to think that a lot (but not all) "Gentle Parenting" FB pages are full of sneery nobbers?

[Fourwillies]

Inspired by a post by MrsDeVere, and the fact that I have just removed myself from FOUR of these pages, I'm reaching the conclusion that despite the high ideals, there are a lot of judgemental sneery fuckers on these pages, clueless about anything beyond their own nose.

[and relax]

It excludes people and becomes cliquey.

I've just googled "hatting". How can anyone get wound up over a baby's hat???

Warning: this link contains the phrase "Research has demonstrated..."

stop hatting chatting and patting

I have no idea what it is.

It's the thorny issue of whether to put a hat on a baby. There. I knew you'd be shocked.

Well I am still [goldfish faced] at these pages..had to seek a few out and have a read.

Then I refreshed and had to investigate 'hatting' too.

where do these people get their ideas from..and who on earth funds this drivel research?

What a load of old wank.

That link Is the most wonderful thing I've ever read

Best get the therapist booked then.

Dd had a pink sleepsuit with a hood and bunny ears when she was about 4 months.

She hates that photo. Mwahahaha

YouTheCat this.

No problem whatsoever with people sharing/exchanging slings but its the underlying identification of people as "sling people" that makes it so nauseating.

What's wrong with just using Freecycle/Facebook/the local paper to share the bloody things. Also note it has to be slings. It couldn't be something as dull and non-demographically pigeonholable as "buggy sharing meets"...

I really hate the idea that women have to utterly sacrifice themselves for their children - 24 hour breast feeding, co sleeping, sling wearing ECG means women essentially have no time for themselves whatsoever for years and years. I think it is quite mysogynisitc. In the 50s women weren't expected to do this. But we get some power and go back to work and suddenly, enormous surprise! A good mother is one who devotes herself utterly to her child. No time todo anything else then, is there.

That's it.

YANBU.

I have a friend that is very into attachment parenting, it is so tiring. All she ever talks about is breastfeeding, slings, co-sleeping, blw etc.

I just don't understand the need to label what you do as a parent. I do what keeps us happy. I started off blw, but started spoon feeding when DS loaded a spoon, passed it to me and opened his mouth saying aaaah!

We tried slings, but DS got fidgety and was calmer in his pushchair. Etc etc.

It pisses me off that some parenting styles involve lording it over other parents.

Oh and the term babywearing is ridiculous. I saw something that said something on the lines of "breastfeeding, cloth bumming babywearing mama." Urgh!

I'd have had to sterilise the pushchair and the biters to attend a pushchair porn meet..there'd have been a possibility of non-organic crumbs and dilute squash

I'll go in for gentle parenting when the boys take on board the idea of gentle childrening.

I had a second hand tandem buggy, with no brakes. It was so scruffy.

I'm amazed my children have survived to adulthood tbh.

The hatting thing has to be a wind-up. Someone tell me it's a wind-up....

Why do I never meet people like this? My life must be so sheltered.

Am thinking of starting a "bugaboo meet". Who's in?

I think people are incredibly naive if they think that these meet ups are not meant to exclude people. Perhaps there is a defining feature of these 'meet ups' because they are basically saying 'come along if you identify with this, piss off if you don't!'

I have never been on these FB groups but it's a democratic country - if people enjoy this stuff I don't really see what harm they are doing.

I would have loved a pushchair meet when I was pregnant, how awesome would it have been to properly push some round and see what they are like?