To be irritated by what this sonographer said?

[maja00]

I recently had my 12 week dating scan. I declined the nuchal translucency scan, so was just going for the standard dating/measuring.

As soon as we got into the room the sonographer confirmed that I had declined the NT scan. The scan went as expected, baby looks fine etc.

At the end of the scan the sonographer said "I know you declined the NT scan, but I had a quick look at the baby's neck and it all looks normal. I would tell you if there was an obvious abnormality there".

Now, is it just me or is this not really in the spirit of us declining that test? If the sonographer had said it looked abnormal, then we would have been in exactly the position we wanted to avoid

I understand that the sonographer was trying to be helpful, but AIBU to be a little annoyed by this?

It doesn't matter why the sonographer thought OP declined it. That's got nothing whatsoever to do with her.

Probably no point in just telling your midwife about it. Bizarrely, in most hospitals, the sonographers and the midwives have very little contact and are in separate departments. I would suggest an email to the PALS team at your local hospital - the feedback will get to the right place and the somographer will get to hear you POV and hopefully reflect on their practice. Xx

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Hehe, how is your three year old, OP? :)

If the sonographer told you the baby had an abnormality then i could see your point a bit more. You didn't want to know if they did and they told you anyway.
But I don't think it's a major problem that they reassured you that everything looked fine.

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