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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

to be fed up of balls in my garden from next door?

234 replies

nomoreballs · 31/07/2013 19:41

Nearly everyday at least one ball gets thrown over the fence. The record was 5 in one day! I used to pick them up each time and throw them back but I am getting annoyed by it. If the kids are in the garden when I throw them back they never say thanks.

I had plans to get a greenhouse before they moved in but it's not worth even considering.

A few days ago I gave up throwing them back. I counted 4 balls in my garden this morning (plus one more that my dog was chewing on.)

Neither the kids or the parents have said anything yet. AIBU?

OP posts:

DiaryOfAWimpyMum · 05/08/2013 19:06

weiss

Are you for real? Do people like you really exist?

OP I have balls in my garden all day long - I simply pass them back, it's very simple, sometimes if I'm feeling energetic I kick them back, we actually share our balls too, my DS is playing with next doors just now.

ghostspirit · 05/08/2013 19:10

summer holidays gosh balls and children playing must be causing a madness. yes adults do want to enjoy their garden but so do children. wonder if them moaning about balls going over fences ever done the same when they were a child.

babybythesea · 05/08/2013 19:13

It's been about 90 years since my granddad was a child who may have kicked balls over the garden fence. I suspect he got a wallop for it if he did! He's earned the right not to have to have a child shouting at him from her trampoline to get her ball back several times a day.

Eyesunderarock · 05/08/2013 19:19

Yes, we played in the garden as children and sometimes in the street.
Being army brats, order and discipline was maintained because if the children were very challenging, or anti-social, your dad was called in for a word with his CO, and if he didn't deal with it then he was held responsible.
My dad did a month of weekend guard duties because of The Thing My Brother Did when he was 9.
When I was a bratling in Yorkshire, I was in a mining town and all the miners had fabulous gardens and allotments and the like. Break and smash their pride and joy, and they'd have skelpt your bum.
But that was the 60s for you, a village raising a child and all that.

ghostspirit · 05/08/2013 19:21

i don't think children should get a wallop for their ball going over the fence :/ although the child jumping on the trampoline and shouting for her ball back is also not ok. But it child's mind she just wants her ball back. i doubt that a child would think oh i think i will annoy the elderly people next door.

in general terms works both ways child can't play in their garden because next door/adults are having tea in their garden. and the adults cant have their quite time because the child wants to play

Nanny0gg · 05/08/2013 19:23

So let me get this straight - because some of you don't mind being pestered for balls to be returned, don't care about valuable plants being damaged/destroyed, haven't got an expensive greenhouse/conservatory and are happy for balls to hit pets/DC/yourselves, the posters that do object are BU.

Yes?

Eyesunderarock · 05/08/2013 19:25

Correct Nanny Ogg.

Nanny0gg · 05/08/2013 20:37

Just so's we're clear Eyesunderarock, Just so's we're clear

Eyesunderarock · 05/08/2013 21:24

I wanted your NN you know, she's my favourite character by far from DW. I was given Nanny Ogg's Cookbook a few years back and it has cheered me through many a gloomy winter.

Nanny0gg · 06/08/2013 00:05

Sorry I got there first!

My favourite character is Sam Vimes, but I didn't think it suited. So I went for my next favourites and as I am a Nanny (rather than a Granny) I went with this name.

FourGates · 06/08/2013 08:59

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NewNameForNewTerm · 06/08/2013 09:08

I eventually chuck back any that come my way. But if I don't notice then and my dog gets them too bad if he destroys them. What I do get annoyed at is the neighbour who expected me to replace the expensive ball that came over and my dog punctured. If it is in his garden how can he not think it is one of his balls. I don't feel I am liable for the damage to something that comes over a 6'+ fence on to my property. Is that unreasonable?

Eyesunderarock · 06/08/2013 09:11

No, I reckon that a few consumed balls with help them improve and refine their skills to avoid constant replacement.

LackingEnergy · 06/08/2013 09:13

Not unreasonable at all New bloody cheeky of the neighbours though

LaurieFairyCake · 06/08/2013 09:15

It's not ok for you or anything you throw to come on my property. I have plants, a dog and a greenhouse.

If it damages any of those I will be claiming the cost of the damage from your parents.

I don't let my children play with balls in the garden, that's what the park is for - in our garden they can play other games.

Infringing on other people is NOT ok.

Sparklingbrook · 06/08/2013 10:45

Morning. This is about to be discussed on The Wright Stuff. What a surprise.

Sparklingbrook · 06/08/2013 10:51

Yay! nomoreballs OP got shown on screen and she got a mention.

EllesAngel · 06/08/2013 11:03

While I wouldn't deliberately smear dog poo over a ball I wouldn't be cleaning it off before handing it back either.

I find it interesting that those who thing the OP and those who agree with her are 'meanies' seem to be ignoring the damage to gardens, the inconvenience to elderly people and the danger to babies/very young children

EllesAngel · 06/08/2013 11:06

That was supposed to be a not a , that's what happens when you get distracted.

Tiredmumno1 · 06/08/2013 11:57

Your famous nomoreballs

LackingEnergy · 06/08/2013 14:23

The Wright Stuff was a bit shite. A quick 1-2 mins for each person to say what they would do which was return the ball. Yep they would stop what they were doing and return the ball however many times a day the fools, they'll never get anything done . They either had no garden, never experienced the problem or have children who cause the problem.

Will stick to what I've been doing thanks, 6 balls came over today. They will be returned on sunday. The one that hit ds may have met a untimely fate but it entertained the dogs and entertained dogs make ds happy

LackingEnergy · 06/08/2013 14:24

was at the guy who said he lifted his dc over the neighours fence to get their ball back

Original poster

nomoreballs · 06/08/2013 14:45

Woo Hoo! I missed it this morning so am watching it online now.

I collected all 7 balls last night and chucked them back. 2 have returned this morning and I may chuck them back later if I go to the end of the garden. It did annoy me that one hit the rabbit run and scared her as she is a new rescue and still nervous.

I would never damage or rub the balls in dog poop but I won't run out to throw them back for children who won't even say thanks.

OP posts:

Rhino71 · 06/08/2013 15:38

224 posts have been summed up perfectly by one from nonoreballs. If you are in the garden then throw it back. If you are not then don't rush out to do so. Simple.

Sparklingbrook · 06/08/2013 16:02

And Matthew Wright researchers are cheeky buggers Rhino.

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