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To think friends dp is the weird one not mine! (Tampons)

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ShabbyButNotChic · 02/08/2013 12:46

Friend was at mine this morning for a cuppa gossip and my dp had popped to tesco for bits and bobs. When he came back he had got me the razor blades i had asked him to get and said 'i had a wander down that aisle and tampax were on offer so i got you 2boxes of yellows'

Nothing odd in this i dont think?

Friend was in shock! Apparently her dp refuses to buy them, thinks it is a 'private' thing and doesnt want to be seen dead within 10yards of a tampon basically... She went on about how fab and modern my dp is, how lucky i am etc. isnt it amazing how he buys the right ones etc etc.

Aibu to think that dp is not weird, and hers has very strange views??

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SanityClause · 02/08/2013 22:40

DH bought me tampons on holiday in Greece a few years ago. He had to go to a pharmacy, as there were none in the supermarket. (I'm sure there would've been in a larger place.) He said the pharmacist was obviously quite shocked she he went in and asked for them.

JamInMyWellies · 02/08/2013 22:40

My Dh would buy them and has done for me many times.

Also my Dad used to get them for us too. One of four girls so he got very used to popping out to get tampax.

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ShabbyButNotChic · 02/08/2013 22:41

Well it wasnt a song and dance routine silver he just said as he was unpacking, in an 'oh i got you these' kind of way. And yes he does tell me his bargains, is that not normal? The stuff gets packed away, casual comments eg 'bread was only a quid this week, so i got a couple for the freezer...'
Or are we sad boring weirdos that like shopping haha

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Alisvolatpropiis · 02/08/2013 22:43

I think I have been unabashed about it because I started my periods whilst staying at my dads and my mum was out of the country. It was tell him and ask or erm...nothing really. His reaction (unbothered) probably set me up for life assuming all blokes aren't.

3birthdaybunnies · 02/08/2013 22:46

DH .. shopping. Shopping .. dh, sorry does not compute. Oh except if you mean when he goes into a shop to buy food for one meal and has accidentally spent £80 but still nothing that can make a meal. Enjoy your DP!

Silverdaisy · 02/08/2013 22:47

Sorry, I agree we may discuss such topics together also. No offence meant :) I was only wondering why it was discussed in front of a friend.

I do think it is an interesting topic though.

gobbledegook1 · 02/08/2013 22:50

Yours is normal. My DP wouldn't look off his own back but has no issue picking stuff up for me if I ask him to.

ShellyBoobs · 02/08/2013 22:54

Not that long ago, I asked OH to pick some sanpro up for me and went on to try to describe what I wanted but all I got in response was, "Yes, yes, no problem, I know what I'm doing, just leave me to it". Before he left for the the shops.

My friend stumbled upon him with a dazed look on his face walking up and down the aisle, utterly baffled by the array of products on offer, having already half filled his hand basket with what he 'thought I might like' before realising there was a far bigger selection than he was ever going to be able to carry.

Shy about buying sanpro? Not a chance.

Utterly clueless and unobservant? Oh yes...

Grin
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ShabbyButNotChic · 02/08/2013 22:55

Ah none taken silver :)
We are a close group of friends, so dp is also mates with my mates etc, quite normal to have conversations about random things!

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HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 02/08/2013 22:55

Shabby the only thing DH refuses to buy me is fags. Not that he would buy tampons on the fly, but he would pick them up if I asked.

Actually both are in the past tense! Early menopause 5 years ago and quit smoking 2 months ago Grin

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ShabbyButNotChic · 02/08/2013 23:00

My dp tried that hearts, said he didnt mind smoking but didnt want to encourage it. Well i dont drink, so i stopped buying him his precious desperados/whisky when i shopped. Didnt want to encourage him damaging his body you see... We both gave in :) turns out we couldnt be arsed to fight haha

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SummerHoliDidi · 02/08/2013 23:01

Dp would buy me tampons if I asked, but would think it a bit odd seeing as he knows I use a mooncup. He does buy dd1 sanitary towels as long as they're on the shopping list but would never think to get them just because they're something we need fairly regularly. He knows which ones to get because dd1 sobbed and screamed one time when he bought the wrong type and they make her itch, he gets the right ones now.

Silverdaisy · 02/08/2013 23:02

Shabby,thanks x

starsandunicorns · 02/08/2013 23:06

My dp buys them if he sees them on offer and has even popped them in the basket when I have forgotton he even knows which pads his sd uses and buys them too

QueenMaeve · 02/08/2013 23:14

If they're in the shopping list, dh takes great delight in singing whoaa body fooooorm. Hilarious. Not.

bonkersLFDT20 · 02/08/2013 23:15

Well, I'd rather he'd have got me a Chocolate Orange or something TBH. I don't think he would ever buy tampons unless I asked him. I use a Mooncup anyway :-)

RedPencils · 02/08/2013 23:20

Only if I asked and gave very explicit instructions (in facts last time i sent him a photo to his phone so he knew what I wanted (I'm fussy).
He wouldn't seek them out or notice if they were on offer though.

Beastofburden · 03/08/2013 00:29

Oh how I hope your friend has daughters. Lots of pre-menstrual, stroppy daughters. My BIL has two, and he says there is one week a month when it is best if he just leaves home Grin

FloweryOwl · 03/08/2013 01:09

Your partner sounds normal to me. Hers sounds odd.

In the past my dh has bought me tampons, sanitary towels, breast pads, pile cream, loads of make up and nail varnish, fake tan, hair dye, loads of girly accessories etc.. I've even sent him out to buy me dresses when I've had 'nothing to wear meltdowns'

deleted203 · 03/08/2013 01:55

DH would buy them if they were on a shopping lists, but it wouldn't occur to him to be scanning the aisles for sanitary bargains! Grin

He's got sisters, me and teenage/20s girls. He isn't freaked by woman stuff.

(I ought to point out that it wouldn't occur to him to buy milk or bread if it wasn't requested - never mind tampons, BTW. The only thing it might occur to him to buy without being sent for would be beer).

MrsBungle · 03/08/2013 02:04

My DH would buy them, no bother. It wouldn't occur to him, though, to look for bargains at that section.

nooka · 03/08/2013 02:23

dh has happily bought me STs for the last 20 odd years. I've used the same brand for most of that time, so it's just the green Always / night Always so not too tricky. He might buy them if they are on offer, but is a bit anal about following the list. He'll get dd's supplies too, it's just one of those things to check the stocks for isn't it?

dh is into openness though :)

DaleyBump · 03/08/2013 02:27

DP has bought of tampax many a time :) as well as breast pads, condoms, canesten, tights etc. It doesn't bother him at all. He's even nipped in to get tampax for my mum when she's been caught out.

My dad, on the other hand, would leave you trailing blood to get them yourself. Milk, fine. Bread, fine. Eggs, fine. Tampax, never in a million years. I can't understand why though, it's not like the cashier thinks they're for him.

Xihha · 03/08/2013 02:28

my dh would phone me and ask which ones first.

SupermansBigRedPants · 03/08/2013 02:52

Df would if I gave him proper instructions or even better sent him a picture of what I wanted Grin right now in the bathroom theres panty liners, tampons, breast pads, night time towels and maternity pads sitting on the windowsill. My fil has been in numerous times and has never bkanched at the sight of them - him and mil had 5 dc he knows what it is!

My bf's dad is 60 odd and used to buy her pads, she was mortified but he gruffly told her he'd been married to her mother for over 30 years did she really think he's never bought them before Confused that was funny!

Your friend's dp is an odd bugger.