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To not know what I supposedly did wrong here?

311 replies

LackingEnergy · 08/08/2013 16:12

Yesterday as a huge favour to my Dsis we looked after our Dniece (8) and Dnephew (5) for the day at very short notice.

They had breakfast with us since they arrived at 7am - Toast with honey

We went to the park for a few hours

We made cupcakes and Dniece and Dnephew decorated them (took some home for mum, dad and them to eat later and ate one while they were here)

Had lunch - A sandwich, slices of pepper, cucumber, carrot and tomatoes and some pringles

Had a ride on the ponies (Dsis expects this to happen as she uses me as a free instructor and it helps keep the weight off the ponies - they came with all their riding gear)

Did some drawings. Some went on our fridge the rest were taken home

Took the dogs for a walk and had another play at the park

Had tea - Homemade pizza and homemade wedges followed by slices of banana, apple, pear, grapes and a chocolate mousse pot to dip them in

Watched UP

Dsis picked them up at 8pm two hours later than she was meant to, they were more than ready for bed. She asked what they'd had to eat and wasn't happy with the above. She also wasn't happy that they were so tired. I'm not sure why?

For a very last minute thing with just me and three children from 8-6 I think we packed a lot of fun things in

OP posts:
Retropear · 08/08/2013 18:31

You sound lovely (she's off her rocker)and my 3 are dropping by tomorrow too!

BeaLola · 08/08/2013 18:34

Flowers + Wine
You are fab. My DS only has 1 Uncle and that is it. He would have loved your day plus yr plans for Saturday. Your sister should be profuse in her thanks and I think apart from wine/flowers giving you the cash she would have given childminder for you to spend as you want to whether it be industrial size glitter bubble tubes or other.
Interestingly will her MIL be up to her standards???

CreatureRetorts · 08/08/2013 18:35

I didn't think the food was bad. All in moderation and not every day.

When I read these threads I always hope that the other person was on MN so they can read what an arse they sound.

tobiasfunke · 08/08/2013 18:35

She sounds like my sister. Asks people for favours and then delights in telling them how they did it wrong by way of a thank-you. Can I send my 5 year old round yours- he would have a ball with all that fun.

FrussoHathor · 08/08/2013 18:36

Slimming world chips are just normal potatoes sliced into wedges and put in the oven!

There just normal chips in my house.

zoobaby · 08/08/2013 18:48

Only one question. If her DC are with childminder all week (now to be covered by your parents and her ILs), and Saturday is her day out with her DH, when exactly does she see her own DCs? She can start criticising food and entertainment choices when she actually starts providing some for herself.

breatheslowly · 08/08/2013 19:12

I think you should all have a picnic on Saturday. Just tell your sister "what a great idea - thanks for offering to bring us all a picnic. It will make the day much easier for me and is only a fraction of the cost of what you would be paying a childminder, so it is win-win".

Redlocks30 · 08/08/2013 19:20

When does she see her kids?!

She isn't being painted in a great light here-I hope this is a one-off!

Bogeyface · 08/08/2013 19:48

Another one who is wondering if this "Day out" thing is a weekly event.

No wonder she is criticising you if it is, she clearly has no idea what children eat and do all day!

zzzzz · 08/08/2013 19:53

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MoominsYonisAreScary · 08/08/2013 19:57

I cut them into chip like pieces and bung some one cal spray on then, normal chips in this house come out the freezer or from the chip shop Grin

Emilythornesbff · 08/08/2013 20:03
Shock

No idea why she would complain tbh. I would assume there was something else wrong.

I would ask her what specifically she didn't like about he food tbh.
And I think breatheslowly's idea bout her providing a picnic is a good one. Genuinely.

Fruitnut · 08/08/2013 20:16

So if a parent works Monday-Friday she isn't allowed a day out with partner child free?

Back to the thread. She did sound ungrateful, it sounds like the children had a great day and that's the main thing.

OnIlkelyMoorBahtat · 08/08/2013 20:26

Apart from the food issue - on which she doesn't have a leg to stand on - she's two hours late to pick her kids up, then complains they're tired?! Jeez, what is up with some people?

