AIBU to want to wear black to a wedding?

[Cookingmonster]

I mean, I don't really know the couple, my husband is goodffriends with the groom, I''ve met him a handful of times and her only once. I'm usually against wearing black to a wedding but it's the only dress I have that goes with the fascinator, jewellery and shoes. It would mean not buying another dress!
So, tell me AIBU?

I wore a black dress to a wedding- mine!! It was covered in ivory lace-man I love that dress.
Go for it, I wouldn't have a problem.

YABU to wear black if you are not sure whether the people concerned would be upset by it and think that it is bad luck or that you wish them ill.

Superstitions can be silly but at their wedding is not the time to challenge someone on their superstitions.

I have gone out and bought a new dress. I figured that seeing as I was worrying about it, I should make sure that I was not upsetting anyone.
Thank you for your input.

I did, however buy a cream lace dress that I am going to wear with black stockings and heels. Oh God, shoot me now!

I wore a black dress for my wedding and lots of the guests wore black, and other bright colours (because we banned white, cream, pastel and muted tones)

Go for it.

Dh never wears a tie to anything either.

Nope, YANBU, black is sometimes the most elegant option, both my mom and my MiL were in black & white at my wedding last month, they both looked smashing!

Oops, just saw your last update - cream might be worse than black, I'm afraid.

'People have no concept of etiquette any more.'

Or maybe times are just changing?

Wear what you want, OP. I've been to weddings in black. No one cried, challenged my DP to a duel or stopped sending me their calling card.

I read on a similar thread that red at weddings was traditionally the colour the groom's mistress would wear. Again, I think the key words are 'traditionally' and 'was'.

I wore all black to the last wedding I was at, as did many of the other women since the wedding was in November. It didn't look like a funeral, it looked like a fancy Christmas party. I'm Irish so maybe the etiquette is different (although we take our weddings pretty seriously) but IMO black is fine so long as you're not the mother of the groom sobbing into your hanky at losing your precious little boy. Actually, I think anything other than white/cream/ivory is fine.

I asked the same thing last week in style and got a varied response like you have! I think it depends on how traditional the ceremony/venue is...I wouldn't wear black to a church white wedding but am considering wearing black to a hotel wedding in a few weeks!! So I'm going with YAdefinitelyNBU wear what you are comfortable in

Just seen your update...wear what you are comfortable in as long as its not cream and lace....screams of upstaging the bride to me sorry OP!!!!

cream lace OP? Have you checked with the bride what she's wearing. Am now thinking you'll be better off with the black......

Cream lace with black stockings and heels?

Seriously?

Go back to black and accessorize with white or cream.

I once wore a black dress, white jacket, red hat and shoes. It would appear I broke the rules! Fairly sure no one cared.

God yawner all the weddings I've worn black to have been white church weddings! But I'm Irish so nearly all the weddings are in churches. But as Stokes says maybe the etiquette is different here. Loads of people wear black.

Haha nugget!!

I had two ladies wear black to my wedding earlier this year. They both asked me if I minded which I though was very sweet and I didn't mind at all.

I wore a cream lace dress to a friends wedding with pink accessories. Checked my outfit with her first. It was neither bridal nor bridesmaidy so no one was 'upstaged'

Somehow missed your update earlier - cream lace is a no no I'm afraid. Wear the black dress, I'm sure it's lovely.

definitely no to cream lace. Black is better than that. Imo the order of out of order goes; white lace, cream lace, white, cream, black, bright red, neon.

I would have been upset if someone had worn black to my wedding-it's common sense as it is a funeral colour.
Mind you, a cream lace dress? You are just kidding now aren't you :-)

would never wear an all black dress or an all white dress to a wedding

all black is fine for a party/birthday but not weddings

but often wear black/white ones

It's not like you'd wear a cocktail dress to a funeral though, is it? A black suit, yes funereal, but a black cocktail dress with strappy heels, fancy accessories etc is glamorous party wear I'd say.

I wore black to the last wedding I went to and didn't feel out of place. I struggle to find dresses to fit me as have enormous boobs so limited in choice of dresses. The dress isn't suitable to wear to a funeral.
I wore cream to my brothers wedding so clearly i'm not following the rules. Just add some colours with it and it will be fine.