Argument with girlfriend

[jimbogills]

I've spent the last few years saving a deposit to buy a house.

I'm now about to buy a house.

my gf has little to no savings so has no prospects of buying or even going halves with me on a joint mortgage.

I was gonna buy my house and she was gonna move in. all lovely and exciting.

now all of a sudden she's concerned that if we break up, she'll be left with nothing.

I asked her if she expected me to give her some portion of my house if we ever broke up and she said yeah. she also asked why I can't just put her on the mortgage.

I just feel so incredulous at the request that I've basically just told her to get bent.

am I being a dick here or is she bang out of order?

if we moved in and she was paying half the mortgage I could understand but all along its been discussed that it'll be me who pays the mortgage and she contributes to bills, etc. mainly because she earns about 50% what I do so can't even afford to pay half of all the costs anyway.

presumably her 50% wage doesnt go into her pocket but will contibute to the house/ food/ bills/ being together

it is totally reasonable to want some assurances before moving in that she will want some form of security should you decide to kick her out of 'your' house

it dorsnt sound like you have a healthy attitude to money/ relationships

flip the roles and her position would be a very scary position to be in

oh

No need to be so rude. OP has asked a reasonable question.

Do not put her on the mortgage. It is your house and you are paying for it. She can contribute to bills. How long have you been together? If it becomes more permanent then you can add her.

NotYoMomma lovely language off the OP!

There seems to be a lot of strange threads around and I remembered the name.

HOw does your wife feel about these plans to buy a house for you and your girlfriend? www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1275613-A-man-asking-for-help-ladies-my-wife-had-a-one-night-stand

littlewhitebag

Do advanced search on the name.

hth.

Oh for the love of God, we are going to get these for weeks now aren't we.

am I being a dick or is she bang out of order

You are being a dick.

HTH

Reported.

Boring.

Not too bright, this one!

WTAF is going on??!!

isn't that thread from 2011? or am I reading the date wrong?

Baffling. Genuinely baffling that anyone would spend their time doing this.

littlewhitebag yes

isn't that thread from 2011? or am I reading the date wrong?

So it is, well spotted Hickory.

The other thread has a zombie thread alert
I've not seen that before!

Yes, the earlier thread has the zombie and is from 2011.

So the OP, who has not posted in that name since then, has had time to be separated/divorced and be thinking of moving in with a subsequent GF.

Hmm.

Couldn't both threads be true. There are 2 years between them. However maybe others posters know more.

My ex moved in with his gf 6months after we split. It could happen.