OP, if you are going to give her the benefit of the doubt and look after her kids again - and fair enough, she's you're sister, you know her better than we do, so you know if this is out of character or not - please, PLEASE at least tell her beforehand that you're not a mind reader, so if there's anything food-wise she expects you to provide, she should ask (note "ask", not tell") you first? If it was me, I'd also be telling her I'm not her bloody employee to be bossed about & she could show some bloody gratitude while she's at it, but maybe that's just me!

captainmummy · 08/08/2013 20:56

If slimmingworld 'chips' are just bits of potato to go in the oven, why not jsut cut bits of potato and put them in the oven?

But low-fat chocolate mousse (with all the sweeteners and emulsifiers and thickeners and gunk) - why not ordinary chocolate mouse (chocolate. cream. )

Not judging - as i say my kids eat the same (except the low-fat stuff)

And yes some people do feed their dc low-carb. It just means real food, meat and veg and fat. Just no pasta, wheat, sugar.

LingDiLong · 08/08/2013 20:56

I think you made her feel inferior OP. As the sister with 2 older kids to your 1 toddler, she probably feels she is the one who knows best and is the more experienced mum. She was probably hoping to find you all frazzled, the kids shoved in front of the TV all day and bored out of their minds. Instead she finds you've kept them active, got them to eat reasonably healthily and they've probably had a fantastic time.

Please, please DON'T run your schedule and menu past her. Give her another chance to act like a decent human being and express her undying gratitude for your provision of free childcare by all means, but don't lie down and let her wipe her feet on you!

ilovecolinfirth · 08/08/2013 20:58

You sound amazing! Take my kids for the day please :) :)

Original poster
LackingEnergy · 08/08/2013 21:21

If slimmingworld 'chips' are just bits of potato to go in the oven, why not jsut cut bits of potato and put them in the oven?

We have a Tefal actifry so we cut the potato into chips, rinse them, put them in the actifry and use fry light 1cal spray. DNiece and Dnephew normally get the ready made frozen oven chips/curly fries

But low-fat chocolate mousse (with all the sweeteners and emulsifiers and thickeners and gunk) - why not ordinary chocolate mouse (chocolate. cream. )

Was all I had, they were meant as a treat for me but I thought it would go down well with some fruit and it did

OP posts:
Yorkieaddict · 08/08/2013 21:26

The more I think about it, the more cross I am on your behalf. You got your sister out of a massive hole, and fed and entertained the DC well, and its not good enough??

My DS (5) is currently staying with his sister, my DSD for a couple of days. It's not as a favour to us, her DS wanted someone to play with. It has just occurred to me, that I haven't asked what she has fed him, why would I? As long as he is fed, even if it was crisps every meal, it won't do any harm for a short time!

Dackyduddles · 08/08/2013 21:32

Nursery costs £54 p/d all in where I live (Essex). I'd gladly pay you instead.

Emilythornesbff · 08/08/2013 21:35

Stop picking the menu apart FFS. One fucking non- perfect-not -homemade chocolate fucking mousse. Fucking hell! It's just food.

And there was fruit with it!
Fucking hell.

BrianTheMole · 08/08/2013 21:38

Sounds like a great day. When can I book my two in with you please Smile

Blatherskite · 08/08/2013 21:41

I think both of your days sound wonderful. I'm lacking the dog and ponies but I'm considering pinching your ideas and menu to do with my two tomorrow.

Chocolate mousse with fruit to dip in sounds divine!

mynameismskane · 08/08/2013 21:41

Why don't you just say something to her? Tell her she was being very rude a cowbag and you expect thanks, not that kind of criticism, for looking after them.

MacaYoniandCheese · 08/08/2013 21:42

This is mental. If someone trustworthy (and as lovely as you sound) offered to entertain my children for the day, I wouldn't care what they ate. Your menu sounds like the perfect balance of nutrient-dense and kid-friendly. Your Sister is being VVVVVVVVVV U.