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Original poster

to consider going away on my own for a weekend?

86 replies

swallowedAfly · 09/08/2013 12:26

i took ds to egypt for 2 weeks in july so he has had a good holiday this summer already.

i'm a single mum and only work term time (though i start back a bit earlier than him in september).

i am going stark raving mad.

would it be horrible of me to go away for a weekend without ds? he would stay with my parents and i would probably go visit a friend or possibly even just disappear on my own entirely somewhere?

is it bad to spend money and time on myself rather than take him with or just suck up the fact that summer holidays 24/7 parenting is driving me insane?

i don't actually know where i'd go or what i want to do so that's a question too - what would you do if you could manage to carve out a weekend to yourself?

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reelingintheyears · 09/08/2013 12:29

I'd go.

Nothing wrong with taking a week/end away while he stays with his GSs.

IfYouLeaveMeNow · 09/08/2013 12:30

Go. Don't even worry about it!

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swallowedAfly · 09/08/2013 12:31

god a week sounds wonderful!

what would you do?

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sillymillyb · 09/08/2013 12:32

Go!!! I'm a lone parent too, and it sounds blissful!

Have a wonderful time Smile

reelingintheyears · 09/08/2013 12:33

If I were a single parent i'd go to Scotland and stay with an old friend who lives near Skye, or i'd book into a B&B in somewhere like Edinburgh for a weekend and do the sights.
Go out for a drink and read.

MissMuesli · 09/08/2013 12:33

I would go! What about some kind of spa day thrown into? Infact, can I come?!

reelingintheyears · 09/08/2013 12:36

There's loads you could do, go walking the South coast walk while camping or B&Bs.
I don't much like London but there'd be lots to do and see if you wanted to go there and can afford it.

reelingintheyears · 09/08/2013 12:36

I'd like to visit Bath again, I haven't been there for years.

RoxyFox211 · 09/08/2013 12:38

Yanbu. Go, your'll feel better for it Smile

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swallowedAfly · 09/08/2013 12:39

oh i have a friend near bath...

i may just be daydreaming but god it does sound good.

just to potter alone and go sit in a friendly pub at the end of the day.

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Cheeseatmidnight · 09/08/2013 12:39

Go go go go!

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swallowedAfly · 09/08/2013 12:39

i feel awful for being such a crap mum that 6 weeks alone with my son makes me want to dig a hole in the garden and bury myself in it Blush

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reelingintheyears · 09/08/2013 12:40

So, are you going to do it? Grin

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swallowedAfly · 09/08/2013 12:41

i don't know.

it does feel really selfish.

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reelingintheyears · 09/08/2013 12:41

Jeez, the mere thought of six weeks alone with my DC makes me shudder!
Not being a crap Mum either, I bet your Parents and your DS would have a blast too!

CoffeeOne · 09/08/2013 12:42

Go for it! You have nothing to feel awful about, 24/7 parenting is hard for anyone! He will have a nice time with his grandparents and the change will do him good too. Go, have a lovely weekend, you've earned it.

reelingintheyears · 09/08/2013 12:43

To look after other people you also have to look after yourself. Smile and Wine!

cestlavielife · 09/08/2013 12:43

just go !

your ds gets quality time with his grandparents what is the problem?
there is none.
just do it

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swallowedAfly · 09/08/2013 12:44

reeling i'm so tempted to pour that drink and it's not even 1'o'clock.

sure sign that something needs to give.

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comingintomyown · 09/08/2013 12:44

I am at the mid point of my annual two weeks off work and two weeks off my teen DC who are away with their Dad.

In NO WAY are you being selfish being a single parent is tough and a break away to recharge batteries and be you will do you and hence your DS the world of good

These two weeks for me are gold dust and you have set me thinking again should I buzz off somewhere for a couple of days...

MarianForrester · 09/08/2013 12:44

I don't think it's being a crap mum at all. I am not a lone parent, and don't k ow how you do it! I love my dcs dearly, and prefer the holidays to term time, but after six weeks I to could really do with a real, and some uninterrupted adult time just to do what I would like to!

It's not just me either, some friends were discussing this only the other day and they are feeling just the same.

I would certainly do it if I could, reckon will be good for you and your ds - a trip for him too! In fact, it is your actual dutyGrin

I think I would go to Edinburgh. Or Paris. And wander... Sigh, am jealous now.

reelingintheyears · 09/08/2013 12:44

If the sun is past the yard arm.... Grin

PoppyWearer · 09/08/2013 12:46

Definitely do it!

I would probably head to London or Paris, to indulge in browsing around galleries and shops and drinking cocktails...all impossible with DCs in tow.

dreamingbohemian · 09/08/2013 12:46

Why is it selfish? Don't be a martyr. It won't hurt anyone and will make you really happy, why wouldn't you do it?

reelingintheyears · 09/08/2013 12:46

Sit in a friendly pub in Bath/Edinburgh/Paris after a days wandering the city.....

I'd go like a shot.

DS will be fine, how old is he btw?

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