TidyDancer's bridezilla thread part 3

[TidyDancer]

Here you go!

i think you should write back to glue and her sister

hey ladies,
don't usually send these on for fear of being rude and annoying friends, but figured you wouldn't mind.
cheers
tidy

Subject: I want this back.....apparently it works - ?????

This may just set the record for return emails and forwards. Leave it up to the Irish to come up with the answer to all our wishes. Well, at least one.

Make sure you follow the directions carefully. I think we all need a little luck right about now.
Hope the Leprechaun dances his jig for you!

Comments from others:

I had to forward this, my mom swears it works. The day after she sent it, they got an offer on their land on the Swannee river, they haven't even seen that land since 1987. It came out of the blue. So you know that I'm going to try it.
Love Kim

Not sure if this had anything to do with it but it was shortly after I sent this out - I got a call to say our bond was approved - against all odds.

I don't know if it works but I won a new fridge full of various cool drinks from Beyer and Beyer last week.

I do not know if it works, but I won a microwave yesterday Seems like it Hey !!

I hope this works my son could use a really good job!!!!!!!

Good luck to everyone! And may all your dreams come true!

This may sound nuts, but my husband got this the other day and sent it off. About 10 minutes later a really good financial windfall happened for his son Sean who he had sent it too as well. one of the people he sent it to was responsible for the windfall.

AN IRISH FRIENDSHIP WISH
Good Luck!!
I hope it works...
May there always be work for your hands to do;
May your purse always hold a coin or two;
May the sun always shine on your windowpane;
May a rainbow be certain to follow each rain;
May the hand of a friend always be near you;
May God fill your heart with gladness to cheer you.
OK, this is what you have to do....
Send this to all of your friends! But - you HAVE to send this within 1 hour from when you open it!
Now.................Make A wish!!!!!!
I hope you made your wish! Now then, if you send to:
1 person --- your wish will be granted in 1 year
3 people --- 6 months
5 people --- 3 months
6 people --- 1 month
7 people --- 2 weeks
8 people --- 1 week
9 people --- 5 days
10 people --- 3 days
12 people --- 2 days
15 people --- 1 day
20 people --- 3 hours
If you delete this after you read it... you will have 1 year of bad luck! But... if you send it 2 of your friends . you will automatically have 3 years of good luck!!! :-)

followed by a chain email or some other spam everyday until the honeymoon

don't think you should engage with them any further OP. you've been polite so far, you've been gracious. there's really nothing more to be said.

I think if you did bother to reply now, when you've already made your thoughts on it all quite plain, that you will only end up wondering if and when (and what) they choose to reply.

(although yep, it must be v.tempting to send the excellent tell-it-like-it-is replies from here to the glue family )

Ah balls to not replying (have bizarrely had lashings of wine on a Wed night so reckless). Send Eagle's suggestion....

Also, loving GlueFamily Robinson....

Dear sister,

F has much more important things to worry about than the wedding venue. She is losing friends due to her own extraordinary rudeness.

Please speak some sense to her as I fear that she will find herself very lonely if she continues to treat people like this.

And please don't ask me again. I said no when she first aked me and the no still stands.

Good luck,

Tidy.

I would not reply now, it will only look petty and lower yourself to her level. You have said what you wanted to say. I Think leave it at that, and try to forget her. She is no friend at all, she just wants you for what you can give her, and does not seem to care that she has hurt a very old friend. He rudeness and entitlement has stunned all of Mumsnet, hence 3 threads about it, I have never seen anything like this before, and I been on mumsnet jst over 6 years. Try to move on, if teir are any updates about bridezillas behaviour we would lov to hear about them

My dh doesn't get this thread at all. Tried to explain what I was laughing at last night and he didn't find it at all amusing.

As 10 minutes later he was chuckling about a newspaper article entitled "10 ways to manage your penis" WIBU to tell him his humour is very similar to dd's (who has just invented an apparently hilarious new song called "Wind the poo poo up") and suggest that perhaps the brilliance of this thread went way over his head?

It doesn't sound like that's an email you need to respond to. Perhaps only respond if you hear any more from them.

there is a world of difference between "I'm so sorry about all of this" and "I'm sorry you feel that way,"

I was going to say this.

It's the only 'sorry' you've received OP, and it's THE most passive apology that it's possible to give. Might as well say ''what a shame you feel this way'' .....

Would i answer?
hmmmmmmm

I think i might be tempted to send something short along the lines of:

Dear X
I think anyone would 'feel this way'.
I wont be reconsidering - your sister needs arrange to pay someone to decorate for her instead of assuming an STD/uninvited friend will do it for her, whilst still refusing to acknowledge any wrong doing on her part.

How can we make sure this goes in classics?

Oh I so wish the stupid bride to be could read all these threads - but even then I bet she wouldn't get what a cowbag she is!

MNHQ would have to move all three threads! At least in AIBU they're not going to disappear. Gluezilla is going to go down in MN history - can you imagine doing an AS on the word 'gluezilla' in years to come?

I think I would have to respond with:

Since you don't seem to be understanding subtly here goes:

Sending save the date cards to 20 people who you then don't invite to the wedding is the height of rudeness. You have pissed 20 people off with your bridezilla actions and this is why I will not be decorating your venue. Personally I don't give a shiny shit what your venue looks like because you haven't invited me to the wedding.

Now FUCK OFF.

I'd be tempted to reply saying that there is no way you'll be changing your mind so that she can get on with finding some other mug one else before it's too late.

It might be tempting to let it slide but I think you might get the blame if GZ is still deluding herself that you'll change your mind and things don't get done on the day.

I really don't get the decorating. We had freesias on the tables and that was it. The last thing any bride should want is to be camouflaged amongst the gardenias

No offence intended, Tidy, but wouldn't any sort of decoration make it look like a school disco, or Hallowe'en party?!

I beginning to think you should go back to my original idea.

Say you have changed your mind. Then late the night before you are due to do it text to say something come up and you can't make it. Then turn off phone for 24hours.

I'm thinking that she only wants you to do it is because you live in the town she getting married in and no other reason.

These threads are the 1,001 Nights! Each post might contain The Killer Answer, so Tidy daren't end it all with a weak answer, and keeps waiting...

Meanwhile, we are spinning fantasies so Tidy won't kill us the saga in her turn.

Renter - it depends on the venue, I guess. A friend of mine got married in the local village hall, we had access to it the night before and on the day of the wedding to make it look more attractive than a plain hall! Streamers in "her" colours, lots of foliage around the walls, laying the trestle tables with cloths and putting flower arrangements on it were the main things we did.

Again - depending on the venue, chances are that Tidy would have been expected to "help" with decorating the venue on the day prior to the ceremony.

And of course, what no one's even thought about is the fact that, if Tidy had agreed to decorate the venue, wouldn't she also have been expected to clear it all up again afterwards as well??

clam, what a fantastic "tale" to add to our Arabian Nights collection (a.k.a. the Sylvanian Frights )!

I'm betting you will get another e-mail in a few days, Tidy, as Gluezilla gets more desperate and to see if you have changed your mind. I wouldn't reply to Gluesister's e-mail - let them sweat.

Arf @ bostikbride

Blatherskite Surely it doesn't matter if TidyDancer gets the blame or not? She's already said no, and why, and no again: if they want to continue to hold her to it, they're stupid.

Much as I would like the saga to run and run

Didn't the op say she didn't want GZ's sister to think she was not helping out of spite though?

Wow! Just been catching up on threads 2 and 3.

Personally I wouldn't reply even if you get anymore responses. You have laid out your feelings pretty clearly and the bride doesn't seem to care about your feelings so what else is there to say?