I feel very sympathetic to Maja; I was 47 in my last pregnancy and 44 in my first, both for very much wanted babies. I had also had multiple miscarriages before.
The problem with the tests for Downs is that they give such little helpful information. To be told that you have a 1 in 10 risk for Downs would sound terrifying and yet you would have a 90% chance that the baby does not have Downs.
To get a definite answer you would have to do an amniocentesis or chorionic villus sampling; there is a real risk of miscarriage with these. We would not expect parents to readily accept medical testing with a real risk of death to the child after birth!
There is an additional issue in that the more stress and pressure a pregnant woman is under, the greater risk of miscarriage, especially in the first 12 weeks. So if you are anticipating the 12 week scan, but are fretting because you supposedly have a 1 in 11 chance of Downs, the risk of miscarriage will be increased. It is already terribly high for an older mum. And an older mum may well be over the moon to be pregnant, be willing to do anything to preserve the pregnancy and very willing to accept the baby, even if there is a degree of disability. There may be a reduced chance of a subsequent pregnancy if this one doesn't succeed; the parents may have waited a long time already to conceive.
I have read a statistical analysis of the value of Downs screening; the estimation was that for every Downs pregnancy diagnosed, a large number of women would be greatly distressed and it was likely that a small number of healthy pregnancies would be lost, variously because of miscarriage secondary to stress, or secondary to CVS etc.
Now, some people would far rather lose a healthy pregnancy that risk a Downs pregnancy, because they could not face that as an option, that is their choice. If anything, that has become a sort of cultural norm, and the testing regime in pregnancy is geared up to this as a preference.
Other people would accept a Downs pregnancy and would do anything to avoid losing the baby they are expecting, that is their choice too.
If I had asked not to be told about DS markers on scanning, then I would be disappointed if this were not respected.
I would think it very reasonable to feed this back to the scanning department. It would be possible to feed back positives also, to balance this out.