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AIBU to want to wear black to a wedding?

102 replies

Cookingmonster · 03/08/2013 22:58

I mean, I don't really know the couple, my husband is goodffriends with the groom, I''ve met him a handful of times and her only once. I'm usually against wearing black to a wedding but it's the only dress I have that goes with the fascinator, jewellery and shoes. It would mean not buying another dress!
So, tell me AIBU?

OP posts:
hmsvictoria · 03/08/2013 23:02

Course not. I wore a v chic, mainly black dress (with cream accessories) to my brother's wedding, no one seemed to notice or mind the colour of my frock

Cherriesarelovely · 03/08/2013 23:31

I went to a wedding a few years ago and lots of people were wearing black. I'd never seen that before but they looked lovely.

Alliwantisaroomsomewhere · 03/08/2013 23:33

YANBU.

MrGeresHamster · 03/08/2013 23:35

I once went to a wedding where the bridesmaids were in black. They looked good. So long as you don't wear a black veil too, that might be a bit much.

Ms23 · 03/08/2013 23:36

Nope, black is fine as long as your fascinator etc are a brighter colour or cream.

Ms23 · 03/08/2013 23:37

Nope, black is fine as long as your fascinator etc are a brighter colour or cream.

edwinbear · 03/08/2013 23:37

My bridesmaids wore black - very chic they looked too. YANBU.

MrGeresHamster · 03/08/2013 23:45

Edwinbear, maybe I came to your wedding... If so, they did look good.

GW297 · 04/08/2013 00:12

I think it's now perfectly acceptable to wear black to weddings and I know plenty of people who have.

edwinbear · 04/08/2013 00:14

MrGeresHamster if it was in a brewery, indeed you did Grin

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 04/08/2013 00:15

I bought a black dress to get married in (but actually wore a long cream cocktail dress as the black one wasn't fancy enough)

YY wear black.
As long as you don't sit with a tissue and wail "It should've been me . She won't make him happy. She doesn't know him like I do. Me. Me "

TidyDancer · 04/08/2013 01:00

Yes black is fine IMO, as long as it is dressed up with a feature colour. :)

Alisvolatpropiis · 04/08/2013 01:05

I wore a smart pencil dress with matching jacket to the last wedding I went to. It was the outfit I wore to my gradation. It was also off white.

Turquoisehat · 04/08/2013 05:02

The last wedding i went to, the bridesmaids wore black as did 90% of the guests. I was very glad to be wearing my chocolate brown dress.

I would never wear black to a wedding after that.

MrsKoala · 04/08/2013 05:13

I'm going to go against the grain here and say i find wearing black really rude. Sorry.

Bullygirl · 04/08/2013 07:10

My bridesmaids wore black velvet bolero style jackets with their dresses and a few guests wore black including 2 of my aunties and DH's sister. There are too many social etiquette type rules that are there for seemingly no good reason at all.

MrsKeithRichards · 04/08/2013 07:14

No way.

Anything other than black or white to a wedding. There's so much to choose from. I think black is too work or funeral for a wedding.

saintmerryweather · 04/08/2013 07:15

black is for funerals imo, i wouldnt do it but i dont own a LBD

beginnings · 04/08/2013 07:15

Done it many a time, as did many to mine. No problem at all.

Mckayz · 04/08/2013 07:16

My XSIL wore black to my first wedding as she disapproved of it.

So I'd never wear black to a wedding.

thebody · 04/08/2013 07:17

well I wouldn't but its better than wearing a big white dress.😄

AmandaCooper · 04/08/2013 07:20

I wouldn't wear black, red or white to a wedding.

wigglesrock · 04/08/2013 07:23

I would, wouldn't bother me at all as a bride.

I've been to lots of weddings where black has been worn especially how you're describing your outfit. I think accessorising it with a mantilla would be a bit much but your outfit sounds fine.

Apart from black ties, I can't remember the last time I saw someone wear black at a funeral.

megsmouse · 04/08/2013 08:23

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missmargot · 04/08/2013 08:42

My bridesmaids wore black as did several of my guests. As long you aren't in head to toe black with a black veil I don't see an issue.