse if you were admitted to A and E though.

You HATE overweight people whois We get it ok

No don't HATE fat people actually, I should have added a sized into the phrase.

I just don't think fat people are generally as attractive as normal sized people. Obviously some exceptions. I've never been attracted to a fat man, the thought of a huge beer belly getting in the way is disgusting to me.

And no I bloody wouldn't refuse treatment from a fat nurse. Jus like I wouldn't receive treatment from an ugly nurse.

REFUSE not receive!

I don't hate stupid people but I find them less attractive

if you don't like being discriminated for being overweight like I do, then try bbw cupid. I still get some discrimination but it feels lots better then the popular places like okcupid or pof.

OP, I would suggest you find another way of meeting people rather than using dating websites. They are shite.

All the online relationships I've had started naturally, on other sites not geared towards dating, and have generally been lovely. Those OKcupid type places just smack of people choosing slabs of meat off a rack to me -shudder-

whois, your comments are not in any way helpful to the OP, so may I ask why you posted them except to make yourself feel superior to those of us who are fat?
You don't find overweight people attractive, and that's fine. But coming on to a thread like this and making disparaging comments about how belly fat is disgusting and comparing fat people to normal people is, frankly, far more disgusting than a fat person's body could ever be.

My great cousin was always a big lady- tall, shapely and had a pretty face .
She was widowed 3 times, the last time in her 80s. I half expected her to marry again, but she didn't. Her 1st husband died of cancer aged 43 and she had 2 DC ages 8 and 6. She did meet a man but waited until the kids had gone away to uni before living together/marrying. He too died of cancer some years later and she married again. He died of cancer a few years ago in his and her 80s.

Never asked where she met her husbands, but it was not on OD.

Wow whois-you have really sunk to a new low when you call anyone over a certain size "not normal"-you may what to go away and have a think/never come back.

I am a size 16 at the moment. I have been both slimmer and bigger in the past and I have never had any problems attracting men. I have a lot of confidence though an I think that makes me attractive.

My friend was doing online dating for ages-she is a attractive and a size 12-but she hardly got any interest at all. I think it was more an age thing-she is late 30's and sadly I think a lot of men on there want a young dolly bird on their arm.

I had ago at OD last year, whilst I was 'playing the field' and had tonnes of messages, ect. I have recently deleted my account as to be honest I want to meet someone IRL.

I'm only 5'1 (at a push) and the most of the time I think this is me, I'm never going to grow, get used to it, but I still sometimes feel awful about being so short. my DD is 2 and she is waist high on me and I feel awful about the fact that she probably will grow up to be tall. I used to get so angry at the fact my Parents didn't try and do anything about my height when I was younger (what they could have done I don't know)

A routine appointment with my GP resulted in him saying 'I would never of thought you weighed that much, as you don't look fat at all' which did make me feel better but doesn't change the fact that I AM SO SHORT!

So what if you are the height you are? Where does that leave the majority of the population, globally speaking?

It is your thinking that you need to change, not your physical appearance.

I have "looks" directed at me when I am shopping/waiting in some shops, usually for my DD's, but if I compared those giving the looks to me, to my DD's, most could be considered not attractive enough to be allowed out. I am a size 16, I am on a weight loss mission, but I am good looking, so I have had male attention at every size that I have been. I am also a nice person.

I like big men, I generally wouldn't date someone under 14 st, but I like muscular frames, but I wouldn't dream of calling different sized men unattractive, they just don't interest me, sexually.

I like to think of people as more than their outside shell, though, values and actions are important to me.

Also, I am in a dilemma as I allowed an abusive ex to isolate me, so I now don't have much of a RL to meet someone in and am considering OL dating.

We don't all have opportunities in our day to day lives to meet people.

That's only if people are shallow and if they are would you want to be with them anyway. I'm not skinny by any stretch of the imagination but it's never held me back. I've never been short of male attention and can I also add I have a very satisfying sex life. xx

I agree birds I don't really have any opportunity to meet men, whilst I do like being single, I haven't had sex in a long time!

I met my husband internet dating on "normal" dating websites. I was a size 18. Being overweight only lowers your chances of dating people who don't want to date overweight people, and why would you want to bother with them in that case?

You'd never get a man mentioning their size to another man.
You so do. You should hear my colleagues. They can be soooo boring (and competitive) about it.

It makes me want to eat extra chocolate and chips.

Stop telling the op to lose weight Ffs. It's up to her!
Op everyone fancies different people. Online and irl you can meet people who get to know you and will like you. Weight has nothing to do with it.

Thants. Brilliant non judgemental and open minded comment. If only we could like comments on her. xxx

The only time I ever posted an online dating profile I put the true facts about my height and weight (and dress size to help people "get" how big I was) and posted something like "I worship at the Purple Altar of the Great Cadbury and am not going to be thinner anytime soon. Please do not message me if you prefer slim women as I am not and never will be one."
Seemed to work out ok for me, it's more about being truthful than anything else. Some men do prefer slim/skinny women, but lots don't, or genuinely see "fat" (in women's eyes) as perfectly normal and just don't think it's that big a deal, and some even actively prefer a larger woman.
I'd much rather have met someone who knew I was big and liked it or didn't care than have someone be put off by my size when we met and not know what to say or do, or even actively say so because I'd "misled" them or just hadn't said what I actually looked like iyswim. There is absolutely no point in lying, fibbing, or using an old picture on a dating site, it just wastes everyone's time.

PomBear, that's more or less what I did, too. Essentially said: I'm bigger, and if you have a problem with that, then I'd rather not hear from you. I still got dozens of replies.